To ask what wrong with DD? She’s in pain down below.

[TrySleepingWithABrokenHeart]

For several nights now, DD (age 3) has been waking numerous times a night. She’s either asking for lip balm for lips that she says are sore or asking for a drink, or something else along those lines.

DD wipes herself now when she goes to the toilet and sometimes occasionally gets pain down below which I assume is from not wiping properly. I have friends who experience the same with their girls. If this happens, I’ll pop some bepanthen on her which seems to sort it out.

Anyway, one of the many things DD has been asking for in the night has been for some cream on down below.

DH and I are both getting really exhausted by the constant wake ups and tonight, DH calmly explained to her that if it didn’t look red, he wouldn’t be putting any cream on. DD got very distressed and was thrashing around as if in severe pain. I went in and managed to calm her down. I had a chat to her and explained she wasn’t going to get in any trouble but I needed to know if she was really in pain or if she wasn’t in pain but just wanted some cream on. She said she didn’t know and to be fair to her, her comprehension on somethings can be a challenge for her.

I calmed her enough that she went back to bed but I continued to watch her on the baby monitor. She had her eyes closed and periodically she would start crying and thrashing around like she did earlier with us in the room. She is clearly absolutely exhausted.

I went back through to her and she said it was hurting so I said we would try the cream and see. She has since fallen asleep and seems to be settled (for now).

Does anyone have any ideas on what’s going on? My gut feeling before has been that she was just wanting our attention but now I’m not so sure.

Seeing her in pain is really upsetting.

I’d bet a lot of money it’s worms!

Ovex for the whole family. Wash all bedding, etc.

Call 111 tonight and get some proper medical advice that isn’t from unqualified people on the internet. Definitely don’t treat her for worms unless sure she has them! It could be worms, but it could also be a UTI or an allergy or chicken pox with vaginal blisters or loads of different stuff. 111 should be able to give some advice.

Make an urgent same day appointment with GP as soon as they open, explaining your 3 yr old is in too much pain to sleep. If GP receptionist claims there are no same day appointments then call 111 again and tell them what’s happened, they can find you an appointment. Tonight, check for worms with torch (they only come out at night so harder to check for in day). Stop using any bubble bath, if using biological washing powder then swap to nonbiological. And obviously only let her have cotton underwear. Health visitor (who can advise up to age 5) may have more ideas, you should have a number for them or contact a children’s centre.

Have a bit of a think about why you’ve been using whatever this cream is instead of taking her to a doctor before now. This is what GPs are for. I get that you thought she wanted attention, but you should have taken her anyway just in case. It is obviously better to have a few unnecessary trips to doctor than to have a child writhing in pain. Watch yourself in future on this tendency, and also your DH who was horrible for refusing to put the cream on. Since when does he know anything about paediatric vaginal problems? Any kind parent would have applied the cream just in case. Neither of you sound like you’re looking after her very well.

Sounds horrible fingers crossed for you all xxxx

@DrinkSangriaInThePark yes it was raspberry. Grim.

I know this sounds gross but you can put sellotape over the anus which catches the worms when they come out at night. They are then easy to spot.

sky if you had read the thread you'd see that a doctor answered (as far as we can be sure on the internet anyway). This thread was from yesterday and Ovex wouldn't have done any harm.

My dd used to do this. It was cystitis, possibly through not drinking enough throughout the day. She used to get in the bath to soothe it or we'd give her a wet flannel to hold over it.

Definitely don’t treat her for worms unless sure she has them!

When my children were at primary school, I treated them for worms every 3 months (along with myself and dh) regardless of whether or not they had any itchiness.

Ovex is completely harmless, and if it doesn’t work, then when OP takes her dd to the GP, they’ll be able to rule out threadworms immediately, speeding things up.

When my children were at primary school, I treated them for worms every 3 months (along with myself and dh) regardless of whether or not they had any itchiness

Yep me as well. Worm them regularly, like the cat.

He should just put cream on if she is sore!

Has she had her molars? My daughter who has just turned three is getting her molars in now and has TERRIBLE nappy rash that coincides with teething.

Has there been any improvement since you gave her Ovex, OP? Or have you had to take her to the GP?

How is she now @TrySleepingWithABrokenHeart ?

Thanks so much for all the advice. We had recently started giving her bubble baths so after reading some posters saying this had caused their girls some irritation. I held off on the ovex and bathed her in just water and we’ve had no trouble since so the bubble bath seems to have been the culprit. Thanks so much for all the advice ☺️