Your examples of bone idle laziness!

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School mum lives down my road. I actually live further from the school than she does and it’s a 7 minute walk for me and DC.
This mum (who is not disabled in any way btw) actually gets in her car and drives her DC to school. I see her parking up back at home on my way back so she’s not dropping DC on the way to work either. This is morning.
WTF!

And wow who pissed on everyone’s chips this morning?!!

Not everyone has a disability. Some people are just lazy.

Some ignorance here about disabilities , just because someone goes to the gym doesn’t mean they have no hidden or otherwise disabilities - she could have social anxiety or one of hundreds of other hidden disabilities It’s none of your business - maybe she drives so she doesn’t have to encounter nosey neighbours with nothing better to do than criticise others

I slept with the light on last night because I couldn’t be bothered to get up and turn it off.

In my defence, I have chronic arthritis and I was in pain. I could’ve texted DH to come and turn it off, but I knew he’d have fallen asleep in front of the TV.

We’re in separate rooms because I wriggle too much with pain.

The road outside a primary school close to me is now closed mornings and afternoon when children are going in and out.
I now either have to do a big diversion or a u-turn on a busy road if I want to use my car in those times.

Although the street was previously blocked with the 4X4s that you can't do without in central London belonging to mothers too lazy to walk to school or park condierately, so doesn't make too much difference.

My neighbour is just lazy. We live less than 200m from the school. Each morning we walk past her getting into her car. Then pass her again when she's parked up round the corner. On my way in the front door she's usually pulling up, after having to try and u turn in the grid locked traffic.

And wow who pissed on everyone’s chips this morning?!!

Not everyone has a disability. Some people are just lazy.

I was thinking along the same lines. We often get the same proclamations about apparently nasty older people maybe having dementia. Yes, plenty of people do suffer from dementia, and it's a cruel and heartbreaking illness which can make otherwise nice people behave appallingly through absolutely no fault of their own. But it doesn't change the fact that some people - young and old - present as nasty people purely because they have used their own free will and chosen to be nasty people.

Of course, if somebody chooses to drive to school when it would otherwise take 3 minutes to walk, that's entirely up to them. They may have a very good reason for doing so, as elaborated on above, or they may just be bone idle. Just as there are a lot of disabled folk, there are also a lot of bone idle folk too.

Personally, I would have thought that genuinely disabled people would want to distance themselves from those who are just lazy, rather than trying to justify their choices and de facto welcoming them into the same fold.

Of course, it's entirely an individual's choice, and nobody should be shamed for it, but surely it blurs the lines between those with a good reason and those without and invariably will lead to the two being amalgamated in many people's minds, the result being that genuine disability will be downgraded in people's common understanding.

Plus, it also means that the precious few parking spaces near schools that disabled parents or children might desperately need end up getting taken by those who, in the scheme of things, won't actually benefit from them.

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Do you really think that able bodied parents don’t park in the disabled spaces? Or on double yellows? All places I’m legally allowed to park. The head put a comment in the newsletter and regularly asked parents to park legally. To no avail. No one gives a shit about the disabled person. People ignored me as much as possible, friends dropped me. Why would I publicise I’m disabled?

Discovering that DD6 was no longer a genuine bedwetter but was weeing in her DryNites Pull-ups in the night and first thing in the morning so that she didn’t have to get out of her cosy bed to use the toilet.

I think that wins the laziness prize!

Do you really think that able bodied parents don’t park in the disabled spaces? Or on double yellows? All places I’m legally allowed to park. The head put a comment in the newsletter and regularly asked parents to park legally. To no avail. No one gives a shit about the disabled person. People ignored me as much as possible, friends dropped me. Why would I publicise I’m disabled?

No, I know that able-bodied people park anywhere they can near the school - legally and illegally. Some may have a good cause to (the legal spaces anyway), others may well not. That also kind of underlines my point - you are legally allowed to park on double yellows because you have a genuine need to be able to park. If an able-bodied person has parked there illegally, that takes away your legal and necessary options.

I'm not saying you should have to publicise that you're disabled (although the law does obviously require you to display your blue badge if parking on double yellows). FWIW, I'm disabled too - I have a neurological condition which makes it feel like I'm wearing armour most of the time I walk for any distance at all. This causes me a lot of pain and exhaustion, but, fortunately for me, I'm not (yet) in a position of needing to apply for a blue badge. I know very well how nasty some people can be when it comes to disabilities and even most well-meaning folk clearly just don't have any understanding of how limiting it is. I too don't like to publicise my own circumstances.

What I'm largely getting from this thread is the assumption that lazy people somehow don't exist and that everybody driving very short distances must therefore be disabled. I don't see how that helps the genuinely disabled in any way at all - it merely downgrades their circumstances by lumping them in with the lazy, and I'm astonished that disabled folk seem to be sweepingly defending EVERYBODY who acts as if they have needs that they really don't.

I'm not saying that people should be challenged, harassed or visually 'diagnosed', but take the case of the woman mentioned upthread who, since childhood, has done anything she possibly can to avoid doing any washing up. Do we just have to assume that she must have had severely painful arthritis for her whole life - even though I'm guessing she IS able to do lots of fun things that involve using her hands that genuine arthritis sufferers just could not do - or are we allowed to suggest that she just might be lazy? Another PP then states that they use paper plates out of choice because they are lazy. There's nothing wrong with being lazy, as long as you don't then take advantage of others in so being - but it is worlds apart from being disabled and unable to do things (at least without significant difficulty).

I agree with you that the way disabled people are treated by society (and government) is appalling. I just don't see how widening the definition of disabled to include everybody who effectively 'self-identifies' as disabled - i.e. lazy - actually helps the cause of genuinely disabled people.

