To not want to have sex with partner after finding this out?

[Namechange224]

DP and I have been together a few years. I was just on his email account on our shared computer looking for a booking reference and discovered an email from 7 months before we got together. He had ordered chlamydia treatment medicine.
I had asked him before in conversation if he had ever had any STD/STI and he said no, so obviously lied.
I know it was before me but I can't help feeling repulsed by it and also now repulsed at the idea of having sex with him!

AIBU? Would you feel the same??

[UnexpectedItemInTheShaggingAre]

People don’t necessarily feel comfortable talking about that stuff.
That’s ok.
It was before your time - let it lie

[Oakenbeach]

The lying is not great but it’s also not really your business early in a relationship.

The OP said they’d been together for a few years, so hardly “early” in a relationship.

[SirTobyBelch]

What country are you in, OP, where antibiotics can be ordered online?

[SoupDragon]

Came across the email as I typed a keyword to narrow down my search

What on Earth was the booking for that the keyword brought up an STI email?

[RoseWines]

Wow @sirtobybelch you can order antibiotics online from boots or superdrug. Or uk online pharmacies. Just google it!

[MissBax]

Are you 14? You're with someone who had sex before he knew you existed and may or may not have contracted an STI. And was sensible enough to get it treated?

Am I missing something?

[ColourMyDreams]

I don't understand. You said that you came across it while searching for something else, but yet you admit to snooping in the past and that particular email never showed up?

[kmammamalto]

Jesus it's chlamydia. It's almost as common as a bloody cold. Who cares if he had it before he met you?! If this was the other way round everyone would be saying of course you don't have to tell him darling! What he doesn't know can't hurt him!
I actually feel sorry for him that you have this information about him that basically disgusted you and you're posting about it on the internet.

[LemonTT]

Online pharmacists cannot just dispense a prescription only drug. However some have an online GP service that do. From recollection these services use online notifications to alert users to messages held on their server. They don’t email confidential details of the consultation or diagnosis. This is to prevent problems like a nosey spouse accessing private information.

[SmileyClare]

I'm baffled as to why an email would use the term Chlamydia Treatment Medicine As pps have said, it's usually treated with doxycyline (the same antibiotic used to treat eye infections, acne, UTIs) I've never heard it called Chlamydia medicine.

It's immature to have unprotected sex this is a massive assumption. Are you saying only immature people contract STIs?

Lots of couples use the contraceptive pill (no barrier for STIs) it's possible that he was cheated on or an old gf contacted all ex partners after a positive chlamydia test.

If we are throwing around accusations of immaturity, then OP wins with her behaviour: trawling through historic emails," LOL"ing about snooping and feeling icky and repulsed that her partner had a sexual infection 7 years ago.

[Microwavedtea]

YABU.

There could be multiple reasons for him bit telling you, including it being a precaution or for someone else. IF it was for him then at least he was responsible enough to get checked and take it.

[saraclara]

If he ordered doxycycline it was probably as an ANTIMALARIAL.

Was he travelling back then, OP? I prefer my anti malarials online too, as it's not possible to get them on the NHS.

[saraclara]

Prefer= order

[GoodbyePorpoiseSpit]

So he sought treatment for a common std before you got together? He sounds like a sensible man who looks after his sexual health. Quite immature to be so upset by this. He may not have told you as he got treatment just in case after an ex contacted him, or maybe he forgot it, or maybe as it’s such a common std he simply didn’t think you meant it and were asking about the heroes level stuff. I hope you can move past it!

[GoodbyePorpoiseSpit]

Heroes = herpes

[saraclara]

Seriously, it's not ever occurred to my that anyone could see either my order for antimalarials or the tablets themselves, and think chlamydia. I know doxy is an antibiotic too, but I didn't know what sort of infection it's often used for.

I wonder who's judged me without me knowing?!

[PrincessPain]

The OP said they’d been together for a few years, so hardly “early” in a relationship.

I assumed they had the STI and previous sexual partners conversation early on in their relationship. Not sure why any one would bring it up years into a relationship if the answer would affect how they felt about their partner, I assume that's why the PP also assumed he "lied" early in the relationship.

[bushhbb]

_YABU
_
is it any wonder he lied when this is how you react? Do you actually realise how common STIs, especially chlamydia are - but the thing is most people aren't going to admit to it.

[NameChangeNugget]

YABU. You sound like a nightmare.

[JacquesHammer]

Wants to keep something secret from partner, doesn't delete emails on sensitive issues on an account he knows other people might look at?

Not the sharpest tack is he?

[saraclara]

Yep. I'd put money on you having put two and two together and made five, anyway. That money is on him having travelled to South East Asia or somewhere and needed an antimalarial.

But even if not, I'm unconvinced by how you found that email. Even if a different word came up in the search, why follow its track back to the email itself?

[JacquesHammer]

The thing is, why wasn't he just honest.

"Oh yeah I was diagnosed in x but was treated before we met"

"I bought it for Bob"

"I bought an online test kit which was negative"

All ways in which a grown man can use his words to sort out a situation without being cagey.

[TwinsTrollsAndHunz]

Chlamydia is really common and very contagious. Lots of people have it/had it and it is very easily diagnosed and treated with antibiotics (which could also be used to treat a number of other conditions).

You are overreacting.

[saraclara]

The thing is, why wasn't he just honest.

You don't know that he wasn't. "Chlamydia treatment medicine" isn't a thing. The antibiotic that treats chlamydia is used for many other conditions, and is most commonly bought online for use as an antimalarial (not available on the NHS)

If he'd had chlamydia he could have got the medication in the NHS so no need to buy online.

[JacquesHammer]

You don't know that he wasn't. "Chlamydia treatment medicine" isn't a thing. The antibiotic that treats chlamydia is used for many other conditions, and is most commonly bought online for use as an antimalarial (not available on the NHS)

If he'd had chlamydia he could have got the medication in the NHS so no need to buy online

So wouldn't he have just explained that....? Oh yeah, I took X medication for Y condition in Z year.

Easy. Done.