AIBU 13 year old son no mobile in bedroom

[mrshoho]

Been told I'm the worst mum ever and that no one else he knows is not allowed to have their phone at bedtime. He's really pushing it and dh just went in and yelled at him as he was stomping about. DH has to be up at 5.45 am everyday. Getting fed up of this battle but I know he's shattered and needs to sleep. My Son is waffling on how unfair his life is blah blah blah. I've told him to read or listen to the radio. What happens with your teens?

All our phones stay in the kitchen overnight charging.

Stick to it, he’s very young and doesn’t need to be on phones at night.

I did this until after GCSEs, it was difficult but it’s necessary

DS has to give me his phone at 8pm. It stays in my room overnight.

Mine are 15 and phones come downstairs for charging at night.

My eldest DD is almost 17 and on school night at 11.30pm I get all her electronics and keep in my room and at weekends its 12.30am. I don't want her up all night and exhausted the next day.

15 & 13, 47 & 59 here. All of us, of all ages leave phones downstairs overnight.

Ongoing battle to prevent teens lying on beds for hours watching you tube.

No phones in room here either...Plus I use qustodio to limit overall time and acres to apps/internet after 8pm

I know this sounds daft but we always say the phone isn't allowed upstairs, not that he isn't allowed the phone, I know it's semantics but it seems to take the heat out of the conversation.
Everyone leaves the smart phones downstairs, we only allow a land-line upstairs as then they can't sway me with 'what if there is an emergency'

My two are 12 and 14 and all devices including phones are out of the bedrooms and put in the kitchen overnight.

No, you are being very reasonable. I have this argument with my partner’s eleven year old daughter. DP, unfortunately, thinks she needs her phone because we live in the country and she can’t go out to play. I wish he would remove it at bed time but he doesn’t.

15 and 13 yo and they don't have their phones overnight.

Thank you I'm going to show him this tomorrow so he knows we're not the weirdos he thinks we are!

Those who charge phones over night, does your DC not sneak down and take them back? Mine would. My DS phone is charged in the morning before school.
I take it off DS (nearly 15) around 8:30pm. Sleep time is usually 9-9:30ish. There’s no reading or radio etc after that.

My kids have their phones in their rooms to charge... but they also have parental controls enabled so their phones are automatically locked at bedtime.

OP, please add me and my family to this thread also, please

Depends on the phone but we use Family Link on our DS's Android phone and it automatically locks at a time we choose (normally 9pm). He can't do a thing with after that. Job done.

14 and 12 yo - no phones in bedrooms overnight and phones in kitchen by 8/8.30 til the morning. No phones in bedrooms rule also applies to sleepovers.

DD13 hands her phone to me when she goes to bed. It charges in my room overnight. No discussion. Absolutely non negotiable. She even admits herself if you ask her that it’s better so she can sleep. This will continue until at least after GCSE’s and most likely until she pays for the phone herself.

Op he's not going to care that other mums do the same.
Also he probably wants his phone to look at ' stuff'

@mrshoho son, my 13 year old son is not allowed his phone upstairs day or night! Anything he needs to do on his phone can be done downstairs, your mum isn’t being mean she is being wise and caring you’ll realise one day!

He's bullshitting you. Everyone I know takes kids phones away overnight.

OntheWaves40 - they’ve each done that once, and on being caught they’ve had a month’s phone ban. We give them a cheap pay as you go ‘brick’ so they can text and call. No repeat offending has occurred. Although 12 yo is currently serving a month’s phone ban for a different phone related offence - she gets so frustrated when her friends send her emojis she can’t read.

No they don't come down and take the phone as they know the consequences if they did.

@OntheWaves40

Those who charge phones over night, does your DC not sneak down and take them back? Mine would.

No DD would never do this. She’s a rule follower by her nature but she also knows she’d be without a phone or it would be swapped for the Nokia of shame if she did this.