AIBU to think that the motive on gift wrapping paper does not matter?

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Dd, 3 years old, was invited to a birthday party by a girl from nusery. All fine, responded she would like to come, asked for wishes and went with dd to get a gift from list. Thought I had frozen gift wrapping paper at home. Wanted to wrap this morning before party at 10am to realise that the only wrapping paper we had was Christmas inspired green with gold trees on so ofc wrapped the gift in that paper and took dd to party..
All went fine at the party, the birthday gift liked the gift and party was nice.
But just received a txt from the birthday girls mom where she is moaning about the paper and accusing me of regifting a Christmas gift that I clearly didn't even bother to rewrap.
I'm a bit gobsmacked by the txt.. I have a recipe that proves I bought it last weekend, but I really didnt anybody would care that much about the look of the wrapping paper?
AIBU?

I voted YABU because I couldn't use Christmas paper for a birthday present but at least you gave a 'wanted' gift.

DD got an adult's chapter book, clearly second-hand, for her birthday. She has a learning disability and is in no way able to read books with long paragraphs

I can't believe how rude she was, texting you! DD has been invited to a party next weekend and I texted the mum to ask what kind of things the DD is into, because she's a newish friend and DD doesn't really know what she likes yet. The mum replied please don't feel you have to bring a present, she's just happy is able to come. The same happened with the last party she was invited to as well. We did of course give a present and will next weekend too,but what a difference in the attitude of the parents!!

Is a birthday gift critique used in place of thank you notes in Denmark too?

She is being extremely rude and I'd struggle to reply to that text calmly.

@JassyRadlett I get that, I just think it's very rude to be in any way ungrateful for a gift bought by someone who barely knows your child. It's a social obligation to buy something, but a bit of a cheeky one if you ask me and something the parents should be grateful for whatever it is.

I do wrap birthday presents in Christmas paper - but its the plain shiny stuff, not obviously Christmas if you know what I mean.

But I would not be friends with someone who complained about any aspect of a present I'd given them (mentioning that something is broken or the wrong size and asking for it to be swapped is not complaining).
I also think its very bad manners other than for a wedding (or maybe baby shower) to request specific presents.

Sounds like awful manners, and someone to avoid as much as possible in future.

I have a January birthday and I'm sure I've had many a present wrapped in Christmas paper.
What a rude woman.
As for gift lists for a three-year-old's birthday! She sounds like the appalling mum in Motherland.

accusing me of regifting a Christmas gift that I clearly didn't even bother to rewrap

Text back “Oops, busted! You are right I didn’t even check what was in it, lucky it wasn’t the sex toy my cousin got me. Hope your Dd enjoyed having her friends celebrate with her, despite your obvious dissatisfaction with people’s choice of gift.”

@aSofaNearYou I don’t disagree! Appalling behaviour.

And I didn't deliberately wanted to wrap in Christmas paper, I just forgot that the frozen had already been used.

What would you have done if it wasn’t the arse end of Christmas?

I grew up knowing that my birthday was a total inconvenience because no one could be bothered pretending otherwise.

I wouldn’t have texted but I think it’s quite scummy to wrap it in Christmas paper. I’d be very embarrassed if I had to do that.

Gift list? Gift table? For 3 year olds?

Jesus wept.

I think you need to find some new friends.

I dont think i would send a text, but i do think i would be a bit miffed to get a birthday present wrapped in xmas paper.

This is precious beyond belief.

The whole idea of wrapping a gift is to hide the contents. The 3 year old would barely have glanced at it before tearing it open!

We’re in a time where we’re all conscious about waste - reduce, reuse, recycle - I would also use paper I already had rather than buy new especially for the occasion.
Think the mum has issues to be fair! An unwanted Xmas gift you couldn’t even be bothered to rewrap? However did you know you were giving the child a toy and not a box of cuban cigars?

It’s quite scummy to wrap it in Christmas paper 😁
You have huge issues, MonstranceClock. That’s quite a disturbing statement, actually.

I get slightly annoyed if people wrap DSs birthday presents in Xmas paper, but that's because his bday is a few days before Xmas and DH and I work hard to try and separate the two.
I have a friend who has twins and she gets upset if we wrap the two gifts in the same paper as she says that we need to treat the girls as two individuals who happen to share a birthday. I have pointed out that if two, unrelated people shared a birthday I would probably wrap the gifts in the same paper anyways!

I think the mum was a CF for texting you. She should have just said "thank you"

Nobody with two brain cells to rub together cares whether their January-born three-year-old is given a present in Christmas wrapping paper by a child who attends the same nursery. To actually text the child’s parent and complain suggests a major entitlement problem. Or the kind of permanently clenched person who posts about putting ‘pretty display baskets of sanpro’ in their loos for guests.

I can understand why a lifetime of birthdays being lumped in with Christmas would be tedious and make someone feel a little undervalued, but I doubt a 3 year old is really jaded by such small acts yet. Criticising presents like that is just downright rude, especially to fairly casual aquaintances.

@74NewStreet lol. Huge issues.

As someone with a birthday close to Christmas I HATE getting birthday presents wrapped in Christmas paper. Not sure I would have really noticed at three though!!!
But I would never assume it was an actual re-gifted Christmas present!!!! Nor would I complain like that.

I would have said "Sorry you feel that way, but how could i have re-gifted a xmas gift knowing it was something your daughter wanted, without first unwrapping the xmas gift? That wrapping paper was all that was left in my house and i'm shocked by your rude text. Hope your daughter enjoyed her gift, my daughter had a lovely time, thanks for the invite."

I usually find being polite to people and thanking them/being nice whilst telling them that their behavior was not, helps me sit up on my high horse

For what it's worth my birthday is next week and for 30 years i've got my presents in leftover xmas wrapping paper! I couldn't care less, surely it's better not to buy a whole new roll for one present

My birthday is between Christmas and New year and you do get a bit over sensitive about the Christmas birthday thing... I suspect its a little of that. However, what CF to text and say that!

Cheeky cow! Everyone gets birthday presents from me wrapped in Christmas paper, even in summer months, because I always buy too much of the bloody stuff and I always forget to buy birthday paper until the morning of the party.

I always apologise that it’s Christmas paper and people always laugh and say it doesn’t matter, it’s only wrapping paper, their kid won’t even notice they’ll be so busy ripping it off!

How entitled! Does a three year old care what's on the wrapping paper? Is the present for her or her child? It's a bit of paper ffs. How pathetic. And if you did re-gift? So bloody what.