Aibu asking DH not to drink at kids bedtime

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DH drinks too much IMO, however I'm not bringing it up as I know how much of an argument that'll cause.
He tends to rake a bottle of beer in to the kids rooms whilst reading bedtime stories (8 and 6) aibu to raise it as an issue?

It wouldn’t bother me as a one off, but I agree it’s wrong for children to see their bedtime as always accompanied by daddy’s beer.

It’s a bit excessive really. I don’t see the need to be drinking beer while reading the stories. I’m not bothered about children seeing moderate drinking but it is taking it a stage further to being a bottle into their bedrooms. I wouldn’t like it at all.

Me and DH love a glass of wine, perhaps even a bit too much. This does seem a bit off if it's most of the time, assuming bedtime is 7 or 8 it's hardly a big deal to wait until the kids are down.

That said, if he only does this occasionally it's not a big deal. But the issue is it's not occasional, is it?

Lots of 'big deal' there

Personally I wouldn't like it. Don't think it's great drinking a bottle of beer while sitting on your DCs bed reading them a bedtime story. Actually you can't drink and read out loud at the same time, surely he can leave the beer downstairs while he reads? Also beer smells awful no DC wants beery breath in their face. I say that as a child of an alcoholic

YANBU OP. But then I have cultural conditioning behind my opinion. In Norway parents are encouraged to wait until small children are asleep before getting the alcohol out, there's been some research to imply children prefer it when their parents don't drink in front of them. DH and I only very rarely have a beer or wine while our kids are awake. I don't see a problem in waiting for 8/9pm to crack open a drink, if it's a hardship to wait that long then there are bigger problems afoot.

Imagine taking a beer or glass of wine up stairs to read your kids a story and put them to bed! So you stop the story every so often to reach for a drink? How is that normal for anyone? "The three little piggies...." sorry just stopping to take a sip of my drink because I can't go 20 minutes without one 🤔

I voted that you are not being unreasonable. Maybe you can compromise and he drinks 3-4 nights a week to show the kids that you don’t have to drink every day