AIBU to not let a random child walk on my garden wall?

[CockysGirl]

Just got in from work and was parking on my drive and a grandparent with a small child (2-3 years old) is lifting them up so that they can walk along my garden wall. They see me standing watching and say "DGC wants to walk on your wall, you don't mind do you?" So I replied, "I'd rather they didn't, it is a tall wall with lots of rose bushes next to it so they may get hurt and anyway, it is my private property" So the grandparent glared at me and huffed loudly and said "the nasty lady won't let you walk on her wall" and proceeded to make a big fuss about lifting DGC off the wall again! AIBU to not want kids walking on my garden wall?

It was me who commented on sitting. If anyone wants to sit on my wall they can crack on. No skin off my nose.

YABVU.
I can't believe anybody would object to a toddler walking along their wall for mere seconds. When we lived in out first house, we had groups of kids aged from 7 to about 12 climbing all over the wall that ajoined the back of the house and dropping over the side into out our property. I hated it and use to go out and regularly tell them to go. The difference is therse were older, unsupervised children being noisy nuisances for extended periods of time and hey were also trespassing. A passing toddler with an adult, no problem.

What is the difference? A 10 year old climbing on a wall is a child who 8 years ago was taught by their doting granny that other people’s property was perfectly fine to use for your own entertainment, and if anyone objected, you’d just call them a nasty old bag and go and misuse somebody else’s property instead

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Yanbu!

We have a wall out front it's only about 2ft but a family a couple of doors up seem to think it's purely there for their childrens entertainment. It was re pointed not so long back and they still were all over it with it obvious it had been worked on. I wouldnt mind so much if they didnt jump on and off into my garden which sends the dog crackers and at Christmas damaged some of my decorations but they will stop and allow a good few minutes playtime on it. They have the same wall themselves so walk the 10ft and play on your own!!

The dear lady who stops and sits for a rest is welcome any time.

I'm 5'6" and have grandchildren. Even if I was holding a hand there is no way I could guarantee or feel confident in catching a 2 year old child if they fell suddenly from a wall more than two thirds my height, and let's face it toddlers do tumble. YANBU to object to walking on your wall. I have held the hand of a toddler on a low wall, I certainly wouldn't encourage a child to climb onto someone's garden wall either.

@74NewStreet, well said.

Stopping a two year old walking on your garden wall?! I think that’s the epitome of small minded nastiness.
Why not concrete in shards of glass? That’ll teach those toddlers and grannies.
Possessively policing a few feet of garden wall is not much of a life.

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And I think you’re the epitome of entitled cheeky fuckerness.
You do want you want with your wall.
Don’t tell other people what they should allow on THEIR property.

74 absolutely. And it will be karma when all the idiots on here moaning at the OP have their property destroyed by teenagers who have never been taught to leave things alone which don’t belong to them.

one why on earth should she put a sign up?
Do you put signs over every piece of your personal property telling people not to touch it? If they are too stupid to realise that’s it not theirs and they should leave it alone then they shouldn’t be let out alone.

What is the difference? A 10 year old climbing on a wall is a child who 8 years ago was taught by their doting granny that other people’s property was perfectly fine to use for your own entertainment, and if anyone objected, you’d just call them a nasty old bag and go and misuse somebody else’s property instead.

That’s just more whatabboutery though to justify the unpleasant position the OP had taken.

All reasonable people understand that different standards of behaviour are expected at different ages and teach their children accordingly.

Can’t believe this thread is still going.
If it’s not yours then you don’t have a right to use it, abuse it, touch it, take it or bloody climb on it. There is no debate or discussion to be had.
If others are ok with their walls being climbed on, they have the right to take that position but not impose it on others.

Batshittery abounds on this thread

@HillAreas - totally agree with what you say

YANBU at all. In fact, I live next to a school and lots of kids would run down and run along my wall - eventually cost me a fortune to have it repaired. Their parents would even let them run through my garden - I definitely wouldn't let me kids walk on other people's walls - it's so rude.

A lot of entitled parents on this thread. I live near a school and I get this kind of attitude every day. Someone had actually tied their dog to my gate last week whilst they walked their child up the school path, presumably because dogs aren’t allowed on school grounds. She couldn’t understand why I had words with her about it. No, it wouldn’t probably damage my gate, but where do you draw the line? Best to make it clear you do not want any part of your property using by strangers, and then there are no blurred lines.

I don't let my kids walk on people's walls or garden and tell them it's not ok to walk on other people's things. The walls outside our shops on the green they can climb but not private walls. It's just good manners.

Up until a couple of years ago I would if said YABU. My kids loved walking in wall when they were little. However In laws wall collapsed while a child was walking in it, it had at some point become weak and no one realised. Child hurt themselves nothing major but parent of child did have a go at fil for having an unsafe wall.