AIBU to not let a random child walk on my garden wall?

[CockysGirl]

Just got in from work and was parking on my drive and a grandparent with a small child (2-3 years old) is lifting them up so that they can walk along my garden wall. They see me standing watching and say "DGC wants to walk on your wall, you don't mind do you?" So I replied, "I'd rather they didn't, it is a tall wall with lots of rose bushes next to it so they may get hurt and anyway, it is my private property" So the grandparent glared at me and huffed loudly and said "the nasty lady won't let you walk on her wall" and proceeded to make a big fuss about lifting DGC off the wall again! AIBU to not want kids walking on my garden wall?

@jellycatspyjamas sigh. Not going to derail this thread further by pointing our your inability to read and understand my posts.

Find it difficult to picture a grandparent lifting a toddler onto a 4ft high wall!

The "and anyway it is my private property" was un-necessary.

But the grandparents reaction was wrong to call you a nasty lady.

I wouldn't begrudge a small child walking on my front wall, safety would be my only concern. I have a dry stone wall, that I specifically tested walking along it myself after we built it.... !

@ptumbi Yes, my wall is 4ft high, it then goes down to about 3.5ft as we are on a hill. At first i thought the grandparent was just lifting the child but then realised they were hoisting them onto my wall! Looking at it now though they wouldn't have got all the way along it as the rose bushes go over the top of the wall about half way down! Just seemed such an odd wall to pick, not seen anyone try and climb on it before - other than the adult rose thiefs!

What happened to 'If it's not yours, leave it alone', or 'If it's not yours, don't touch it'
Aren't people taught that any more?

I totally agree.

I loved walking on walls when I was little (strange how that seems to be such a universally exciting thing for young children). My mum encouraged me, but wouldn't have dreamed of allowing me to walk on somebody's private wall.
i did the same with dd when she was little. It's a wall at the end of someone's garden? It's not yours so you don't walk on it. It's a public wall? Great, I'll hold your hand to help you balance.

Couldn't get worked up about this and am really surprised how many people care.

Well aren't you a treat. YABU. A 2 year old walking on your wall? Get a grip. You sound like a right misery guts.

I'm notoriously grinch like but even I wouldn't be much bothered about this.

Now the adult rose thieves are a whole other thing

I'm notoriously grinch like but even I wouldn't be much bothered about this.

Now the adult rose thieves are a whole other thing

they only asked because you happened to be there. your precious wall will be walked on dozens of times a day when you aren't looking. you can't police it 24/7 so not really fair to police it for that one minute. if you really don't want to bring pleasure to the hearts if passing kids, install spikes along the top of the wall.

they only asked because you happened to be there. your precious wall will be walked on dozens of times a day when you aren't looking. you can't police it 24/7 so not really fair to police it for that one minute. if you really don't want to bring pleasure to the hearts if passing kids, install spikes along the top of the wall.

they only asked because you happened to be there. your precious wall will be walked on dozens of times a day when you aren't looking. you can't police it 24/7 so not really fair to police it for that one minute. if you really don't want to bring pleasure to the hearts if passing kids, install spikes along the top of the wall.

Are you one of those people who complain that kids these days don’t get out enough and don’t play out like you used to do??

For sure I would complain about someone walking on my private wall, then immediately feel bad as I stopped their only way to get out of the house and get some fresh air. What a silly over-reaction to a perfectly normal request.

Where does it end, are you OK with random children playing in your front garden? You back garden?

How can anyone object to normal polite behaviour of if it isn't yours leave it alone unless you've asked and been given permission.

I don't care if your precious child/grandchild likes wall walking, don't do it on my wall

I'm notoriously grinch like but even I wouldn't be much bothered about this.

Now the adult rose thieves are a whole other thing

I'm notoriously grinch like but even I wouldn't be much bothered about this.

Now the adult rose thieves are a whole other thing

they only asked because you happened to be there. your precious wall will be walked on dozens of times a day when you aren't looking. you can't police it 24/7 so not really fair to police it for that one minute. if you really don't want to bring pleasure to the hearts if passing kids, install spikes along the top of the wall.

I'm notoriously grinch like but even I wouldn't be much bothered about this.

Now the adult rose thieves are a whole other thing

It has honestly never occured to me that someone might object to 4yo ds2 walking along their wall on our way to kindergarten every morning. We usually get smiles from anyone who sees him trying to balance (while holding my hand). Maybe though there's someone glaring furiously at us from behind a curtain.
I've just remembered that ddog1 used to walk along lowish walls too - she'd hop up automatically as we walked along, much like a cat would (though ddog was on lead). I always thought it was rather sweet.

they only asked because you happened to be there. your precious wall will be walked on dozens of times a day when you aren't looking. you can't police it 24/7 so not really fair to police it for that one minute. if you really don't want to bring pleasure to the hearts if passing kids, install spikes along the top of the wall.

I'm notoriously grinch like but even I wouldn't be much bothered about this.

Now the adult rose thieves are a whole other thing

YANBU
The GPs were in the wrong
and rude with it

I own many things that kids and adults would enjoy playing with
However, only those I invite are allowed to do so
I do not believe in a system of common property / communism
They should walk on their own wall, or find a publicly owned one.

I would also not take even the tiny risk of being sued were there to be an accident

• I don't take any risk of months of aggro and thousands in legal fees when there is no benefit to me. If a child slipped suddenly, their hand might easily slip out of their GP / parent's hand and then they crash down on the ground

Yanbu. I've no slabs at all on the top of my wall now thanks to countless kids walking on them. Can't believe how many people think it's fine and dandy to be honest.

I don’t want little kids walking on my wall, bigger kids sitting on it or even fully grown adults leaving their dogs poo bags on it.

My wall is about 3.5 ft tall and acts as a retaining wall for a large flower bed. The flower bed is full of rose bushes and at this time of year my daffodils are coming through and in summer my dahlias will be in their place. I don’t want little kids walking along plucking off the heads of the pretty flowers and then when I tell the parent to remove them to be glared at and told it is only one and little Olivia loves flowers.

Let them walk along your own wall and pick your flowers and leave mine alone.

Yes. You are. X

and owners may let their dogs / kids crap on my garden when I'm not watching,
but when I am watching I stop them

Same with buggering about on a wall, I'd stop it if I saw them, regardless of how "unfair" it is that I don't see every person who does this

If can now see why you said no if it's for safety reasons. X