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To take a pregnancy test?

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surelyitcantgetworsethanthis · 23/01/2020 07:06

Been TTC for 4 years. Failed rounds of IVF, without even so much as a late period. It's been hell.
My period is 2 days late, very unusual. I'm now day dreaming that I might be pregnant. We really tried this month and I had a smear mid-month and dr commented was showing signs of ovulation. DH wants me to give it a couple of days, not jump straight to POAS as he knows how heartbreaking I find the all negatives. All
through IVF he was dead against early testing, always waiting for the bloods. But that was torture and inevitably we got the call either with me at work or out for lunch with was devastating and embarrassing as I'm led sobbing from a restaurant.
AIBU to buy one on the way home and put myself out of my misery? Or should I live in a hopeful bubble for a couple of days?! HELP!!!

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surelyitcantgetworsethanthis · 23/01/2020 09:21

Feel really foolish now.

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GiveHerHellFromUs · 23/01/2020 09:24

Don't feel foolish. It's not unreasonable to get your hopes up when you think you're having symptoms - especially when you've been through so much x

surelyitcantgetworsethanthis · 23/01/2020 09:30

I just can't keep going through this but I'm 39 and time is running out. I'm completely numb.

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LemonBreeland · 23/01/2020 09:30

So sorry OP. And don't feel foolish, it's human nature to hope.

Sleepyquest · 23/01/2020 09:36

I'm so sorry OP! Drink the wine, cuddle the dog. Put on a rom com. Hoping you get your positive test this year xx

JacquesHammer · 23/01/2020 09:36
Flowers

Absolutely no need to feel foolish. At my lowest point I was taking tests when spotting for my period had already started.

The hoping is cruel, you're not foolish for thinking it might work.

Beau2020x · 23/01/2020 09:37

Oh I am so so sorry OP. Please don't loose hope. And as they saying goes, you aren't out until AF arrives. Do you know when you last ovulated? I don't want to give you false hope but it may just be that there isn't enough hormone yet. I got a faint positive on a test at 5 weeks (obvious but faint) and I don't think I would have got a positive if I tested around the time I was due on.

I hope you get some good news soon xxx

Winecheesesleep · 23/01/2020 09:39

Sorry OP, it's really shit isn't it Flowers

Depending on when you ovulated though it might be a little early still?

EnglishRain · 23/01/2020 09:41

I'm so sorry OP Thanks

Brenna24 · 23/01/2020 09:41

I am so sorry. I have been there too many times and remember the feeling only too well. Wine and camembert were my staples then.

jackstini · 23/01/2020 09:42

Sorry it's not good news.
Don't feel foolish at all, very natural to be excited when late and want to test
Fingers crossed for next time

chocolateandpinkgin · 23/01/2020 09:46

Ah I'm so sorry Sad don't give up x

seriouslystressedoutmama · 23/01/2020 09:48

Oh gosh op that's tough. No words, just sending virtual hugs.

Modestandatinybitsexy · 23/01/2020 09:53

Sending hugs OP it's so soul crushing getting negative after negative, I still remember being there so clearly. Take care of yourself today, lots of wine and other self care remedies.

BabyMoonPie · 23/01/2020 09:55

💐 (because I know that TTC is horrendous and no words will make you feel better). Cuddle your pup and rant here. I can empathise to a point - I've been trying for 14 months and am technically in the 2 week wait but the cramps etc are definitely PMT x

blackfriars · 23/01/2020 09:56

I'm so sorry OP. Really hoping you get your BFP soon.

surelyitcantgetworsethanthis · 23/01/2020 10:07

DH berated me for testing ..... at least I have this little one for cuddles!

To take a pregnancy test?
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Mollychristmas · 23/01/2020 10:13

I’m sorry OP and can sympathise, it really is shit isn’t it!
Flowers let today be shit, tomorrow is another day you just need to keep going.

surelyitcantgetworsethanthis · 23/01/2020 10:13

On my 3rd pour of wine .... my 7:30am meeting tomorrow will be fun

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AudacityOfHope · 23/01/2020 10:15

Ah. Really sorry OP. Thanks

WaitrosesCheapestVodka · 23/01/2020 10:15

So sorry OP WineFlowers

Actionhasmagic · 23/01/2020 10:16

Nooo so sorry

PrincessHoneysuckle · 23/01/2020 10:27

Really sorry op.Your dog is gorgeous btw.

Sweetener12 · 23/01/2020 10:28

I would take a test because the earlier you know the better you will accept it

goodgodingovan · 23/01/2020 10:46

I'm so sorry op Thanks