Pooing in the en suite!!

[MisfitNinja]

Settle an age old debate between myself and my DH:

Shitting in the en suite:

Yes or no?

I say no, as it will stink the bedroom out and he disagrees and says that it doesn't matter. If he needs to go he'll go whichever toilets closets!!

Fucking grow up!

JosefKeller - when did I object to a loo off the kitchen ??Ours is off the utility.

A loo is a loo is a loo and a room with a loo is a place to use loo. Using a loo as a loo doesn't mean people have low standards just an average outlook on life.

@JosefKeller The love of toilets in bathrooms in this country is as puzzling as the love for washing machines in kitchen
Where are you that toilets aren’t in bathrooms? I’ve stayed in homes in quite a few countries and they’ve all had toilets in the bathrooms. I don’t think it’s a ‘love’ so much as a practical necessity anyway. Same with washing machines. Many people don’t have room for anything else.
I find this fear of being in a room with a toilet and doing something other than using the toilet rather puzzling and weird, by the way...

Oh ffs!! Why are people so precious about this?
It's a TOILET! It's YOUR smell.
It would smell whichever toilet you use.
Why don't you just go back to the days people had an outside toilet?

We poo in the ensuite toilet......and horror of horrors,...we don't even have an air freshener in there!...We have a window where fresh air comes in for free!
We have an electric fan in there....No one has yet been overcome with fumes or died, or even vomited.....because we are not that delicate!

and then he has to spray VIPoo afterwards
vipoo only works if you spray the water BEFORE pooing.
Then it's a miracle worker

Your poor DH, how ridiculous.

Agree grow up.

A significant minority of the world doesn't even have clean running water or indoor toilets and here we are flushing ours with clean drinking water and still being precious about the facilities being used for their intended purpose

This x 1000

With us it’s ok if nobody in the bedroom or it’s an unexpected upgrade but not if someone’s in bed and you go in specifically for a poo

When you say "With US", I presume your DH must wee siting down, then. Either that or he's fully in charge of his own laundry....

If you think about it, pooing anywhere inside a building could be seen as disgusting. People like the convenience, though, so the standard is that a compromise is normally made that there is a door between the room with the toilet in and every other room. With this in mind, I don't really see what the difference is between one set-aside doored-off room in your house in which to lay your filthy business or another. Maybe they had the right idea when outside lavvies were the standard.

It does seem to me, though, that there must be thousands of MN households which contain children for whom constantly shouting "Poo!!!" and farting are simply the funniest things ever, a woman who likes to pretend that she never poos or farts at all - at least in the same county as anybody else - and a man who just grumbles and does what he's told.

Where are you that toilets aren’t in bathrooms?
I am currently in England, but most of the houses I have been in have separate toilets. Yes, my tiny London flat didn't have any room for a separate loo, but many houses do. Why people choose to put a loo in a bathroom is genuinely a mystery.

It's not a fear, it's a preference.

I am proud to be delicate and feel that my ensuite bathroom is not the place to poop when there are perfectly usable independent toilets in the rest of the house.

It would smell whichever toilet you use.
quite. So the smell can be limited to a separate room, away from the living and sleeping areas

absolutely unacceptable, unless it's me.

DH wouldn't dare.

aside: our en suite doesn't have a door! has never had one by the looks of the frame. we will install one when we get to it (it's our new house - it's old and neglected)

Why people choose to put a loo in a bathroom is genuinely a mystery

Well you'd better have a word with the UK housebuilding industry because it's them who are building the houses with bathrooms with toilets in them.

And with most bathrooms being too small to separate off into a washing room and a separate toilet room, the average British householder isn't going to be rushing to divide the facility up into separate rooms, whatever their preferred layout is.

Where are you that toilets aren’t in bathrooms?

You can be anywhere, some houses have separate toilets, some don't.
I don't think new builds too, as not big enough and crammed tiny areas.
Older houses were built like this, ours have always been separate latest build was 1950's.

