To be mad at husband (food)

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I bath cook my lunch at the start of my working week so I can take nice food to work each day.

I made a big pan of pasta this morning to see me through the next four days. I was rushing around and it didn't have tome to cool so I covered it and left it on the side.

My H ate some, decided he didn't like it and binned the WHOLE contents of the pan because he thought I just "prepared too much".

I'm mad!!!!!!

If the pasta was off or overcooked then he was right to chuck it out. Who keeps rank pasta for 4 days.

Pasta is literally 60p a bag that takes 10s to dump into water and leave to cook for 10 minutes.

I bet he scoffed most of it then threw the rest away as a cover story to hide his gluttony.

I'd be absolutely fuming.

My DH once threw away my luxury chocolate because he 'couldnt stop eating it'. We had a long chat about how many things were wrong with his attitude and approach.

A few years ago I was getting sick to death of exDP never coming to the table when dinner was ready because he was too busy on the Xbox. One night I called him to dinner down the stairs twice and on getting no response I calmly sat and ate my dinner and then once I’d finished I threw his in the bin.
Decided not to have an argument so went upstairs to bed to find him working on his laptop with headphones on! He took them off when I walked in and asked how long he had until dinner
I think I made him some boiled eggs in the end

How old do people think pasta salads and especially ready meals are in shops? More than 4 that's for sure .
Op I would be raging. My dh would never do this to be fair to him. I was annoyed enough that he ate a manky banana as I promised the kids banana bread.

Thank you for understanding @Lllot5 I will never get over it as long as I live.

Sorry for hijacking your thread @fencedoff - this thread should really have come with a trigger warning 😂

I bet he scoffed most of it then threw the rest away as a cover story to hide his gluttony.

Actually, that's a thought!

Fuck that shit.

Bow he can either pay for you to have a nice lunch every day this week(out of his own spends) or make whatever you were going to make.

My food is mine to do as I please and I lived long enough enough to decide if something is off ,rank or whatever else. I don't need anyone to do me "favours" by throwing it away.

*Pasta is really high risk for food poisoning if not stored and chilled correctly."

Bloody hell. What am absolute load of rubbish. Refrigerated pasts is absolutely fine for 4 days. As long as is cooled and refrigerated. I wouldn't want to eat the same thing, 4 days in a row as it would be dull andd I get bored of eating the same thing too often but it would be absolutely
fine for taste and safety.

Op. I'd be beyond furious about what your DH did.so YDNBU

I promise I’m not op Dh! I wouldn’t count cooking time, no. Sorry-I can see it would be irritating but not so rage inducing as many of you say you would!

Yea he scoffed more and is covering up.
It's not like he won't be used to seeing extra portions waiting to go in the fridge/freezer, so knows the too much concept is ridiculousl

I once put my dinner in the microwave to reheat whilst I went to the bathroom. I clearly stated my intention of eating it. I walked into the kitchen around 3 minutes later to see an empty plate and my (then) boyfriend wiping his mouth. When I asked him why he'd eaten my dinner, he said that he'd assumed I'd lost interest as I had walked out of the room. Yes, I made him buy me a takeaway (so more delay in eating after being at work all day) but it was the thoughtlessness of it thst really hurt.

Regardless of whether the OP has been saved from 48hours of spewing her ringer or not her DH made a decision about food that she had cooked (in voluminous quantity) that wasn’t his to make leaving her high and dry for the week lunch-wise.

The assumption and the inconvenience would boil my piss too OP.

@ChangeInTime a colleague of mine has just had an email exchange with her DP, he's eaten the rest of the type of pasta their kid will eat, a whole pack of mince meant for two meals and the whole tub of homemade pasta sauce she'd made for them both for his dinner because he was hungry.

She appears to laugh it off but it's not the first time she's mentioned him eating the last of something and not mentioning it needing replacing (when he's home and she's still at work) or eating all of something meant for them both. As a PP said more red flags than fucking China

I tell you what - my uncle is of the "man gets most and best quality food" mentality so always helps himself to huge, quality portions at family meals, buffets etc. and eating with that family is now like the sodding Hunger Games. His kids have learnt that you get in quickly or you miss out so when food is dished up, blink and you miss it! One Christmas I was livid - I only managed to get one pig in blanket and my cousins had so many piled on their plates they couldn't finish so were feeding them to the dog under the table. I have now learnt my lesson and make sure I get stuck in straight away when they are around.

That's disgusting, WelcomeToCranford but I don't believe that it was thoughtless. He knew exactly what he was doing.

RollaCola84 That attitude says it all and it's no mistake to be laughed off. It's depressing how common this staggeringly selfish and controlling attitude is.

That type of gluttony used to really boil my piss. Made worse when the ex lazy bastard wasn't working, would eat everything and not even bothered to cook/save anything for anyone else.

That first month seeing all the extra £ in the account gave me a kick up the arse when I was having the daft thinking about the good times' thing. It was easy to justify some stuff in the stupid way you do, but seeing that in black and white worked wonders.

£1 here for pasta, a pound there for bread, a fiver for meat, couple of quid a day on milk etc all adds up at the end of the month. You know it costs a fortune, but never realised how much until you start counting. Chances are they wouldn't care, and once you notice how selfish and tight in this area, you start to notice it elsewhere as well. Yea they generally eat more than us anywhere, but they are something else entirely. I'm talking about the entire massive box of cereal gone in two days max, never mind everything else.

He just made a mistake 🤷‍♀️

As a PP said more red flags than fucking China

Love this!

I can’t believe the sheer stupidity of chucking out a whole pan of pasta! How incredibly thick! Why not just, you know, communicate by speaking to the person in the next room? Idiot.

@TripleSeptic grounds for divorce without doubt

How is that a mistake? "Oops, I dropped it into the bin, I meant to box it up and put it in the fridge!" Why would you bin food?!

I'm intrigued by the idea of bath food, though. You could do very large quantities in a bath. And now for some reason I'm thinking about Bath buns...

DH would never chuck anything out, even after it's gone off, which is it's own issue really, but what he does do is ask me to buy him specific stuff for his work lunches, then doesn't bother making them. So we're out the cost of everything I bought plus what he spends on lunch at work while perfectly good food goes off and has to be chucked. It really pisses me off.

It's this built in thing that (generally) men have, where they think of themselves and only themselves. "I don't want this, therefore I'll throw it away". Women are conditioned to think of others, so our thought would be, I don't want this, therefore I'll check if anyone else does beforr throwing it away".

Drives me mad.

That would make me want to do a ‘snapped’

Outrageous behaviour