Disabled husband, 3 kids

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Disabled husband and 3 kids...

My husband was born with a condition which is degenerative and recently he has started using a wheelchair. He is looking to buy a new one that can be folded down to take about with us. Whilst we are the getting a hoist for our car there may be times we don't have a hoist available and he is expecting me on those occasions to lift the chair in and out of the car. I already have shoulder problems from lifting our double pram in and out of our boot (we have a 5 year old girl and identical twin boys at 10 months).

Am I being unfair telling him I won't be doing that ever and he can use an adapted taxi instead should that situation arise?

Please vote and comment...I'd love to know why you answered the way you did

Ah, ok I see we are at language cross purposes-apologies!

Op, it's very easy to think you'll be prepared for something before it happens, and then when it does, you realise you can't cope with it. I haven't RTFT so sorry if I'm repeating what's already been said but this is a discussion for you and your DH x

@Mummyzzz044 can you link the post? I am seriously concerned that this is domestic abuse and she needs reporting....

@Pippastrelle the post was deleted. Not sure if it was just by mumsnet because it was such a negative response.

Its unbelievable when you link the two post together. Its really upsetting

@Mummyzzz044 I was upset enough reading this one to be honest. It was just awful. I hope she's a troll. I hope that it's not real. Fancy saying those things... Knowing what it's like I go from normal to disabled, it breaks my heart. Can't imagine how he feels. Poor bugger. Thanks anyway xxxxxx

I didn't see the other thread which I'm quite glad about. This one alone made me quite angry as while some posters certainly did think OP was very unreasonable in her treatment of her DH (not regarding the hoist but for not letting him see his parents etc) there was the usual outpouring of sympathy from some posters despite the abusive behaviour which always seems to happen as soon as someone says their partner is ill and/or disabled.
Maybe OP is a troll but I suspect not unfortunately. The sympathetic responses of some posters may have made her feel okay and justified regarding her treatment of her DH.

@woodchuck99
I've being thinking about him constantly. I am worried, albeit there's not much anyone can do. I'm glad I didn't see the other post, but actually I hope every one who misinterpreted her vitriol did, so that they can see that the ones who picked up on her nasty words weren't in the wrong. I desperately hope he gets help and gets to see his parents.
I wonder if they don't like her because she has shown these mean tenancies in front of them. I hope the kids don't see it and think it's normal. I wonder what it is he did which resulted in the threats to out him in a nursing home. 😢 Xxx

I'm glad you didn't see the other post, her reasoning for not liking the in laws was worrying. "They take him to appointments then make a day of it" so?, also the MIL asks to use her toilet just to annoy her. Someone couldn't possibly need to use the toilet?. "She's told him he has to chose once and for all out of her and the kids of them". I remember it because it was so awful.

Unfortunately I don't think she is a troll. Just abusing the situation. They probably see straight through her.

@Mummyzzz044
I still can't stop thinking about this. Even more so now xxx