Would you have a baby at 42?

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Stolen off another poster! I have a nearly 6 year old and considering giving them a sibling but not sure this is a good idea given that I'd be 42 by time the baby was born. Celebrities are doing it left right and centre but what about us mere mortals, is it a bad idea?

I had my second at 40...it's been fine, no more tired than the previous at age 35. However he'll be hitting adolescence as I go through the menopause which could be interesting

How do you feel?

You’ve already got a child so you know what the physical side of it is - the frequent waking at night for months if you’re lucky and years if you’re not as lucky.. the early starts, the relentlessness ... but also I guess on the other hand the nap times and the pushing the pram along in the sunshine and all of that.

I’m in my mid thirties and I have no idea if I’d still be up for in in my early forties. If I have similar energy levels to now, I don’t see why not.

It depends on you. How much energy do you have ?

Will you mind getting up in the night ?
Are in healthy enough ?

Would your child get the best of you, as in have you still got the energy for swimming lessons, parks, after school activities and everything else. X

Nope - 40 was old enough for me!

Absolutely, if you want to - loads of people do.

Personally, as I am 42, and already have enough DC, thank you very much, I would very much NOT like to have another.

Yes. My youngest child was born when I was 43.

Perfect pregnancy, perfect labour and delivery. Said 12 year old is currently bouncing around house trying to get me involved in popcorn and a video.

Absolutely! I dont think it's too old at all.

As long as you have the means to financially and emotionally support them then go for it!

I should have added I would have had two more if we were so blessed.

I had one at 41 and another at 43. They're great, I'm great....I didn't get married until I was 40 otherwise I would probably have had them younger but they were conceived naturally within four months of starting to try. Several of my friends also had children in their 40s, one was 46. So nothing out of the ordinary.

I wouldn't, but I've friends who did successfully without a second thought.

Happy last job at after my 39th birthday as 40 was my cut off point for my 3 DC! But, I had my first at 27, was in a rush to give DD2 a close sibling, as is turns out DD1 is close to both my teen DCs.

Anyway! To give a child of mine a sibling, I would try at 42. Good luck!

I’m 41 and no way could I have another now.

I’ve noticed a big difference between having my two at 30 and 35. Or more importantly, now the little one is 6, I don’t have the energy I had for the first, despite having a baby when she was that age.

Nope. Too old for me personally, my mum was a nana by that age!

I wouldn't but that's because my dc now are 7&8, I feel like I'm getting my life back and the thought of doing it all again - the broken sleep, the toddler tantrums, the potty training, the nappies etc - fills me with dread! Also, although I feel fine now at nearly 40, in 10 - 15 years' time I might not do. Teens take up a lot of your energy with their problems and tantrums and I wouldn't want to do that when I'm getting old.

Yes, but really you’re not “giving” your existing child anything.

My son was born when I was 43. We're both fine.

My mum had me when she was 42 and I had my youngest when I was 42- all absolutely fine.

Yes I conceived and had my DS at 42. No problems and he is great xx

Absolutely not.

No i wouldnt early 30's would be my cut off

I was 39.5 when DS was born, me and (now) DH got together only 6mths before I got pregnant so having children earlier just wasn't an option. We've been ttc no.2 for a year now so sadly a sibling doesn't seem likely and I'm fast approaching 42 now.
It's very easy to say 'no' if you were lucky enough to have children younger, although tbh at age 41 with a toddler I'm yet to find any age related drawbacks.

I had my two at 41 and 43, absolutely fine - we are fine and very average in a good way 😁

No, had last one at 41, now at 50 and wondering what the hell I was thinking.

Yep, had DD1 at 38 and DD2 at 41. I'm 43 now and would try for another if I wanted one but I'm done! x

Agh, ignore the x