To think 4 year olds are fucking hard work

[HerRoyalFattyness]

Sometimes.

Well. Mine is.

DS1 is 11 and shares a room with DS2 (PITA 4yo)

DS1 got a Lego millennium falcon for Christmas.
He stored it safely in my room as it was too big for the shelves he has over his bunk bed (which is where he usually keeps things he doesn't want his brother to get)

DS2 tonight has decided to sneak into my room, carry the falcon back to their room and destroy it.
Now I know he's only 4 and just wanted to play. I know he didn't mean to break it.

But he did.
And now I've knelt down to help DS1 clear up the debris and knelt on a piece of fucking Lego and cut my knee

DS1 is completely not bothered by this and just said poor Chewie lost Han all over again because Han solo was in half

But argh. I'll be having words tomorrow. He knows he's not meant to be in my room without me. He knows he's not meant to get out of bloody bed unless he needs a wee or something.

I'm not looking forward to it. He can throw.a right tantrum when he wants.

So AIBU to think he's a PITA?

I honestly feel like a shit mum for feeling this way sometimes.

Oh Jesus. I have a threenager and I’ve been looking forward to it getting easier at 4

YANBU. I was beginning to think it was just me tbh.
I used to work in a nursery with 3 and 4 year olds but one of my own is a completely different thing. He is WILD.

Mine goes through phases of being angelic and phases of being a little bugger. Sometimes within the space of 10 minutes It’s always exciting to see which DS I’m going to get at any given moment!

He can also be alarmingly cunning. Today we went to a local garden centre which has, among other delights, a big greenhouse bit with automatic doors at one end. Today he decided they were the best thing ever. Ok fine, we were the only people in there so I let him go in and out a few times, then said ‘ok, last time’, then off we went. Got to the far end, and he eyed up a display of spring flowers and said ‘Want to go and see the flowers, Mummy?’ (He has a speech delay as well, although he’s catching up), sidled past them then took off for the doors cackling, having got me to within his ‘safe’ distance (he won’t stray too far from me, generally). I was both impressed and mildly annoyed by this small piece of deviousness

Yup, I've got one of them. MASSIVE PITA

Just remember - although frowned upon, it's not illegal to call your kid an arsehole

AlbusSeverusMalfoy

You're also allowed to shout what the fuck... Although it's generally more acceptable if you mutter it under your breath.

That's where I've been going wrong - I say it out loud

It's Thursday.
It's exes day to pick up the kids from school.
Today he has to collect DS2 at 3:10, DD at 4 after yoga and DS1 at 4:30 after rugby.

Only... He got to school and sent me this.

Fucking 4 year olds. I swear this kid will be the death of me.

Fuck me. He stole sweets, said another kid told him to do it, so they both got in trouble. Then he got caught laughing about getting the other kid in trouble.

He then threw himself around and didn't listen and basically acted like a hooligan and made it too dangerous for them to carry on the PE lesson.

Reminds me of when I was called into primary school once as my beautiful dd aged six was selling lucky dips in the playground.....only 2p a go you either got a piece of paper saying sorry you were unlucky or a penny sweet.😀no idea where she got that idea from.

karma yeah but at least she wasn't stealing the bloody sweets.

And now he's got the cheek to cry because I'm cross with him!

He's now screaming at me that he hates this house, he hates his clothes, he hates food, he hates "ebbyone"

My delightful 4 year old spits at me from the back of the car he can hit the windscreen. He also screams loudly in temper. But apparently he's a delightful kind and helpful boy at nursery. Wtf. I hope this phase ends soon. It's a f*cking nightmare.

DD went through a spitting phase. I hate spitting. It infuriates me!

Oh my christ !! (As Pamelaa would say) I've only just caught up with this thread... I've been howling with laughter at some of the stories... gosh I can relate to so many of them !! To the poster who mentioned the baby voice my 4yro DS does this on the days he comes home from nursery, no idea why... he just does !!! It really really grates on me.... as does the answer to everything from my 6yro.
Oh gosh @HerRoyalFattyness .... I'm so so sorry for laughing at your posts about your DS but they have cheered me up after a particularly stressful day - and for once not child related !!! Looking forward to reading some more stories

DS is now calmed down.
He loves me again and he is going to say sorry to his teachers tomorrow.

DD1 started having the most amazing meltdowns when she was about 4.5. She'd been the world's most reasonable child until then. Now she screams and uglycries like she's being tortured just because she's not getting a present on someone else's birthday...

We took DD to soft play today. I only had to haul her out of the under 3's section for a sit and think twice for trying to Godzilla her away around tiny little toddlers, so that's an improvement! She really doesn't realise just how much bigger she is than 1 and 2 year olds so we have to stop her from rail roading her way in there. Not an easy task.

The rest of the day was pretty uneventful until bedtime when she proceeded to have a full on screaming hissy fit because she wanted the socks she'd taken off pulled up to her knees and then walloped DH in the eye. Fortunately she pretty much passed out the moment her head hit the pillow.

Not a bad day all things considered.

Does it get any better? Everyone keeps saying it will get easier since they were born but at 5 & 6 I find them so irritating. Yes occasionally cute but mostly infuriating.

Supernovablah
I think the general consensus is it gets better when they move out.

I could cry with relief reading this. My boy is 4 and can be the sweetest, most sensitive child or an absolute nightmare. He's defiant, cheeky, apologises with zero intent, rough with his sister, quotes my discipline back at me etc.
I'm a P1 teacher with a class of exceptionally well behaved 5 year olds who wouldn't dare behave like that. I also work in ASN with non verbal, highly challenging children to great success.
I've no idea what's happening with my guy or how I can fix it!

No!!!! Dont say that...ive a three year old whos hard work compared to when she was two. Was hoping being four would be better!

My threenager keeps stealing toys from pre-school. It wouldn't be so bad but I never realise and then she says, "Look what I have Mummy!!!" Then proceeds to empty her pockets....sigh... every day is an amnesty....

Then last weekend she stroked my face and said, "I love you too Mummy. All the world." Ffs

My three year old filled her pockets with the plastic money from the school till.

I had to walk up to the teachers the next morning and hand it back.