Can I refuse to discuss my reasons at my DCs next immunisation?

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I feel like a failure having to even ask this.

I have a DC overdue for their most recent immunisation. They were also on a late schedule with the 2 previous rounds.
The reason behind this is that my first DC had a very worrying reaction the day after their immunisations and ended up with a same day GP app, followed by a quite urgent referral to the hospital for the day after which the symptoms went away on their own and the doctors basically said "we don't know what, why or how this happened but they look ok now." and sent us home.

This has basically made me a nervous wreck every time a letter comes through about DCs immunisations. I know it's stupid and irrational. I always make an appointment in the end but it takes me some time to come around to it and I spend the days before and after with a lump in my throat and watching for any symptoms and checking them at night.
I have mentioned it at my DCs previous immunisations only for it to be met with "oh well that's not great anyway it's important for them to have them so let's do this" - I don't want to discuss this any further with any GPs I just want them done and dusted.

I have just booked DCs next ones and the receptionist on the phone sounded very shocked and outraged that they're late with them. She asked my reasons which I wouldn't go into and she implied that SS could be involved if I am not cooperative/forthcoming.

I am now a complete and utter nervous wreck in anticipation for the appointment.
I feel like I have failed as a mum to my wonderful LOs and I don't deserve them.
I really don't want to be going into the reasons behind this with the GP/ nurse again as I feel like an idiot.

Can they really refer me to SS if I refuse to discuss my reasons for late immunisations?

You don’t have to justify yourself. I put an official complaint about my health visitor after she went way beyond what was appropriate in trying to get me to vaccinate my child. SS won’t care and the receptionist needs to wind her neck in frankly.
My child also suffered a reaction, a very severe one which has left me with ptsd (diagnosed by a psychiatrist before Anyone says anything) so I totally understand your aversion to it.

You’re not obliged to give your reasons to a receptionist

You’re not obliged to give your reasons to anyone, doctors included. My reasons don’t make a difference to their immunisation status so I don’t need to give them. Simple as that.

Oliversmumsarmy that's absolutely no excuse for not getting vaccinations, especially if you home school ffs - not even like you need to get time off work

But if the gps aren’t that bothered why should I be.

Getting an appointment 5 months in advance?
Even when I turned up to one such appointment they swore blind they would have never given me such an appointment and didn’t have us down.

Then gave me another appointment 4 months in advance

Where does it say I didn’t work?

Just because I Home schooled doesn’t mean I didn’t also work.

My life doesn’t have a routine to it.

I can’t tell you what I am going to be doing or where I am going to be 3 weeks on Monday. Let alone a date in May or June

I was also by default a single parent as Dp used to fly around the world for work so could be gone for a fortnight or more and I had another child who had her own timetable.

@Oliversmumsarmy erm maybe you should be bothered because it's your child's health you're putting at risk?

You book and appointment and you stick to it. If other things crop up you work them around your appointment. If your GP has a history of messing up appointment times, you phone two days before to confirm the appointment is still booked and take the name of the person you confirm with.

You can’t be referred to SS for being late to immunise or even for not immunising. Some parents choose not to for a myriad of stupid reasons.

GiveHerHellFromUs

My gps are an absolute joke.

No one I know really goes there anymore expecting to be cured.

They have taken over every gp practice within several miles and now you are subject to their brand of medicine which is just how they can fib you off without treating you.

After the SS involvement Ds was so scared he has refused to go near any medical person again.

Ever tried getting a 6ft tall 13 stone 14 year old to a doctor’s when he has been warned if another medical person reports him to SS he will be taken away.

@Oliversmumsarmy I don't know if I'm missing something here.
I assumed you meant he missed his jabs as a young child, not as a teen.

What jabs has he had to have as a teen where they've threatened to report him to SS?

Imo at 14 he's old enough to make his own decisions anyway so if that's the case ignore everything I've said

My DC had his late and the doctors and health visitor threatened to report me to social services - it was only a month late! I told them to shove their services where the sun doesn’t shine and swapped doctors and got rid of the health visitor.
Social services can’t do anything about jabs, and would probably laugh getting a referral over that.

I can’t tell you what I am going to be doing or where I am going to be 3 weeks on Monday. Let alone a date in May or June

If I had an appointment booked on that Monday then that's what I'd be doing.

Wow I didn't expect so many replies on this.

Thank you to the posters who have tried to reassure me they can't actually report me anywhere.
Just to clarify there are no other concerns re DC, one is in school and one in nursery and both are doing fine and developing lovely.

We initially set up a schedule with the nurse/dr to catch up on the ones DC missed so they had 2 lots within 2 or 3 months a few months ago. Apparently they were due for another one a month after the last ones but we never set up an appointment (we did the first 2 in advance) and I started worrying about how much their system has had over the last couple of months when the letters started coming through and it threw me right back to DC1.
I did mean to make an appointment sooner but we've had a few illnesses in between which made me put it off as well.

But I don't want to go in justifying myself and making excuses. I just want them done because I think it's important but I don't want any condescending attitudes (I've had some of that with both DCs and Hvs etc) and trying to get me to explain myself or make stupid comments like the lady over the phone.

And @gamerwidow I have in no way been influenced by antivaxxers and I am stumped as to how you got that from my OP.