To be mad at husband (food)

[fencedoff]

I bath cook my lunch at the start of my working week so I can take nice food to work each day.

I made a big pan of pasta this morning to see me through the next four days. I was rushing around and it didn't have tome to cool so I covered it and left it on the side.

My H ate some, decided he didn't like it and binned the WHOLE contents of the pan because he thought I just "prepared too much".

I'm mad!!!!!!

And presumably it wasn't plain boiled pasta but had some high-value protein element plus veg, sauce etc! Good grief, run to the net, people. Do you need the recipe? 😒

Surely it’s not his job to make some more!

I said I can't understand why he didn't ask me, or use his common sense that a pan that big can't possibly be a misjudgement of measuring for one lunch. And I'm visibly annoyed.

He told me I'm being a dick.

No he's the dick. Did it not occur to him that you might like some?

Haggisfish may be OP's DH. 😉

Or that you might want some leftovers.

And yes, thank you @NearlyGranny. You appear to have some common sense!

Is he usually an arsehole?

I’m surprised so many are saying four day old pasta isn’t good.

I agree that leaving out all day is pretty bad from a food hygiene and safety point of view.

He told me I'm being a dick.

Defensive much? He acted like an idiot the very least he can do is apologise properly.

'That's for the bin then!' really is not the first thing that should come to your mind when you see a large portion of food, regardless of whether or not your personally like it ffs.

Oooooh I am fuming on your behalf OP.

I would be so angry.

TripleSeptic, people have died for less! 😆

He’s a dick! Make him cook you some fresh pasta.

It's annoying but eh, stuff happens. A couple of times I've left pasta out meaning to portion it off and freeze and then forgotten about it so DH has disposed of it. How long was it there for? Were you at home at the time? If you left it and went out then I kind of think you are BU a bit.

Sorry - surely it IS his job to make more! 🤦🏻‍♀️

Not everyone buys the £1.00 pasta. And even if they did, it wasn't up to him to decide what the OP could cook or eat. I must say I have seen some cheap pasta but never for £1.00. I don't buy that kind though, just the green pea or red lentil type stuff.

I would consider binning his dinner.

Pasta and rice harbour the same bacteria that is resistant to re-heating apparently, however in about 30 years I have never been ill by reheating either. Cooled and stored correctly it is fine.

I'd be tempted to cook a meal for the two of you, taste it and throw his half in the bin while saying: "I didn't think you'd like it."

After some mishaps in our early married years DH and I have learned to never throw anything away that the other one is responsible for.

I'd be raging.

I try, fencedoff, I try.

Is he a serial saboteur, as in undermining your efforts in a range of areas in a PA kind of way?

I spent a chunk of my own money on a pretty, bow-topped dressser to do up for DD. I shared that the plan was midnight blue chalky finish with starry sky wallpaper backing and waxed natural counter. While I was out, DH decided it would look better grey and painted it. Then he told me I should throw the top part away as he found it ugly. So, a boring grey cupboard, instead. Right. 🤔

I guess I'm lucky the top part didn't go to the tip! And he's lucky he has lots of sandpaper and lots of time. Though I might keep the grey as undercoat everywhere except the counter bit.

Why do they do it?!

I’m still distressed by the memory of a dinner guest binning a whole pan full of rice that I’d prepared to make another dish with; his excuse being ‘you can’t keep it’. I was . I don’t require lessons in food storage or hygiene, and I defo’ eat well aged pasta if it’s been fridged. Your DH should buy you lunch for the rest of the week, OP.

Mine eats things I batch cook.. by the fecking batch.
“Put on all the chicken n I’ll sort it after tea”
30 minutes later.. 10 minutes after eating 3 pieces of the nearly 2kgs of chicken. Kitchen cleared and empty..
“Where’s the rest”
Dp- “i ate it/gave some to the dogs/cat”

Men are the reason they make gin.

@fencedoff @tripleseptic

No your honour, honestly, it must have been an accident! She was with me all day.

Haha @Lunafortheloveogod if I wasn't pregnant I think a gin would be needed!!

Men are the reason they make gin.

No, men like that are the reason divorces exist.

I mean it’s a bit annoying yes. But some of these responses are very over the top and batshit levels of over reaction! Controlling mansplainer, serial underminer, is he abusive? 😂 Jesus. Just tell him he was annoying and get him to cook some more

If he's going to behave like a dick, get loads of post it notes & put them on everything. Nice bright colours with messages telling him lunch for rest of week cooling - don't touch

Maybe he'll get the hint ....