Ex asking us to pay half of holiday

[StormBaby]

AIBU in thinking this is the cheekiest thing you've ever heard? We take all the kids in our blended family on holiday. I personally have spent a lot of money on this in the last five years as I'm the main earner. Not a problem at all. Now DHs ex and her new DH wants to take the whole family away on a very expensive long haul holiday, and thinks we will be paying half. I have never heard of anything so ridiculous. I said I'd write her out an invoice for the ones we've had already in that case. And the two we are planning this year. 🤣

Bizarre! How many children are there and who do they belong to?

When my ex took our dd on holiday he would never have dreamed of expecting me to pay towards it! I never even thought about asking him for money when we took her away!

She is a cheeky fucker of the highest order and I hope you tell her in no uncertain terms to do one.

You mean to say you didn’t jump at this amazing opportunity OP? How could you bear to pass it up?

@fedup21 there are three that DH would be expected to pay for. We have 8 in total between us but not all bios, so no actual responsibility for a few, and yes, I also paid to take those on holiday and didn't ask for money then either. I just find it incomprehensible to do so. What a cheek!

Ha ha funniest thread of the week op...
Just send a laughing emoji face back...

Their choice to book a holiday their responsibility to pay.

Even my ex BIL and his new wife who have done some really shitty things re: his children has never pulled this one.

Write out the invoice complete with bank details so they can transfer what they no doubt heavily owe you if that is their game.

Tell her to eff right off - how she would even think you'd consider this is completely beyond me!

I would genuinely love to see her response if you offer to invoice her for hols you've already paid for. You could always offer to be the bigger person and call it even, even though you've spent a lot more. Cheeky mare!!

Has any other holiday ever been split?

I can't think why she'd ask now after 5 years ...

Of course it's not you dh's responsibility to pay for his kids to go on a holiday with their dm and family

How on earth have they phrased this "request"?

I'm just in a head spin of thinking how they could have possibly phrased the question whilst failing to realise how ridiculous it was?

Does your DH's Ex have form for this type of fuckery or does it look like it's coming from her new DH (especially if he's the main breadwinner i.e he doesn't want to pay for her children).

I hope you told her to fuck off. What a CF!

How did she respond when you told her you'd invoice her for all the holidays you've already taken the kids on?

Neither of them work. 🙄 I'm not sure they ever have

So basically a long haul holiday they cannot afford and expect you to subsidise....nice....

If they don't work, how can they afford this holiday even if you did pay half?

My ex used to go halves on school trips/residentials but a family holiday? 🙄

What did she respond to the invoice offer? Love it!

What have they don’t in the past about holidays or have they not had any?
I can understand if it was a school residential but a family holiday?!
Also what are they asking you to pay half of - the whole holiday or just the kids cost? Not that it matters coz either way it would be a no.

OP can you please just confirm for us that DH has said he will NOT be paying for the holiday????

Have they already booked it?

So will your kids not be going?

Dh obviously said no chance. We really struggle to manage as it is as we get very little support and DH is disabled, no way am I paying for them. We've paid for half of school trips before but that's fine.