To use a commonly-highlighted MN scenario by way of analogy, if a 6'6" 25-stone weightlifter who used to be known as Kevin now decides to identify as female, that is entirely their legal right - but if that person should then go on to say that:

1. I am female
2. I am not frightened of being attacked or raped.
3. Therefore, all females have no cause to fear attack or rape, because I am female and I don't - and any who try to raise genuine concerns are just attention-seeking and fussing about nothing....

Who are the losers in this situation?

There may be a valid reason why. I’ve done it a few times and I live about 5/10 mins walk to the school. My son looks healthy but is in and out of hospital ( you wouldn’t know it unless you knew me ) and is too big for a push chair now and struggles with the walk when he’s getting over it. I also drove the other day when I had a sickness bug as If I threw up I’d rather do it in the car than walking to school. You just never know.

Is it really worth getting worked up about this?

With the state of the environment/climate etc, yes, it is.

One of my colleagues literally lives a three minute stroll from work and yet drives in every day. She's also late every day 😂

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It’s ok I’m not a total fun sponge. I thought the comment about the washing up woman was hilarious. As were many other posts.

Yes, I get your analogy. My point, which I mentioned upthread is that if op wanted lighthearted, she should have been a bit more careful. As a disabled person, it’s the fact that someone out there could be making the same assumptions about me and laughing about me. My family do and have and it’s hurtful. Do you see?

Sorry you’re also struggling too.

I have a 10 minute walk to my son's preschool but usually drive. Because a) it takes my son at least 30 minutes to walk because he wants to stop and look at everything, which means I'm rushing him, and there then end up being tantrums....and b) I work from home and often have to be back online ASAP.

I currently do this, my sons school is a 10 min walk away and we drive in and have done for the past 10 weeks. I'm pregnant and really struggling with sickness, so it's a lot nicer to hide out and do what's needed in the car, and not in-front it loads of parents like you who would probably judge me, start rumours of suspected drug use etc for being sick.

Just because they have no obvious disability does not mean something may not be going on. Stop being so judgemental.

My sister delivers takeaways... one woman has hers not just delivered but put through the door (door is left unlocked) so she doesn't have to go answer the door.

She lives two doors down from the takeaway shop.

Lazy.. or sheer genius? Really if it's not inconveniencing YOU... leave folk to it.

My dad once asked me to pop to the neighbours house two doors up to ask him to come round for something or other. He drove. Two doors down.

I dare say i will be back with a few as they come to me....

On new years i watched my neighbor go collect his 2 year old from up the hill in the car. It was no more than 200 meters lol.
Up the hill is still in the back yard, we watched the whole thing from their back door
Me and his DW were pissing ourselves laughing

Dp wants to convert a golf cart or old people scooter into a fishing cart, to avoid walking the jetty with his rods, net, bucket and tackle box. He wont be the first in this town lol

I often pick things up with my toes rather than bend down...

One of my colleagues literally lives a three minute stroll from work and yet drives in every day. She's also late every day

That's actually more common than one might think - the being late, that is.

If you know it takes you 30-45 minutes depending on traffic, you factor in your travel time as a significant thing and you'll tend to allow the best part of an hour for it.

If it's 3 minutes, your mind can easily 'round' it down to practically nothing and not bother to factor it in at all*. Because you haven't factored it in, not only do you not allow any time for it, but you also don't allocate any of your mind to it. One of the things that you have allowed time for, such as breakfast, shower, dressing etc will invariably overrun, meaning that you have to work the overrun time into your schedule along with the 3 minutes that you already disregarded, hence it's almost impossible not to be late.

It's kind of related to the principle that, if you live in London, you'll probably never have found time to do a lot of the exciting local things that would have taken a couple of hours out of your spare time; as you could do them almost any time, you end up never doing them any time. People who've made the effort and spent the time and money coming over from Japan or the USA make certain that they do do everything as they may not get the chance again for years if indeed ever in their lives.

* in terms of valuing the importance of the time it takes, you are floccinaucinihilipilificating. Do I win the MN/JRM prize for pretentiousness today?!

Thanks for that, Mummyoflittledragon - I do very much take your point. It's not all black and white.

Who really cares? Lazy to me means not caring who thinks I am lazy. I really don't care. Same goes for vacuuming and cleaning. That's why I have a man who does it all for me. Bless him.

I took early retirement, so my bed is my sanctuary. LOL. And as for the lazy thing, I bring my yogurt up to bed, so that when I wake up I don't have to descend anywhere for sustenance first thing!

Loving this thread. All hail the Lazies..

I breast fed DD (for ages) purely because I couldn’t be arsed with bottles/ milk powder etc.

I never plan anything in advance just wing everything. (It’s always fine)

I’m sat in an obstacle course of a living room right now because I can’t be bothered to tidy up today’s mayhem and mess.

I’m the proud epitome of laziness.
Do I care if Jane up to road judges me? Do I fuck!

My sister delivers takeaways... one woman has hers not just delivered but put through the door (door is left unlocked) so she doesn't have to go answer the door.

Until you clarified that she leaves her door unlocked, I was imagining her thought processes - "Hmm, so it'll have to be pizza yet again and diameter necessitating a box no wider than a large letter. The letterbox is halfway up the door, so I'll have to order extra cheese to act as glue to stop the dry toppings from flying loose as it travels south towards the doormat. Nevertheless, something spherical like olives might still be shaken loose by the friction as the pizza box is forced through the little black furry fence behind the opening, so I'd better go for something like pepperoni with a larger base surface-area and lower centre of gravity ...."

The fight back against the dawn runners and gym goers has begun....And as for the two hour or so daily dogwalking slog... OK you may enjoy it as does your dog, but that's a no from me.

About bloody time us lazies got a voice.

What's wrong about being lazy anyway? Explain......

Each to their own IMV.