Aibu..to be upset that my married best friend cancels our tomorrow shopping trip to go shag her boxing coach

[Baileys38]

Simple as that, best mate and I text daily,don't see each other often,I'm going through hell mentally at the mo awaiting a cancer diagnosis,(specialist are pretty sure, and will be getting final tests this week),and was looking forward to seeing her for a day out shopping and lunch tomorrow. Shes married by the way and said she had the opportunity to meet up for sex and would I mind?
I just feel it's a bit selfish as I have always been there for her and wanted other peoples thoughts

Hope things go OK on Wednesday OP and I hope you have someone to go with you to your appointment?

What an utter fucking bitch. I'd cut her out of my life completely. I can't believe what I'm reading here. Get rid OP, you deserve better and she's no friend at all. I wish you lots of luck with your results and hope it is caution as you say

PS : Who are the 2% who think OP IBU?

Sorry op, but she is a bitch. I would also be tempted to snitch on her actually, buts that a personal choice. I am so sorry to hear what you are going through.

She's not a friend. I would dump her.I hope she's not using you as her "cover."

Good luck for Wednesday.

Well, I feel you have two options:

1. Block her and dump the horrible woman.

....actually, that's all I've got.

This.....

good luck and strength for your next appointment with your Doctor OP.

Has she told her husband that she’s still meeting you as a cover for her lies?

well if she is prepared to treat her husband like that, why would you expect any loyalty from her?

What a self absorbed nightmare of a female! 😡

OP, you must be absolutely terrified but really hope the outcome offers so much relief! Whatever, you certainly DON'T need this piece of trash in your life.

Please update with regards to your results. I am sure everyone on here has every finger and toe crossed for you,

you don't seem to mind the fact that she is being unfaithful to her husband, just the fact that she has let you down...

maybe you should be asking yourself why its ok for him to be treated like shyte but not you...

What a cow!

I'd be tempted to call her DH and express concern that she hasn't met you as expected.

You're not over-reacting! You need better friends than this. I hope you have other pople in your life who will support you during thhis frightening time. Best of luck, OP.

Seriously cybergran, the OP is terrified that she may have cancer and that’s what you’re concerned about? Wise up!

YANBU!!

Does she cheat a lot? Is she normally a supportive friend and good wife?

It's so far beyond what could possibly be considered acceptable, friend like behaviour that, if any of my friends did this, I'd genuinely think there was something psychologically wrong with them. It wouldn't make any sense in someone who called themselves a friend. I've got some terribly unreliable friends but they've all got serious issues. And yet even they still probably wouldn't behave quite so badly in casually admitting they were blowing off plans to cheat.

Unless this is majorly, majorly out of character, this 'friend's deserves no place in your life.

She sounds horrible

I'd phone her DH and ask him to pass on a message because your phone is playing up and not connecting to some numbers or whatever bullshit you want. I'd say something like, "Shame she couldn't meet me for lunch but how about next Sunday?" But I'd do it a day later, after you've likely been given as an alibi.

She's a shit friend and her DH should be at least given a damn clue.

I’d tell the husband, because fuck her for being a shit friend

She’s not a good friend at all OP.
Drop her and focus on yourself and people who genuinely care for you right now.
Really hope you have positive needs on Weds.

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She doesn't sound like a great friend...but does she understand how worried you are atm?

If you don't mind me asking, what type of test are you having done on Wednesday and who told you it looks like it could be a "rare and aggressive" type of cancer? It seems odd (and poor practice) for a doctor to have worded it so negatively before you've had all your tests done and have a plan of action. Sorry to be so nosey, and you don't have to answer that question, but I'm a nurse and often have patients who have spent hours googling and convinced themselves of the worse case scenario before they've had all their test results. It's a really worrying time, but try to keep busy doing other things, which is why your friend cancelling must feel really crappy, but is it possible that she doesn't understand how worried you are that it might be cancer?

Blimy, she first know what loyalty is does she. To you or her DH.

Really sorry you have been let down like this, and I hope your results are good news

Wishing you the best of luck for your test results.

YANBU she's defo using you as and albi too.

"Hi "Friends" Husband

Cant get through on her phone, can you tell her I'm really sorry for cancelling today and that I hope we can get together soon."

Fuck the bitch up, she deserves it.

Thinking of you xx

Oh and send that well after she will have been home and told him what a wonderful day you two had.

I have never hated anyone I have never met, until now.

Get rid of the selfish cow.

Awful! I hope one day she'll realise what a truly shit person she has been but in the meantime concentrate on yourself and surrounding yourself with decent people who care properly about you.