Ex asking us to pay half of holiday

[StormBaby]

AIBU in thinking this is the cheekiest thing you've ever heard? We take all the kids in our blended family on holiday. I personally have spent a lot of money on this in the last five years as I'm the main earner. Not a problem at all. Now DHs ex and her new DH wants to take the whole family away on a very expensive long haul holiday, and thinks we will be paying half. I have never heard of anything so ridiculous. I said I'd write her out an invoice for the ones we've had already in that case. And the two we are planning this year. 🤣

I’m just 🤣🤣 here the CF

Is she just asking for half of the cost of the 3 kids that are his? Not for half the cost of the whole holiday?

Wait you pay and take kids that aren’t yours but the ex-wife’s on holiday? But she expects you to pay for the 3 kids that are your DHs? That’s even more CF!

@lowlandLucky

We just had that one!

I don't know what planet she lives on.

Partner's ex is Pregnant to new boyfriend. New boyfriend is married to someone else and is from a culture that doesn't accept divorce, so is not leaving wife. Partner's ex has just found out that she can't get any extra benefits for child no 3 so is expecting my partner to pay for someone else's kid.

What are the circs? Is it a money thing?

I know we cannot afford to go on holiday with the step kids. 2 adults and four children doubles the costs. Two rooms, two cars etc.

So we don't go. If ex were to offer a contribution to their costs it would make it affordable and we would happily all go.

Blended holidays are all well and good if you have the money. If you don't or are on a budget your choice is never go on holiday, go with one set of kids at a time so the others miss out, or perhaps ask for a contribution, especially if it's a "nice" holiday that costs a bit more.

Have to say though, when ex divorced DH she asked the judge in the financial hearing to write into the agreement that DH pay for her and the kids one foreign holiday per year.

My kids didn't have a holiday abroad until their teens as we couldn't afford it. Step DC went on two a year.

Tell them to start a “go fund me” page if they’re looking for donations.

@IndecentFeminist, obviously only for his kids, but why should he? She hasn't paid for our holidays when I took 5 of hers?! If they want foreign holidays maybe they could think about getting jobs?

@CakeandCustard28, yep, exactly that.

The CFs of 2020 are fair stacking up!!
My DPs ex who he pays way over the recommended maintenance and literally half of every sock, shoe, trip etc has demanded more ££ yet has cut her work hours and is off on a long haul holiday!!

@ALHanes2 I'm cracking up at that

I'm confused why is your husband going on holiday with his ex.
Or isit your ex husband wants to take kids away but cant afford it and wants some money if that's case then simple they dont go

I'm so confused. Do YOU not have any children of your own OP? So 3 of them are DHs and his ex wife's and the other 5 are hers with someone else but your DH has taken them on as his own?

She's a CF anyway though

God loves a trier!

Yeah I agree it is a bit cheeky, but not the cheekiest thing I have ever heard, which is why I wondered if I had missed something. From the OP it was a little ambiguous so I wondered if some thought she was asking for half the cost of the holiday to be paid.

I had this my DH's ex . She wanted
Me, dh, their daughter ,dh ex and her dh to go on an all inclusive holiday and we pay half each for their dd she could afford to pay for her and her dh . but not all for her dd
We didn't go

Absolutly CF
And for all those saying it isn't- you blatantly ask your ex to pay for your holidays too!!
CF at its highest! Tell her to do one!

Has anyone at all on the thread said it isn't cheeky?

How is she taking umpteen kids on holiday if she doesn't work?

The thought of taking 8 kids on holiday, is making me break out into a sweat!

Chair. Whip. Three well-trained border collies.

Piece of cake.

@SchadenfreudePersonified

You’d need more than a piece of cake, definitely a whole cake at the very least - and a bottle of gin!

I won't lie and say it makes for a peaceful holiday 😂

stirchwitch

It would be good to reply with
I think it's best we each pay for the holidays we take them on otherwise it's going to be a pain with you paying half for the holiday we take then on and us paying for half of the holiday you take them on. It's easier for us to pay for ours and you to pay for yours.

When it's written out like that she'll have trouble saying oh no, you still pay everything for your holiday, you just have to pay towards ours too without looking like a huge twat

When I took my 2 to Florida their dad gave them a bit of money in american dollars. A nice gesture but he certainly wasn't responsible for paying anything towards a holiday I had chosen to pay for. So I paid about 5 thousand for the holiday and he gave them about £100 spending money.
When he takes them on holiday I dig out all their summer clothes, sun lotion, flip flops etc so he doesnt have to buy it all again but I dont give him money towards his holiday. That would be weird

Wow what a CF! I bet it costs a fortune taking 8 away!

For the pp asking about the blended family situation I would guess that eg OP has 3 of her own kids (whether with her DH or with a previous partner), her DH has 3 kids with his ex wife and then the other 2 are perhaps her DH's former step kids that his ex had with someone else or something similar.

If she wants them to have a holiday and wants him to pay then he should be the one choosing the holiday and the one taking them on holiday not her.