Friend and messy toilet

[GeraldineFangedVagine]

I had a friend round with her daughter last week. For background, I’ve just had sepsis, jaundice two procedures in a week under GA and almost died. I was in hospital two weeks and am still having IV antibiotics at home via a long term line in my arm.
Her daughter (5) used the loo and made a mess. She told her mum, and then her mum told me. I said I need to be really careful about infection with this line, I can’t clean it. She looked at me sort of nonplussed but left it. I then cleaned it because she made no move to and went to and repeated that it was a mess. I couldn’t just leave it, because my other half wasn’t home till much later.
Was she being unreasonable to just leave it? It’s totally changed how I feel about her! I am not the Poo Troll btw.

wow yes if it was my child i would have cleaned it up!

@GeraldineFangedVagine Yes me too. It was either be in hospital and have IV antibiotics, or be in my home and administer them. I hadn't realised you were a nurse so obviously know more than they teach you before allowing home IV antibiotics. So you will already know that for most people being at home is already safer than being in hospital.

I am a nurse and as such feel a bit guilty for scaring people about what can be a very safe alternative to hospital stays/district nurses. The mind is a funny thing though as I am learning and I have been surprised how delicate and fragile I feel. Believe it or not I’ve been a nurse a long time so this has really surprised me! Thanks for your posts and am sorry if you had to go through similar.

I totally understand how delicate and fragile you feel. Serious ill health has a big impact emotionally.
I wasn't trying to be an ass saying it is nothing to worry about. I do just worry about others reading threads like this and getting overly frightened for their ill relative doing IV antibiotics at home. But don't worry about scaring others, just focus on getting better.

I think anything that reminds us how fragile life actually is can make you feel like that OP, what happened to you was massive and will have had an impact emotionally and psychologically. You'll still be processing it all and it will get better with time but it's totally understandable you're feeling delicate and fragile, you have bloody good reason!

I, and any decent human being, would have jumped up to clean it regardless of your recent ailments. Your friend is a lazy, ignorant nob.

She is completely BU that is horrible and dangerous for you. I'm not surprised it has damaged your friendship. Just ridiculous

What an example to set to her daughter too.

If either of my DC had done they would probably declare "Mammy you need to clean it quick!" before I even offered!