To think this woman had no business being at a toddler group?

[LondonUnited]

Took my baby and toddler to a local Leisure Centre group this morning - basically soft play and some gymnastics kit. Also there and sitting next to us was a mum, toddler and older child wearing the uniform of the local school.

I overheard the mum telling someone that the older child had been sick in the playground and wasn’t allowed to go to school because of the 48 hour rule. She added that her toddler ‘didn’t want to miss out’ so they had decided to come anyway! The older child then sat there looking peaky.

We’ve previously had two ambulance trips due to vomiting bugs so I may be prone to overreact but really - taking a vomity 5 year old to a toddler group? AIBU to think they should have just gone home?

Really? You can't do online? No-one can pick up for you?

Newsflash - not everyone has someone to do this.

If someone needs something today, or even tomorrow, online shop isn’t available.

Nobody will be in serious trouble of a poorly kid is dragged round a supermarket.

Well I’m pretty sure someone said oh it doesn’t matter if I just pop to the shop! While they had coronavirus, and look where that’s got us 👀

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Vector is the perfect name, @Durgasarrow!

Presumably Vectoria, for a girl...

I’ve called an ambulance for a vomiting bug. I have a very rare illness which means I end up in ICU or resus or a funeral home. If I get one

Some people especially kids can have real dehydration issues.

Yanbu I would be mad as well. We dont have any underlying conditions but I have a phobia of vomit, and also don't want to have to take two days off work while each of my kids gets it.

I also work for a toddler group

I make it VERY CLEAR that any child who has been sick is not able to come in. Had I of overheard that. I’d of immediately asked them to leave.

We not only have me. Who can die. But we have elderly. Pregnant and very vunerable people there.

Your child does not take precedent against others

Hi Lon

Sorry my phone went crazy
London, you mention your dc2 refusing a bottle and then not waking up the next morning, did the medical staff ever mention the possibility of Ketotic Hypoglycaemia?
My daughter has this and was diagnosed after a sickness bug caused her to be blue lighted to hospital with sugar levels of 1.5. We can't let her go to bed without eating as this can lead to her becoming unconscious.
Sickness bugs for us generally mean her being hospitalised whilst she gets pumped full of fluids and stabilised. The lady today was completely selfish and your definitely not being unreasonable to be annoyed by her! Think I would have had to say something!

Nobody will be in serious trouble of a poorly kid is dragged round a supermarket.

Depends on the illness actually.

Nobody will be in serious trouble of a poorly kid is dragged round a supermarket.

Are you kidding? Are you really that dense? Someone very elderly, or immunocompromised, could easily end up extremely unwell if they catch something like noro from the supermarket! People die from noro, if they’re already unwell and vulnerable. That’s why is closed entire hospital wards at a time! What about someone like my late mother-in-law, who had months of chemotherapy - it could have been the end of her even sooner than cancer was if my father-in-law had brought it home by accident.

You might be alright, but not everyone is as lucky as you.

@MintyMabel

I would be. I would be in serious trouble if someone dragged sick people round me at a supermarket.

I would be. I would be in serious trouble if someone dragged sick people round me at a supermarket.

I expect you never go to the supermarket then? Because many people can be carrying a tummy bug without knowing it.

The amount of time you actually come into contact with other people at the supermarket is miniscule. Sickness bugs are rarely airborne and as long as you are following good hygiene yourself the chance of infection is very very low. Presumably you know that given the risk you are at.

While they had coronavirus, and look where that’s got us 👀

Don’t be ridiculous.

I try not too. I wear a face mask. I wear gloves. I do as much as I can online. But I do have to occasionally pop out.

I take the hope that adults are reasonably well informed and they don’t tend to take incredibly sick people round.

However. MN proved that the public can be incredibly stupid.

@MintyMabel

It doesn’t matter how minuscule it is. It can and does happen.

YANBU.What that woman did was plain selfish.
A mother at our playgroup once brought her school age DS along with her toddler because he was off school with chickenpox.
No prizes for guessing what happened shortly afterwards.
Yup over half the children in the playgroup were off with chickenpox😡😡

It doesn’t matter how minuscule it is. It can and does happen.

And will happen whether PP takes her poorly child to the supermarket or not, won’t it.

Are you kidding? Are you really that dense? Someone very elderly, or immunocompromised, could easily end up extremely unwell if they catch something like noro from the supermarket!

Calm down dear. No need for the histrionics.

As I said, if you as an individual follow proper hygiene, you are not at risk of some kid who will probably be nowhere near you.

Noro isn’t knocking the nation down from supermarkets, it never has. Sure keep kids off school, out of old folks homes or hospitals, that is really important, but as a mum who has had an at risk child, I can’t get worked up about poorly people in the supermarket, it’s pretty much the least risky place there is.

Mum ended up with shingles after she was in the supermarket and the mum behind her had a sickly, spotty (chicken pox infested) child with her.

Mum commiserated with the mum ‘aw the wee soul, she doesn’t look well’. When the shingles started she wasn’t so sympathetic.

Don't take your sick child to the supermarket so they can breath all over other people and the food. That's awful. Order online, most times it arrives the same day.
Also don't take them to toddler group. I feel so sorry for that poor child having to sit there feeling like shit just because mum couldn't say no to her toddler.
I'd be fuming and I don't have any underlying health issues. My daughter has been hospitalised twice when being sick due to severe dehydration so it can happen even if they are generally well.

We were in the supermarket recently and DH said ‘that kid looks really sick’ - there was a child in the trolley slumped over to one side, grey faced and clammy looking.

We later saw them after they had vomited all over the fruit and veg aisle (and their dad). Mum was there too so why didn’t one stay with the child at home or at least in the car?

That’s incredibly selfish. And she shouldn’t have been allowed in.

dehydration in very young children is no minor issue which can,as I'm sure we all know, happen due to being sick and or having diarrhoea,so for all the people caught up on the trip to hospital need to get a grip and answer her question,which wasn't.. was I wrong to follow the paramedics advice and get in the ambulance with my sick child or children.. as they clearly thought the child Ill enough to take them to hospital In response to your question OP, you are not wrong to think she should have stayed home,stupid woman. So fu**ing selfish !!

Totally with op. Kiddies are germy anyway but one with a clear and contagious bug is a definite concern. A very selfish lady, plus very uncomfortable for the older child who may still be feeling unwell.

Re getting an ambulance for a sick child, this happened to my brother several times when he was little. Any amount of vomiting would make him severely dehydrated very quickly and he'd need urgent iv fluids. Why is it mumsnetters get so hung up on the small details and detail from the original question completely?