Yes, some older houses (1930s sort of era) do have separate toilets and bathrooms, I've seen a few of these, but none of them had sinks in, so you'd have to go into the main bathroom to wash your hands anyway, which feels a bit odd. The exception, rather than the rule in the UK though.

Did anybody else think of this?

I actually think the prevailing MN attitude of being so precious and ashamed about a normal everyday bodily function is not a healthy outlook to have.

Lynn Faulds-Wood did a lot of great work in raising awareness of bowel cancer by trying to get people to stop hushing up about poo and pretending that it doesn't exist, or is dirty (well, the poo itself is dirty, but not the normal human need to do it).

She said that people were literally dying of embarrassment. Sadly, going on threads like this and the ones about the sheer terror of people actually hearing you do a poo in public (in a purpose-designed toilet cubicle, not in the middle of the street), I'm guessing there's still a lot of work to do.

The Germans don't get precious about it - their toilets have a little 'inspection shelf' for it all to fall on to (also eliminating the MN-hated splashing noise!), normalising the idea of having a quick glance that your poo looks as it should before you flush it away and then get on with your day.

If it's got a door, I don't see the issue tbh. I once went to a house that had an en-suite, but it was an archway with those little saloon doors you see in westerns. I didn't even like having a wee in there if dh was in the room.

Also, I've been in many places where there's a separate room containing a toilet only and then a bathroom with a bath/shower and sink next door. The thinking always seem to be that there's a sink right next door, so there's no need to put another one in with the toilet.

Yes, it keeps the stink away from the washing facilities and means that two people can use the rooms at the same time without sharing, BUT it also means that you then have to readjust your clothing and open two door handles with pooey hands, in order to wash them - and that's assuming that nobody is occupying the neighbouring bathroom.

X-posted with Barbara there.

'I didn't even like having a wee in there if dh was in the room.'

I assume you havent been married very long

I am constantly distressed by the number of people who have no extractor fan in their bathroom, or have one that doesn't work, or who refuse to turn it on.

Some homes unfortunately have cheap hollow doors, made of air with a thin coating of hardboard, that do not block sound. Luckily this is easily remedied by having a solid, substantial door, with a self closer, that is a good fit in the frame. Fire doors are particularly suitable and are universally available in a wide range of sizes and designs.

Healthy human poo should not smell very strong at all.

Josef I haven’t been in a house with a separate toilet in the zuK for about 30 years. I mean, some have a separate toilet as well as a bathroom, but all have toilets in the bathroom. I’m currently house hunting and last year I was viewing for a rental, so I’ve seen loads recently. All had toilets in bathrooms. It used to be more common when houses had an indoor toilet plumbed in and then later added a bathroom I think. It’s by no means common to have them separate in the UK (I’ve lived here all my life in a variety of areas and with a variety of friends).
‘Delicate’ is a really odd word to choose to describe yourself, by the way. And an even more odd thing to be proud of. I prefer to be proud of strength and resilience, I don’t want to be a frail little flower. Not that 8 think either strength or resilience are needed to be Ina room with a toilet...

I haven’t been in a house with a separate toilet in the zuK for about 30 years
We clearly don't go into the same parts of the uk, because even many friends living in flat have a separate loo.

And many people have a downstairs loo, I can't think of a time when I had to use a friend's family bathroom. I don't even know what most of my friends bathroom can look like.

‘Delicate’ is a really odd word to choose to describe yourself,
you do realise that it was in reply to another post, don't you

Not being bothered by the smell of poo doesn't make you strong or resilient either...

Sorry, I'm not going to read all 10 pages and I expect someone has mentioned it.. but if not, VIPoo is bloody amazing! Stock up!!

I actually think the prevailing MN attitude of being so precious and ashamed about a normal everyday bodily function is not a healthy outlook to have.

it's very possible to be comfortable with your own body function without feeling the need to advertise them to the world, or even your partner. I am not changing my tampons in front of anyone, anymore than I would use the toilet in front of them. It doesn't mean I am embarrassed when I need a smear test. I don't need to pee in front of my DH either. Why would I?