Is anyone else's dp/dh just really bloody annoying?

[Mashaandthebearr]

Every evening my dp complains about how cold he is, never wants the heating off.. And yet he's walking around the house in a t-shirt and shorts. God give me the bloody strength!!

Yesterday he left a big wet towel on my side of the bed, every time he removes his socks he rolls them off into balls and I have to roll the bloody things back out to wash them. He also does this weird thing with his teeth where he like, sucks through them over and over again after he's finished eating? His whole family do it, anytime I ask him what the actual fuck he's doing and why, he just shrugs.

So I'm in the mood for a bit of a winge, obviously, please tell me how much your dp/dhs annoy you, so I can prevent myself strangling him in his sleep.

CosmoK each to their own I suppose, I personally prefer to do it myself, although if he notices the basket getting full he will always do it. I never, ever hoover the stairs, partly due to being pregnant, but mostly because I just hate doing it. We tend to stick to our preferred tasks.

I don’t do my own washing, H does it. I have a huge phobia of touching things and would rather cut my hands off than touch worn socks (sick).

He does stick his tongue out when he eats though, as though he’s a lizard gathering in his food. So don’t feel too bad for him.

Anyone else want to express their annoyance? Was rather enjoying them..

Why would I have the washing machine on twice, using two lots of electricity, detergent and water when it can all go in one load??
And no, it's not always the women who do the laundry.
Anyhow, I've just remembered another that drives me mad.
When he's at home, he puts the clothes on the bed in the spare room to avoid waking me the next morning.
All good. Except......
I hear his alarm clock go off, followed by the dog gate opening and closing as he goes through it ( it's across our bedroom door to stop the dog coming in) him whispering to the dog, followed by the bathroom light pinging on, tap running, loo flushing, more whispering to the dog, spare room light going on and off, spare room door opening and closing, him going down the stairs, kettle being put on, crockery being rattled, him talking to the dog before finally hearing the front door closing and his car starting.
According to him, he has a shower in the evening and gets dressed in the spare room because he doesn't want to disturb me on a morning!!!!!! 😂

He refuses to put my laundry away into my drawers and wardrobe because according to him a woman's drawers are private. My pointing out that we have kids, so therefore he's been in my drawers more than once falls on deaf ears 😂
He refuses to go in my handbags or purse either, which is annoying sometimes if he asks for something out of it.
Have you got any £1 coins?
In my purse.
Where's your purse?
In my bag, help yourself.
No, he brings the entire bag and stands like a kid waiting for his pocket money.

Why would a healthy adult need another adult to do their personal care? Dirty clothes are personal, I can't get my head around the number of people who do it for their menfolk

I find this weird too. So I should sort out my whites, coloureds, delicates and wash them separately to DH just so I’m not ‘doing his wash’? What would be the point of that? (He does the laundry in the main in our house by the way).

A lot of these are not minor irritations they are classic ‘shit husbands’.

Mine does the tongue out when eating, has a clicky jaw so is noisy, and must have a fear of cleaning either the hob or the toilet as he never seems to do it.

He’s ok in the main though

Mine is also a 'symptom stealer'. Got a headache? He has a worse one. Got a cough? Cue overexagerated coughing from him. Broken an arm? He'll suddenly have an injury that's worse.

Why would I have the washing machine on twice, using two lots of electricity, detergent and water when it can all go in one load??
And no, it's not always the women who do the laundry.

I don't wash my clothes until i have enough for a full load...DH is the same. I do one wash of normal clothes, one wash of underwear and dedicates per week and whites every two weeks. No half loads here....

And a cursory glance of MN will demonstrate that is overwhelmingly women that do the laundry.
DH has been doing his own washing since he was 13...why would that stop just because he as a wife?

I'm a man and I like to think I don't do these things, but...

I do the T-shirt even when I'm cold thing. I'm sorry. I find jumpers uncomfortable even when I'm cold. More so than being cold.

I could probably be more diligent at unrolling my socks for the wash, but I do a good half of the laundry and throw them in like that myself, so it's like I'm expecting the clothes fairy to sort it out.

If I left a wet towel on the bed I suspect the police would find me hanging by it next to an unconvincing 'suicide note.'

My partner mentions quite frequently how much an exaggerating drama queen her ex was when he had even a slight cold. There's a slight undertone of 'and I won't put up with that moany shit again' to it. I keep this in mind. She's very lovely when I am ill, presumably because I don't make a fuss.

Mine is also a 'symptom stealer'. Got a headache? He has a worse one. Got a cough? Cue overexagerated coughing from him. Broken an arm? He'll suddenly have an injury that's worse

That sounds bloody infuriating. Myself and dp had an argument when ds was a newborn at 7am when he was leaving for work and I mentioned how tired I was. Dp responded 'atleast you don't have to go out in the freezing cold and work'... Well post partum exhausted little me did not like that.

