Nappies, seriously!?

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Aibu to expect a nappy not to explode, or to expect my children not to wake up soaked through their pjs and onto their beds.... 2 children both different ages, tried so many different brands.. and I don't really want to start changing them in the middle of the night (toddler and older child)

Any advice for good tried and tested brands????

Reusable, bamboo with hemp liners with waterproof wraps. Gamechanger. Expensive at first though and lots of washing.

2yo is in size 6+ Aldi, no vest just PJs as vest was compressing the nappy and causing more leaks. I do change him again before I go to bed most nights though, only takes a couple of minutes.

Both of mine were serious night wetters as they wre refluxy, so could only lie flat without pain whilst actively feeding and would do so between midnight and 8am while I slept. I was drinking about 4 litres a day at the time and used to wake with a parched hungover feeling until I'd rehydrated but it was better than no sleep at all.

We used reusables. At their leakiest, a pair of traditional cotton terries folded together around two hemp boosters with a woollen cover (the water in the urine can evaporate through a woollen cover so the nappy dries out a bit between wees) was the best solution. It's huge though, like they are wearing a Halloween pumpkin costume! I like giant, cute cloth nappy bottoms though, so didn't see that as a disadvantage.

The Disana wool covers go up to age 4 (116) but my 4 year old is huge and I reckon he has a couple more years in it if needed.

I have always used Lidl nappies, Asda’s little angels and Sainsbury’s own brand with no issues.
Never used pampers. Company tests on animals and so expensive.

Nephew is in Aldi nappies. They work well for him.
But his mum changes him over night after about 6 hours

My two year old is in size 5+ pampers pull ups or the aldi ones and I never have a leak and he sleeps through 12 hours a night

I just think it's so individual to the child and their body shape (length and width) and you have to try different brands and different sizes until you find a good fit.

A Pampers pull up would never contain DD's first morning wee (she doesn't wee overnight anymore) but an Asda 4+ does the job wonderfully.

DD is 2.8 and still the 4+ is the right size for her in Asda nappies even though I know of young babies wearing the same size! Until recently she was sometimes in a Pampers pull up in the day and in Pampers she needs a size 5.

Aldi and Naty nappies have never worked on DD as the fit just isn't quite right.

I think DD's nappy has only leaked overnight a handful of times in 2.8 years.

You can take them - well the older one at least - to the loo in the night so gently that they don't wake. I did it with dd, as my mum had with me. The first time she almost woke a bit, but v gentle words reassuring her that all was OK let her do the whole walk and then wee in the loo while pretty much asleep. After the first time, it was no problem at all.

"it's OK, darling, just taking you to the loo; no problem, you're fine, we'll just walk along to the loo....." etc while supporting her gently with my hands under her arms and gently pressure turning her where necessary. It's rather sweet.

Later, when we moved to a house, she could fall asleep on the sofa and I could get her up two flights of stairs and into bed in the same way. Very useful

Never had a leak with Morrisons own brand.

How much are they drinking right before bed?

Maybe cut off fluids an hour before bedtime. I did this when potty training.

Or could the 4 yo get into the habit of using the loo before bed as part of the bedtime routine as well as no fluids from an hour beforehand?

I heard someone say they cut a slit in the crotch of one nappy and then put a second nappy on the outside. That way you get double thickness to soak through..... Ive never done it though.

Potty training?
For both, if the 2 yo is approaching 3?

If you really have tried all sorts of different brands, and found supermarket own brands better than Pampers and Pampers better than Huggies back in the day, then I'd say you need to go the next size up, even if they seem to fit well. Clearly they need more capacity.

@SinkGirl saw you mention about your child drinking a lot. Have they checked for water diabetes (different to the usual diabetes we all know about)? Someone I know has a teenager with this. I'm not close to her so I don't know much, but she mentioned it was diagnosed when he was drinking a lot as a toddler, and that it's very rare so I don't know how often it's diagnosed. I know she had to push for the diagnosis but he's well now.

Might have been checked but just mentioning in case it's of use.

My one year old was having the same issues and I ended up doubling up. Size 5 (Aldi) underneath and a size four pull up (eco by Naty) over the top. Dry for a month now.

We do the same thing - all of a sudden my 1 years old started wakening in the night soaked through. We tried going up a size, changing brands - still same problem, so we double up now too.

Then a friend asked did he drink juice in the evening - he would have had the tinyiest bit of dilute in his water with his tea. We knocked that on the head and stuck to just water and it seems to have done the trick!! Do yours drink juice in the evenings? if so I'd try knocking it on the head. We still double up just incase but the top nappies always dry in the morning now so we put it on again.

In this situation I used to put a bamboo reusable nappy booster in a disposable. Super easy.

I use LIdl ones, size 5 (pull ups) for my 3yr and a halfs and size 4 (normal) for my 2yr.
They sleep about 12 hours, sometimes DD1 wakes over night to go to toilet once but 99% of the time they all sleep thru the night.
I use the pull ups for the 3yr and a half, but I noticed it takes less in than a normal nappy. The ones from Asda and Sainsbury's ( the pull ups) take in less as well, so Lidl ones been the best .

Move to huggies drynites for 4-7 year old for your older one? Or they do a size 3-5, there is a sizing chart online / on the pack.

The Tesco own brand super absorbent are pretty wood chippy to the touch but do hold an insane amount of pee.

Put two on.

Definitely size up. If I put my 2 year old in a 5 he leaks, a 6 and he doesn't.

Potty training?
For both, if the 2 yo is approaching 3?

I'd imagine the older and possibly both are toilet trained. Many children are not dry at night at age 4 or older.

Pampers nappy pants for overnight and Sainsbury's little ones pants during the day. Never had a leak...apart from when DH dresses DC and then there's occasionally a leak. So I hate to say it but sometimes it's user error

I do find that running my finger along the inside of the leg holes and frilling out the crotch helps to ensure the nappy is nice and flat and prevents leaks.

If your 4 year old is wearing regular pull ups, then they will leak. Aimed at potty training toddlers, they are only designed to hold little accidents, not 12+ hours worth of wees from an older child. Try the pyjama pants that are meant for older children, I think they start from age 4.

Try reducing fluids before bedtime. A small drink an hour before bed is fine and then (for your 4 year old) a last minute wee before lights out should help reduce the amount of urine output during the night. If necessary, get them up for a loo trip when you go to bed and make sure they get up to the loo as soon as they wake in the morning (assuming they are daytime toilet trained).