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To think this woman had no business being at a toddler group?

99 replies

LondonUnited · 31/01/2020 12:20

Took my baby and toddler to a local Leisure Centre group this morning - basically soft play and some gymnastics kit. Also there and sitting next to us was a mum, toddler and older child wearing the uniform of the local school.

I overheard the mum telling someone that the older child had been sick in the playground and wasn’t allowed to go to school because of the 48 hour rule. She added that her toddler ‘didn’t want to miss out’ so they had decided to come anyway! The older child then sat there looking peaky.

We’ve previously had two ambulance trips due to vomiting bugs so I may be prone to overreact but really - taking a vomity 5 year old to a toddler group? AIBU to think they should have just gone home?

OP posts:
windycuntryside · 31/01/2020 12:22

Ffs some people are beyond thick. You met one today. Wash wash wash your hands.

Mlou32 · 31/01/2020 12:33

Ambulance trips due to vomiting bugs? I'm assuming that your kid/toddler have other major issues health wise if an ambulance trip was required due to a bug therefore I can see why you have been upset by her bringing her sick kid in. She should have stayed at home. I hope you and the kids don't catch it!

M0mmyneedswine · 31/01/2020 12:36

Did the group leader ask why the child was there? If they did and knew they were sick the mum should have be asked to leave, if they didnt ask i would have told the leader what i heard and let them deal with it

Mumbassa · 31/01/2020 12:38

YANBU, my eldest 2 have been off school this week with a cold and I’ve not been able to get my youngest to toddler club as I don’t want to drag poorly children out and then infect others. She’s very selfish

Bluntness100 · 31/01/2020 12:40

Clearly she shouldn't have brought the children, but I'd try to contextualise that being blue lighted to a&e due to vomiting is very unusual so like a pp I'm assuming there is a back story there of other health issues.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 31/01/2020 12:40

That poor child - even if she decided to utterly disregard the risk of passing on a bug to other people, she must have known that all her poorly child wanted and needed was to be tucked up at home. Yes, the toddler would have been disappointed, but that's parenting - deal with it!!

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 31/01/2020 12:41

We’ve previously had two ambulance trips due to vomiting bugs

You seriously call an ambulance for an upset tummy? Apologies if there are other health issues at stake here, but that is an appalling waste of NHS resources.

Just keep washing your hands; kids get get germs from everywhere/anyone. Yes, she shouldn't have brought sickly child to a public event but there are plenty of parents who ignore the 48 rule anyway... fingers crossed for you and DC.

Drum2018 · 31/01/2020 12:42

Why was she not asked to leave? Surely the rule can apply to a toddler group as well as a school. Stupid, stupid woman bringing a sick child to a toddler group. I'd have left if she wouldn't.

Letsallscreamatthesistene · 31/01/2020 12:44

We’ve previously had two ambulance trips due to vomiting bugs

Why? As a nurse in A+E I this incredibly frustrating unless there was severe dehydration or a background illness/disorder that would make it necessary.

But YANBU, the woman should have just gone home with her sick kid with the younger child having to miss out on soft play. Thats life.

Holymolymackerel · 31/01/2020 12:46

I would have left myself or told the group leader and had them removed.

I think the woman was very unfair to the elder child. Cant believe she put her toddler ahead of the elder child's comfort.

If we all stuck to hygiene rules it would help schools, the NHS, vulnerable people, our work, business etc

Selfish.

Willow2017 · 31/01/2020 12:47

The 48hr rule should apply to all settings.
Leader should have told her to leave.
Did you tell the leader why the kid was there?

Stayawayfromitsmouth · 31/01/2020 12:47

Well of course yanbu but some people are selfish and can't think of anyone except themselves. I'd have taken my child home, asked the organiser for a refund and the reason why.

ShirleyPhallus · 31/01/2020 12:48

Another wondering why vomitty children need to be taken in an ambulance...?

JKScot4 · 31/01/2020 12:48

YABU for calling ambulances for vomiting bugs

Sweetpea84 · 31/01/2020 12:49

My DD had a vomiting bug but stopped vomiting yesterday but we’re all stuck in doors as don’t want to infect anybody. That’s very selfish of her.

Haworthia · 31/01/2020 12:49

Selfish and stupid as fuck.

hibiscuswater · 31/01/2020 12:51

She was very selfish but unless you have a good reason for ambulances to get to hospital with a vomiting bug then you are even more selfish.

TeddyIsaHe · 31/01/2020 12:58

I think 2 ambulances is worse than soft play when pesky. Unless there going to be a massive drip feed?

showmewhatyougot · 31/01/2020 13:00

It amazes me how selfish some parents can be, and it's always the ones who would 100% kick up a fuss if their precious one caught a bug off someone else!

starlight86 · 31/01/2020 13:03

Pretty sure that OP just didnt phone 999 for a vomiting bug and im sure there was another reaction.

For example i could say a virus caused an ambulance ride for my daughter when in context her temp rocketed and she had a febrile convulsion ( i know now these are quite common but at the time literally thought she had died in my arms)

So maybe dont jump on her till she explains.

Other woman with sick child was clearly being a bit of a dick

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 31/01/2020 13:04

Some children have fits if they get an infection leading to a very high temperature - that could necessitate an ambulance trip, and the root cause could be a vomiting bug.

If the vomiting/infection left the child drowsy and unrousable, that too could require emergency attention, and might mean an ambulance would be the most sensible option.

Generally vomiting would not need an ambulance, but that doesn't mean it will never require an ambulance, or that a parent must be selfish if they called one.

Nofunkingworriesmate · 31/01/2020 13:08

Ambulance for vomiting?I assume there is a serious pre existing medical condition that make vomiting life threatening otherwise you would have driven there ?

Yep bringing sick kid to soft play out of order

JosefKeller · 31/01/2020 13:10

There's a special place in hell for morons like that. Of course she should have kept her child at home

SageRosemary · 31/01/2020 13:16

YANBU re sick child at playgroup.

We had a DD who had acute V & D bug at home. I'd say she emptied out everything from inside herself within an intense 20 minutes. She looked the most unwell I have ever seen her and gave DH and myself a huge fright. I actually thought she might die. We took her to out of hours doctor, she collapsed whilst we were waiting to be seen. Doctor saw her straight away and arranged for her to be admitted immediately to Paediatric isolation room in Hospital, bypassing the A&E system. She needed to be on a drip and monitored through the night and into the afternoon of the following day. There were 2 parents there, DH drove and I held her upright in her booster seat in the back. This is not the kind of trip you could do with just one adult. If I was on my own, I'd have struggled. One car family and I don't know if we'd have managed in a taxi. Every parent makes their own judgement call. Don't be so harsh to the OP, calling an ambulance for your child is a parent's worst nightmare.

managedmis · 31/01/2020 13:17

Same here, Wtaf is up with the ambulance