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To take Morning after pill or not

79 replies

Dumbanddumber20 · 01/02/2020 18:32

Name changed because I am horrifically embarrassed that I am in this position, and posting here for traffic so pls forgive .

Had sex Thursday afternoon , condom broke and DH pulled out as soon as noticed. He didn’t “cum” inside me , ejaculated a few strokes of his hand later on my stomach. I didn’t think much of it till today I checked my app and realised I’m due to ovulate today, and then I thought of Precum . I ended up talking to my two best friends over lunch about it today because thanks to my OCD it’s nagging away at me and I had popped to boots and got the 72 hour after pill (the pharmacist said my chances were very low but better safe than sorry)

Friend T insisted there is nothing to worry about as he went to “piss” before, and chances are low, (I’m cringing writing this so I do apologise) . Where as Friend N said morning after pills increase the risk of ectopic pregnancy and filled my head so much with it that I’m now sat here with the pill , my OCD raging and I don’t know what to do ...
I for mental heath reasons can not get pregnant, it’s not even something I can think about , but my brain is absolutely spinning so for gods sake can someone sensible please talk some sense to me .

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Rejectville · 01/02/2020 18:35

The morning after pill doesn’t increase the risk of ectopic, it just doesn’t prevent an ectopic ( it prevents implantation). If you really don’t want to be pregnant then take it. Better safe than sorry.

Confusion77 · 01/02/2020 18:35

I'd take it. Although, I recently had unprotected sex, realised it was the "right" time (or wrong) and took the MAP. Didn't work. It works by stopping ovulation so useless if you already have.

Voxx · 01/02/2020 18:36

The pharmacist is trained and in a much better position to advise you than your friends (who sound like twats TBH) Even if the chances of pregnancy are small, it is far better to be safe than sorry, especially if getting pregnant would be a disaster for you. Take the pill now. I wouldn’t hesitate in your position.

Original poster
Dumbanddumber20 · 01/02/2020 18:41

@Confusion77 so if I am ovulating today as according to app I am then is it as you said “useless if I already have”
@Voxx
Thinking the exact same thing about my friends at the moment too.

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Ponoka7 · 01/02/2020 18:42

If you absolutely don't want to be pregnant then take the pill.

There is a chance and you still have the chance to prevent it.

Ponoka7 · 01/02/2020 18:44

There's no evidence to show that the Map causes ectopic pregnancy.

yeraballoon · 01/02/2020 18:47

ejaculated a few strokes of his hand later on my stomach.

Weird unnecessary detail thereConfused

Take it as you don't know for sure you're ovulating today. You could ovulate tomorrow or the next day.
I don't think it increases your chances of ectopic pregnancies. Did the pharmacist give you an information sheet with it?

Not sure what your friend means by the fact he went for a 'piss' beforehand?

If you absolutely cannot get pregnant you should probably use 2 forms of protection to be on the safe side.

yeraballoon · 01/02/2020 18:49

Your app only words on a calendar system by guessing when your next period is and how long your luteal phase is. It has no idea when you actually ovulate.

beckywiththeshithair20 · 01/02/2020 18:53

I thought the map worked by stopping ovulation AND making the lining of the womb uninhabitable for a fertilised egg?
So even if you had ovulated it would still be worth taking if you don't want to get pregnant. Sorry if this is wrong information but it's what I have always thought to be the case.

bitheby · 01/02/2020 18:53

If you've ovulated then as I understand it, it won't do anything as it prevents ovulation but check with the pharmacist to be sure.

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Dumbanddumber20 · 01/02/2020 18:55

@yeraballoon I’m genuinely sorry for the unnecessary detail, I just wanted to make the whole situation clear and when I’m in this high tension state I can be too blunt .
No she didn’t, to be honest I was in and out Of the little side room within a few minutes , I just did a checklist of allergies, medication (she had to check my antidepressants) and liver trouble and if there was any chance I could already be pregnant.
If it was down to me , I’d be sterilised however my GP insists I’m too young (32), and I’ve had other side effects from other means of contraception.

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novacaneforthepain · 01/02/2020 18:56

Take the pill!!!

Herringbone31 · 01/02/2020 18:57

Take the pill

As others say. It doesn’t stop an ectopic but it won’t increase your chances of having an ectopic

Your friends don’t know what they are talking about at all!

Take the pill.

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Dumbanddumber20 · 01/02/2020 18:58

@beckywiththeshithair20 (love your username)
@bitheby
See I’ve been reading a lot online and the leaflet in the pack and that’s where the information differs . I just feel like such an idiot to be in this situation .

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SleepingStandingUp · 01/02/2020 19:01

Take the MAP op, it won't do any harm but it'll cover that marginal rism

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Dumbanddumber20 · 01/02/2020 19:02

@Herringbone31 thank you for the response it’s what I needed , one of my ocd triggers is medication and how you can’t change anything once you take it (ridiculous I know) and I am just scared (again stupid)

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Confusion77 · 01/02/2020 19:02

I'd still take it , ovulation apps aren't an exact science, you may ovulate tomorrow.

yeraballoon · 01/02/2020 19:03

@Dumbanddumber20 what other types of contraception have you tried? Someone here might be able to suggest something :)
If you absolutely can't use anything else then timing to avoid your fertile week as well as condoms is probably best.

Definitely take the pill though if a pregnancy would be a disaster.

Thanks
Iooselipssinkships · 01/02/2020 19:04

I'm far from a prude but we didn't really need to know about the hand strokes and spunky stomach.
Take the pill though.

Original poster
Dumbanddumber20 · 01/02/2020 19:15

@looselipssinkships - I have apologised already for that, and do so again to anyone I may have offended

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bitheby · 01/02/2020 19:20

If you absolutely don't want to get pregnant then take it. It won't do any harm. It just might not prevent pregnancy. But on the small off chance you do get pregnant, there will be other options.

Either way, taking it is a step towards the outcome you want rather than against it.

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Dumbanddumber20 · 01/02/2020 19:22

@yeraballoon

I’ve tried combined pill (was successful for years until accidental pregnancy which I terminated) Injection caused migraines and most recent implant which obviously worked but the mood swings and increased weight gain became too much.
I couldn’t bear to be a burden to a child, I have seen the worry of my family far too much to ever bring an innocent child into this or for them to possibly be saddled with the illness for themselves too .

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yeraballoon · 01/02/2020 19:25

I'd try the mini pill. I was on cerazette and loved it. The injection really didn't suit me either.

SleepingStandingUp · 01/02/2020 19:27

Mini pill tracker here, normal pill makes me depressed

DimplesToadfoot · 01/02/2020 19:30

I'd take it but I know without a doubt I dont want more children.

Fight for sterilisation if you're absolutely sure. I was 26, I haven't regretted it for a minute, I had to fight for it though