To comment the flame emoji on a friend's husband's photo?

[Tealnotbluemum]

Is this ok?
He's a friend too and I thought nothing of it. Now worried she thinks I was flirting.
It was about the suit honest!

According to google

The fire emoji is a flame that is mostly yellow with a little red on the top. It is used to signify that something is cool, awesome, exciting, or more colloquially, “on fire.” It can also convey that someone is sexy, (i.e., hot), or refer to other various metaphorical fires.

If it's a photo taken in Australia, YABU.

If not, YANBU.

I would conclude you were Dog Whistle Woman

I am one of those who use the flame emoji to mean “you look awesome” / “love the suit/dress/whatever” (I am give or take 25yo if that matters?) , I comment it to everyone, including exes I am friendly with, it is NOT flirting to me (or anybody I know?) it’s simple acknowledgement that someone looks good on their picture/ made an extra effort/ have done something amazing.

Of course like everything it could be interpreted as flirting by whoever want to feel special but in the real world it’s just an emoji that have no real meaning apart from the one you want to give it.

I would never assume someone posting a flame on one of my posts is actually into me, I would just (rightly) assume they are trying to empower me/make me feel good by commenting something nice. But then again it’s also not uncommon where I am from to vocally compliment someone else’s husband/partner on their outfit when they have obviously made an effort without the wife thinking you want to get in their pants and losing it so I must live in a parallel dimension of some sorts judging by mumsnet’s response.

I’m sure your friend won’t find it odd, she’ll remember all the times you’ve used the same innocent emoji on photographs of her or other female friends, as it has no sexual meaning to you at all.

Flirty and weird!

Inappropriate and odd

Haha no i definitely wouldn't, that's akward

I would read this as "on fire" as in looking great. It's like saying "on fleek" but a slightly more "in" version.

I wouldn't necessarily jump to the conclusion that you're trying to "test the waters" and steal her man!! Ffs!

Wow, this wouldn't bother me at all! Would be totally normal in my friendship group.

I take it to mean "hot/on fire/smoking"

So to my late 30s ears...you look fit.

Not sommat I'd say to a pals husband tbf.

I don't feel it's inappropriate. I put this on every friends photo (regardless of gender) to mean 'you're looking great.'
If it makes any difference I am a very overweight woman who makes no effort with her hair or appearance. My lack of attractiveness means that no one has ever posted the flame emoji under the rare photos I post of myself. Any group photos I usually get the 'X and X you're looking beautiful, Teal you were sooo funny that night.'
It's my own fault that this happens, I'm almost making a decision to not be nice to look at. I don't want to be my defining feature and being plain, I find it much easier to be happy being less rather than to try make my less 'more.' I think it has made me very invested in paying others compliments, maybe in a strange cathartic way. Maybe I'm hoping for karma.
In real life this means that I can pass compliments to men and women without anyone considering it as flirtatious. They look at me as if to say 'ahh look at fatty being funny and sweet.' As a solid 2/10 I am as harmless as an eunuch. Online it's a little more tricky, usually people can't see my photo and the last thing I want is my friend thinking there is a random hot woman flirting with her dh. Now this thread has made me feel that my compliment was something seedy and worst still, loaded with meaning. I just wanted to make another non conventional feel a bit special on a Friday night.

His DW might not even be bothered about it, I'd just wait and see if she says anything.

Maybe in future though, say 'love the suit' or whatever it is after the emoji to save any confusion?

Dude, no.

Oh cringe. No, a like would’ve been fine. 🔥 is definitely flirty 🤷🏼‍♀️ And to the pp who thinks they can speak for all under 35s, I’m 25 and disagree, it definitely means you’re looking hot so..

My DS is a musician but only a young teenager, often people (men and women) post the fire emoji under his pics or video and it doesnt mean they fancy him, it's just an emoji FGS!

I am wondering more and more lately if my friends and I live in an alternate universe to MN. There are 2 other threads going at the moment where mums take phones/internet off their almost 18 YO DCs ar 930pm FFS. This is certainly not the world I live in nor would want to.

I don't feel it's inappropriate

@Tealnotbluemum

Then why start a thread asking if you’re unreasonable!?

I'd do it. It really depends on your friendship. If I did it to my best friend's husband, they'd both know I'm saying "you've scrubbed up well, pal". Equally, if she did it to my DP, I wouldn't bat an eyelid. Context is everything here and the nature of your friendship is key. My friend and I refer to me as her husband's second wife (if he buys her chocolate, don't forget me)!

I don't feel it's inappropriate. - Why post in AIBU then? If you didnt have any doubts then you wouldn't of posted. You clearly don't agree with over half of the replies so it was a pretty pointless thread to start.

I just wanted to make another non conventional feel a bit special on a Friday night. - "Nice suit!", "Suit looks great.", "You're looking really well!".. Something along those lines probably would of done.

A flame emoji doesn't necessarily mean you fancy someone. I've sent it to girlfriends, male friends, relatives, acquaintances... But you do have to be careful with context and it does depend on how well the recipient knows you.

There are clearly different ways to use it but sometimes it's just a compliment, to show appreciation. You could have made it clear it was about the suit but I don't think it's as bad as some are making out.

YABU and deliberately obtuse. You’re pretending you don’t see an issue with it and protesting that it’s not inappropriate when you know very well that it is, hence your entire post.

Reign yourself in and behave appropriately.

I wouldn't comment on my friends husbands pictures at all, never mind an emoji, flame or otherwise.

I can just see the flip side post now.

My friend comments 🔥 on my husbands photos on Insta! AIBU to be suspicious?

I don't see anything wrong

I can just see the flip side post now.

My friend comments 🔥 on my husbands photos on Insta! AIBU to be suspicious?

But in this case the husband is also the OP's friend and would a wife really be suspicious if her friend had form for using the emoji innocently and with all her other mates?