Inappropriate conversation?

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Would this upset you??
Boyfriend texting friend discussing a certain celebs breasts.
Whether she had implants or not, how magnificent they are and what he would like to do with them.
My aibu is that his friend is a girl and they were both admiring the celebrity.
They are platonic friends for years so it was not an attempt at being sleazy towards her I think,
Although I have wondered in past about their relationship
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It's not great is it?

No it's not I guess.
Maybe it's because it his friend who is a woman I'm sad.

‘Man interested in breasts shocker’.

Everyone has their own boundaries but I would find this deeply offputting, regardless of the friend/relationship, if it was a male friend it would be just as bad.

You say that your AIBU is that it's a female friend though, if you genuinely wouldn't be bothered about those texts if they were to a male friend then I think you need to raise this with him and explain to him why it makes you uncomfortable.

That depends, is he 14?

I understand that he is normal in that he likes to look but am I being too sensitive with his words towards his friend

He would go so far down in my estimation that I'd have to tell him to fuck off.

No he is in his thirties!
I don't think it would affect me as
Much if it was a male friend and also him describing what he would do to them
Grim

He sounds awful.

I get that he is boob obsessed and I get that he admires them but to describe to his female friend exactly what he would like to do to them makes me deeply uncomfortable and it feels disrespectful to me. Is it?

Man likes breasts- totally normal. Man in his 30s talking about breasts like an adolescent boy, pretty grim.

Only you know what is normal for you in your relationship and what you are comfortable with, and if you feel you can raise this with him.

What is your issue, him being interested in/discussing breats or who he is discussing them with?

I agree it's normal for him to like breasts and look and admire them.

Describing exactly what he wants to do to them is taking it a bit far for me personally and I'd find that a bit disrespectful.

How do you think he would react if you texted a male friend describing in graphic detail just what you would do with a celebrity's penis?

I think both issues. It feels dirty and grim and degrading but also to feel comfortable discussing exactly what he would like to do to her to his friend , which was explicit , made me feel bad. I have small boobs too so maybe I am being sensitive.

Very immature and disrespectful behaviour that I cannot imagine from an adult in a relationship.

It's degrading and disrespectful. I wonder what 'kick his female friend is getting out of the discussions.

Would he like you to talk with a male or female friend about a penis photo and what you would like to do with it?

I get that he is boob obsessed and I get that he admires them but to describe to his female friend exactly what he would like to do to them makes me deeply uncomfortable and it feels disrespectful to me. Is it?
Yes.
He sounds like a schoolboy. Very immature. Not ready for a grown-up relationship. I think, if he is obsessed with breasts as you say, then he will continue to behave in his way. Could you put up with that kind of behaviour if you were married to him? Is his head going to be turned and him go off with someone with bigger boobs who makes a play for him?

Man talking about what he'd like to do to magnificent breasts with a platonic female friend when he's married.

Yeah I'd consider that inappropriate, and honestly a way for the conversation in an overtly sexual direction when it shouldn't.

Thing is, relationships and people and friendships are different. It's difficult for us to give really good answers without a better idea of what you both would have thought normal before this.

I think he would be shocked as I am not into that kind of sexual commentary. I would never engage in that.
His friend and he often engage in sexual discussion, not related to us, and often share memes and videos of a sexual and graphic nature but not illegal or anything of such.

OP you are not being over sensitive or anything like that. If you feel disrespected and uncomfortable, that is how you feel and you are absolutely allowed to feel that.

Please let him know how it makes you feel, no-one on this thread has said "Yeah that's totally normal, my DH does stuff like this and I'm fine with it" so hopefully that's reassured you a bit.

I wouldn't be compatible with a man who openly letches over women like a randy dog. Yuk!

This type of commentary is not our normal conversation.
We don't share photos of our bits. We share photos of our faces or if we are going out to an event but he and his friend do this too.
Perhaps he disrespects his friend by doing this and not me ? He knows I don't like it.

Oh my god, that is absolutely not appropriate. I would be unhappy if my DH did this with a male friend, let alone a female one. Talking to another woman about something that turns him on is the thin end of the wedge IMO. I don't care if that makes me sound uptight - I would not be ok with this.

It really doesn't matter if any of us would be comfortable with it. You're not comfortable with it for reasons you can't articulate and that's ok!

Yes personally I think it's way out of line. He's a 30 year old man perving over tits like a teenage boy. It would be grim to be even if it was a male friend however I think chatting like that with a female friend is an opening for him to get off on sexual chat with another woman.

If a male friend sent me this kind of message about a female celebrity I admired, I would be telling him where to get off for being so fucking sleazy about her body.

It sounds a bit as though he's got problems with separating women as people from what he wants to do to them...