To think 4 year olds are fucking hard work

[HerRoyalFattyness]

Sometimes.

Well. Mine is.

DS1 is 11 and shares a room with DS2 (PITA 4yo)

DS1 got a Lego millennium falcon for Christmas.
He stored it safely in my room as it was too big for the shelves he has over his bunk bed (which is where he usually keeps things he doesn't want his brother to get)

DS2 tonight has decided to sneak into my room, carry the falcon back to their room and destroy it.
Now I know he's only 4 and just wanted to play. I know he didn't mean to break it.

But he did.
And now I've knelt down to help DS1 clear up the debris and knelt on a piece of fucking Lego and cut my knee

DS1 is completely not bothered by this and just said poor Chewie lost Han all over again because Han solo was in half

But argh. I'll be having words tomorrow. He knows he's not meant to be in my room without me. He knows he's not meant to get out of bloody bed unless he needs a wee or something.

I'm not looking forward to it. He can throw.a right tantrum when he wants.

So AIBU to think he's a PITA?

I honestly feel like a shit mum for feeling this way sometimes.

Yes OP we really do! 

@Mittens030869 I do! You've gotta laugh haven't you! 😂😂

Mine just got worse from 4 onwards. I think and hope 7 was the pinacle of hideousness.

He's 8 and still talks in a baby voice sometimes (though I read on here that it can mean they want a hug but dont know how to express it - so I actually told DS that and mostly he now comes up to me and asks for a hug having just screamed and cried for whatever reason ).

The worst behaviour at the moment is deliberately winding his younger brother up. We stamp on it asap but still I get my 5 year old in tears and DS1 smugly and vehemently telling me he didnt do anything. So now I have to keep an eye on them more - not to keep them safe like toddlers but to stop DS1 being mean to DS2.

I'm back. With another tale of DS2.

Last night I tuck him into bed
He gives me a lovely cuddle, tells me he loves.me. all is good.

Then I hear a noise and go to investigate. I get to the top of the stairs where the bathroom is and hear water draining and the shower curtain being pulled.
As I walk in, there are shampoo bottles etc all in my sink with water draining, and I pulled the shower curtain back to find DS2 crouched down hidden in the bath

At least he had the sense to hide.

Mine is just a blimingnightmare.com....he was lovely until 3.5 now bugrug comes to mind hellllllpppp x

Kab
Yeah, mines been drawing on the walls. When I asked him about it he said "but I didn't draw. I did it with a penny"
"Yeah, but you still made marks in the wall. It doesn't matter what you used"

Honestly at this point I feel like banging my head against the wall!

I used to fantasise sometimes about being sent to prison.
Solitary confinement obviously. 24 hours a day, locked in my own space, with no-one demanding snacks, or dinner, or snacks after dinner (because dinner was 15 minutes ago and now they are hungry again).
No-one shouting “Mummy, I’m doing a poo.” Or taking ages to do something but then bursting into tears because I didn’t comply with their request 30 seconds before they even asked me. (“Now” isn’t swift enough... I need to respond quicker than immediately).
No-one playing happily while I get a billion and one things done but then appearing and demanding my full attention as soon I sit down to read - how do they know?
And the chance to use the toilet by myself in peace.
How bad is the crime I’d have to commit, do you think, to get this respite?
My youngest is now 6. Most of what you describe at 4 hasn’t improved. She’s just improved her vocabulary to answer me back more fluently.
My eldest, at 10, is a dream. And always has been. But if DD2 had been first, she’d have been an only....

And yes, the complete disarming and hitting you in a weak spot.
Mummy, can I tell you a very special secret? I love you more than I love Father Christmas. Even that much.

Kid knows how to save herself from abandonment on the roadside.

What. A. Week.

It's frowned upon to sell your children to the circus isn't it?

Bath time in particular has degenerated into total chaos. She doesn't do it to my husband, she's a little angel at bath time for Daddy, so I've delegated baths to him. Mummy doesn't have the patience anymore.

It's weeks like this that mummy really regrets giving up smoking all those years ago, sure it's better for my 'health' and it's disgusting but oh the sweet, sweet solace of a cigarette, ALONE. Bliss it would be. Bliss.

And yes, the complete disarming and hitting you in a weak spot.

God yes. DD has just come up to me and declared that I'm her best friend, I'm cute and she loves me. Little monster best had! 😂

DS told DH that he wanted to get me a valentines card because I'm the girl he loves the most.

I didn't know this. But I got the card today.

And now I can't be mad at him for being an absolute twat yesterday.

And now I'm worried that this card is going to make me forget everything because now I genuinely believe he is perfection personified

ddraigygoch
It's a trap! Don't fall for it!

4 year olds are feral fuckers

Absolutely brutal.

My DD is 5 and is a nightmare. She doesn't stop talking and is loud with it. Everything is a battle with her my 2 year old isn't much better either. He is a not so tiny little dictator.

Why oh why do they have to scream and cry?
I get it kid, it's sad that you can't play Xbox all night. But mummy needs a break! Piss off to bed.

Mine has a birdie friend badge that sees ghosts. I win.

plom birdie friend is freaky and I'd have burnt it long before now

Yabu four year olds are gorgeous. I'd do anything at all to have another four year old as all mine are lovely (my girls at rainbows) and my son when he was four was an absolute dream.

Maybe just explain to him he's upset his brother and you by not following instructions and he needs to do something to make it better. So he could put away his brothers laundry this week, or make a sorry present, or learn a song for him.

Do they usually play together quite well? Maybe letting him play with the Lego and having his own special sets will help.

rainbowsandgiggles
He has his own Lego.
He's just a little shit when he wants to be

Don't get me wrong, he's lovely at other times. Like when he gave me a valentine's card today and told me it's because I'm the bestest and he loves me circles (circles because they go round and round and never stop)

But he's just an arsehole sometimes.

Doesnt get any better! My little jerkface is 6 and fuck me hes annoying!! I fantasise about getting in the car and driving away never to return...
Hes most pita thing to do is to wind me up when trying to get everyone ready in mornings. Am yelling from 8am to get fucking dressed. Why oh why will they not just fucking get dressed when asked the first time ??