I told him it wasn't a fucking competition and practically booted him out the front door. Possibly a bit of an over reaction, but he hasn't done it since 😂

I can't stand dirty clothes laying around in a wash basket @CosmoK
However, he does his share of the laundry, as do my married son's and my father.
Let's not derail a thread though eh 🙂

In answer to the laundry questions:

We all have our own laundry baskets.

I do all my stuff at 30 degrees and haven't separated colours out for years.

When I was single, I didn't do any half washes. I put the wash on when I had a full load to do. Do single people lack for laundry to fill their machine with? How did this work before you cohabited?

We both do DSs laundry, as he's a kid and can't do it himself.

I don't want anyone but myself handling my worn clothes, as it feels very personal. My used coffee cup and my dirty knickers are not comparable.

I'm not saying DP isn't annoying, he is. But adults doing other adults washing baffles me. My best friend lifts her DHs filthy gym kit from the floor where he chucks it and hands it back to him fresh and clean. What the effing what is that all about.

Mine stares at the dishwasher with his arms folded. Before he relents and empties it. Like he's thinking it through. Or gathering the courage. Or just wondering why the fuck it's not empty.

Also looks over at me when I'm eating. I'm like - Fuck off and watch the tv! 🥴

This is great 😂

I don't understand how it's functional for a household to all do separate washing, that makes no sense to me. We all put it in the basket and when it gets full, one of us puts it on 🤷🏼‍♀️ I'd say DP puts the washing on 40% of the time. I do slightly more because I work from home so it's easy for me to just stick it on in between working.

Things that drive me insane with my DP -
-The sock thing - he either leaves them in a ball or rolls them into pairs before putting them in the wash basket 🤔 they get left like that then he moans that they're damp or not properly clean.
-He follows me round the bed at night! Don't get me wrong I love a cuddle but then I like to peel off and have some space to sleep, he doesn't even know he's doing it as he's fast asleep but it's like he's got a bloody tracking device, wherever I move he follows and clings on to me like a limpet!

• Once he gets his phone out he goes into zombie mode, I get better conversation out of the dog. And he's oblivious to the fact that time passes when he's on his phone so while he's mindlessly scrolling through utter bullshit and we need to be somewhere, I have to physically remove the phone from his grasp to get him to realise that the world still continues even when he sticks that stupid screen to his stupid face!

Rant over I actually really love his face, just not when it's staring at his phone!

Oh, and the questions.....
Where's the? ( insert item )
Have you see the? ( Insert item )
According to his himbo, because he's not at home often, he doesn't know where anything is, because apparently I keep moving stuff.
What? Like your car keys that you had in your hands only a couple of hours ago??

I can't stand dirty clothes laying around in a wash basket @CosmoK*
However, he does his share of the laundry, as do my married son's and my father.*

We both work full time and have a child. I don't have time do more loads of washing. Once a week is more than enough!

My DH decided to drop a used towel right in front of the washing machine instead of taking an extra second to open the door and put it inside.
When I asked him why he did that with a picture attached (he had already left to work by the time I got to the kitchen) , he says and I quote “I didn’t know whether the clothes inside the machine were clean?!”.
I could have strangled him if he were in front of me.
He is annoying in many many other ways but this is the latest in the ever increasing list.

I don't do the washing @CosmoK the machine does it for me.
As I said, let's not derail the OPs thread. We can always start a washing wars thread if our own if needs be 🙂

Great thread! Just reading through all the posts!

Great thread! Just reading through all the posts!

Ooops, not sure why that posted twice sorry.

Mine does the sock ball thing, this also makes them drop to the bottom of the washing basket...
He puts stuff in the dishwasher in the wrong places even when he's seen me take them back out and put them in the right place numerous times.
When he empties it, he randomly stacks bowls mixed up the cupboard so we end up with a teetering tower of cereal and pasta bowls.
He puts the knives and forks in the drawer randomly rather than separated.
He makes a clicking noise when he eats.
He snores and makes loads of other annoying noises when he's asleep.
He faffs for Britain, usually when we are about to leave the house, making us late.
He waggles his feet up and down when he's sat still.
The list is endless really....

@yearinyearout LOL.

Mine does this thing where he says

'we need to get the car washed'
'we need to get more kettle filters'
'we need to book the boiler in for a service'

Well if it needs to be done just bloody do it then!!! what he really means is he's noticed it needs doing but i'm the one who actually needs to take the initiative to do the thing.

drives me nuts

After YEARS of removing pants from inside of jeans, emptying pockets, sorting sleeves out, un-balling socks etc before doing the laundry, DH gallantly offered to take over laundry duties (after I had an epic shouting rage about how I was sick sick SICK of all the fucking laundry!!)

How happy I was until he had the absolute gall to tell me off for leaving my socks attached to my leggings when I put them in the washing machine. He was aware I had been sanding furniture in them. I had just slipped everything off carefully and put straight into the machine to stop the wood dust flying everywhere. One fucking time!!! After all the years of dealing with his stuff and he bollocked me for this single occasion!!

Also, his face in the middle of the night. Just annoys me when I see it.