To comment the flame emoji on a friend's husband's photo?

[Tealnotbluemum]

Is this ok?
He's a friend too and I thought nothing of it. Now worried she thinks I was flirting.
It was about the suit honest!

I'd reply underneath with 'yikes, just realised my last comment looks well creepy! Not my intention (laughing emoji!)

Ah, see I would do this! Depends on the friend but most of my friends would find it funny. And I would also see the funny/light hearted side if they did the same on a photo of my DH.

Jesus fucking christ no no no no no no no no no no no

Is that enough of an answer for you?

Depends on the relationship.

That said I wouldn’t care if someone had found my then husband hot, I would have agreed

Depends on how close you are with both of them. I am in my 40s and our close friendship group would do this to each others DHs/DWs definitely and not think anything of it. We would say it in RL too (we're not swingers I promise!)

Maybs you didn't mean it as "you are hot" but evidently a good 50% of mumsnetters would interpret it that way.

Completely depends on the friendship. I would do so for a few friends that I’ve known as couples for 20 years for instance.

However, now I’m single I’m really careful about it in case it’s misinterpreted

It means you think he's hot. Ffs

@Tealnotbluemum if you meant it about the suit why are you even worrying about it?

Me and my friends do it 🤷🏻‍♀️

Some of us are married to some hotties, luckily none of us are half as up tight as mumsnet over a flame emoji 🔥🔥 🔥

I'm coming at this as someone who is not on FB and the only emoji I have ever used is a smiley face.

I am also nearing my fifth decade so very well not be "with it" but to me it would mean that you thought the bloke was "hot".

Therefore, unless you are in a relationship with that person, it's a "No" from me OP, sorry.

My son said it meant a bbq

He thinks youre snooping and he wants you off the scent of who he fancies.

I wouldn’t do this I don’t think, but I wouldn’t be bothered if one of my friends did it to one of DH’s pictures. I’m pretty sure none of them actually fancy him and it would just be a compliment!

It's the opinion of anyone under 35, I promise. Nobody ever uses fire to mean hot.

I'd better tell my 20 year old her and her friends have got it wrong then

Sounds like you're a great friend. Well done. That's you never to be trusted around your mates' fellas

I really wouldn't care if one of my friends did this.

My son said it meant a bbq

@titchy

Well, I guess some are more territorial than others, but it wouldn't bother me. Maybe you're from a different area and have different slang, but I'm 19, and where I live 🔥 literally means 'fire'.

It wouldn't bother me as such but at the same time I would not do it as its disrespectful to my friend and her DH.

In truth I think you were flirting and you know it.

Highly inappropriate.

And don't come to AIBU to ask for people opinions & then get defensive.

OP: AIBU?
90% of replies: Yes
OP: Tries to justify actions

I would never comment the flame emoji to flirt or say someone was hot if I actually thought so. God how embarrassing would that be. It's a jokey emoji, like 'wahey, looking good!'. Absolutely tons of people use it in a jokey way with their friends.

Ok, go on FB or any social media and say a guy you know put it on your photo and ask what it means. Then you'll have your answer but I'm guessing you already know it's inappropriate.

Eh? Why would you do that?

I’d be asking questions tbh. It literally means you think their hot/smoking hot. You’ve posted that on a married mans picture. So cringe. You might find your self out of the picture friendship wise or being given a very very large side eye and monitored.