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Original poster

Mil didn’t text daughter on birthday

109 replies

Magicfish · 30/01/2020 14:32

Found it really strange my mil didn’t message my daughter on her birthday to wish her happy birthday or ask anything about it.
She has always text on my birthday and my family have always made big deal of birthdays ( ring, text, go around each other’s house). So find it strange she has not acknowledge it. She sent a card in post and we are having a small party at weekend.
Just feel a bit annoyed, or is this the norm.

OP posts:
AnneLovesGilbert · 30/01/2020 14:33

She sent a card. She’s presumably attending your party. That’s plenty.

Waterandlemonjuice · 30/01/2020 14:33

She sent a card! That’s all that was needed. YABVU

PooWillyBumBum · 30/01/2020 14:34

She sent a card! You’re overthinking this.

AryaStarkWolf · 30/01/2020 14:34

She sent a card and is coming to her party, why are you annoyed?

CakeandCustard28 · 30/01/2020 14:35

But she sent a card? How many times does someone need to wish someone happy birthday? YABU.

littlepaddypaws · 30/01/2020 14:35

it's yet another none event

chellochello · 30/01/2020 14:36

How old is your daughter? If she's too young to read a text i'd assume that's why your MIL didn't send one

TeenPlusTwenties · 30/01/2020 14:36

She sent a card, which takes considerably more effort than sending a text. YABU.

Drum2018 · 30/01/2020 14:37

YABU. What age is your dd? Is she devastated that she didn't get a text or did she even notice?

HomeMadeMadness · 30/01/2020 14:37

Bloody hell, I'd forgive her if she forgot entirely but she didn't she sent a card and you'll be seeing her at the weekend, why does she need a text as well?

gamerchick · 30/01/2020 14:37

Does she have your daughter's phone number?

Excited101 · 30/01/2020 14:38

Does your dd have her own phone?

maddy68 · 30/01/2020 14:39

Definitely overthinking ....a pretty high maintenance if you ask me ! She sent a card , she hasn't forgotten it (and even if she had she was probably busy and it would be unintentional)

AudacityOfHope · 30/01/2020 14:39

Seriously, the MIL bashing on here today is insane

Original poster
Magicfish · 30/01/2020 14:40

She is 6. I guess because my family maybe go OTT with it all phone call, text cards and always visits on your birthday, that’s been the norm for me

OP posts:
5zeds · 30/01/2020 14:41

I think a card is very kind and you have unrealistic expectations.

BaronessBomburst · 30/01/2020 14:43

You're annoyed that MIL didn't send a text message to a 6 year old?!
OP, you are bonkers. Grin

ShinyRuby · 30/01/2020 14:43

A nice card in the post is worth far more than a text.
She's also making the effort to see her at the weekend to celebrate.
What more do you actually want?

BaronessBomburst · 30/01/2020 14:43

It's really not the norm for anyone else.

AudacityOfHope · 30/01/2020 14:44

Do you think a 6 year old gives a shit about a text?

L0bstersLass · 30/01/2020 14:56

A card is much more thoughtful than a text. If I received a birthday card from someone I wouldn't expect a text as well. In my opinion, texts are sent when you can't be arsed to go to the effort of sending a card.

Hercwasonaroll · 30/01/2020 14:57

She's 6 so presumably won't even know if mil has text or not.

AuntieMarys · 30/01/2020 14:57

Ridiculous over reaction

lastqueenofscotland · 30/01/2020 14:58

She is SIX?! YABU what MIL has done is much more age appropriate

lowlandLucky · 30/01/2020 14:59

I wouldn't send a text to wish my DGD Happy Birthday, i would call her. I would never let my DGDs Bithday go past without speaking to her on the day