Mil didn’t text daughter on birthday

[Magicfish]

Found it really strange my mil didn’t message my daughter on her birthday to wish her happy birthday or ask anything about it.
She has always text on my birthday and my family have always made big deal of birthdays ( ring, text, go around each other’s house). So find it strange she has not acknowledge it. She sent a card in post and we are having a small party at weekend.
Just feel a bit annoyed, or is this the norm.

You mean she didn't text you not your dd. If this is so over the top unusual that both you and your dh are shocked maybe you should text them and check in. You both sound silly though.

I love these bonkers threads!

Card>text

YABUU (You are being utterly unreasonable)

If it’s the norm in your family to text on birthdays, I can understand that you noticed the omission. On its own it seems an oddly small thing to seek perspectives on...do you see it as indicative of some bigger issue?

My parents are similar to yours in that they always send or bring a card, attend every birthday, buy presents and text etc. My MIL didn't send anything for my sons birthday earlier this month, nor anything for any of them for Christmas. I think in all she's been to 2 birthday get togethers, out of a potential 25. So, I think YABU as she's sent a card, probably thought of a present and is attending her birthday party. A text is really the least thoughtful of all of the options.

Presumably your 6 year old DD doesn't have her own mobile phone?

Texts are so impersonal imo. Cards are much better and show more thought has gone into it. One card is worth 10 texts. A card should be more than enough, I think it is very rude to expect someone to call, and text, and to send a card.

She sent a card in post and we are having a small party at weekend.

So what’s the issue?