Inappropriate conversation?

[returnspolicystinks]

Would this upset you??
Boyfriend texting friend discussing a certain celebs breasts.
Whether she had implants or not, how magnificent they are and what he would like to do with them.
My aibu is that his friend is a girl and they were both admiring the celebrity.
They are platonic friends for years so it was not an attempt at being sleazy towards her I think,
Although I have wondered in past about their relationship
Much thanks. I

I did not think for a moment that he had any sexual thoughts about his friend.
They share the same humour and are very open sexually.I am reserved and shy.

Longblonde - totally agree, they're pretty much sexting. I feel both of them will be enjoying the sexual chat.

Like u say, that's not like you (it wouldn't be me either). He's clearly enjoying the chat with her. It's grim, why can't he just keep it to himself, or why's he telling her and not you what he'd like to to do to someone else's boobs (🤮) - because it's wrong in my opinion.

A h, it is what men do

@returnspolicystinks

I agree with some of the posters on this thread. His behaviour sounds very immature.

Jesus Christ. He is sharing sexual pictures with friends, describing sexual things he wants to do? That is deeply inappropriate, disrespectful and vile.

It is the old "my wife won't do this so I have to do it with someone else" shit. If your wife doesn't want to do it, you don't get to do it. Or, you decide to be a free agent so you can do what you want.

Exactly what @OoohTheStatsDontLie said.

Just imagine if you messaged a male friend describing in detail how magnificent another man's penis was and the things you would do to it. It's disgusting and really quite disrespectful. Made even worse that he's messaging that to another woman. It all sounds really immature and disgusting.

Man being interested in boobs - totally normal. This however I'd say is over stepping the mark.

He's getting off on talking to one woman about what he'd do to another.

returnspolicy I think you're making excuses for him, tbh. I'm a very open person sexually with my DH. Not one person on this thread has said that they would be comfortable with this. It's highly inappropriate. I would not be surprised if they were shagging, tbh.

Oh for Pete's sake... Way tamer than several thousand conversation I've heard among other women about men... Carry on acting scandalised everyone.

Cheeserton A group of women talking about sex, whilst having a few glasses of wine, is not the same as you (assuming you're female) texting a male friend about your blow job technique and describing in detail how you would suck off Brad Pitt. Surely you can see the difference?

It depends slightly on the context. Was it serious or joky?

Ask him how he'd feel if you were texting a male friend about how great Chris Hemsworth's cock must be and how much you'd like to give him a blowjob and lovingly swallow his load.

Oh for Pete's sake... Way tamer than several thousand conversation I've heard among other women about men... Carry on acting scandalised everyone.

Hang round a pub at chucking out time, or just stand around in a pub for a bit, and yes, you'd hear a lot worse from men and women. However, that's not what the OP is bothered about. This is a situation specific to her and I don't blame her for being annoyed and deeply uncomfortable. My DP likes breasts, but he'd rather chew his own leg off than text a female friend with intimate details of what he'd like to do with another woman's boobs. And I'd dump him if he did this (the sexting, if he chewed his leg off I'd be very worried about him).

Another one of the male species who view women as pleasure objects .

The context was serious about the woman's breasts being awesome and if they were real and after that he told his friend exactly what he would do to them in a serious but jokey way too, because his friend responded by telling him he was a sleazy fucker with laughing emojis.

I did not think for a moment that he had any sexual thoughts about his friend.
They share the same humour and are very open sexually.I am reserved and shy.

I think you’re putting yourself down. You’re not at fault. This is inappropriate behaviour. Try imagining yourself discussing celeb penises with a male friend. Cringeworthy, isn’t it?

Why would he do this and why would his female friend reply? What’s in it for her? Are you sure there’s no frisson between them? It just seems highly weird - and completely disrespectful to you.

That’s the important point. He doesn’t seem to care about you at all. He’s quite happy to continue to do something you don’t like, and even if you hadn’t said you didn’t like it, anyone would realise it’s disrespectful without having to be told.

Apart from the 🤮 factor, it’s the disrespect towards you that strikes me most. I’m sure you could do better than him.

He's gross, she's gross. Yes, I've heard far worse, so what?

I have no time for this sort of woman who pals about with men trying to be one of them and no time for men who sleaze over women like this.

He's sexting. That's an issue.

Thanks. I didn't see this as sexting whatsoever just two friends with potty mouths and an admiration for big breasts.He never made any personal comments to his friend nd I don't know about a frisson as I've never met her.
Now I feel worried that he is attracted to her.From photos I see that she has big boobs / voluptuous/ attractive and same age and has same colour hair and skin as celeb whereas I am the exact opposite in appearance, age, figure.

Why have you not met her? I’d suggest you do

So he's talking about big boobs and what he'd like to do with/to them. She has big boobs. I'd be reading very clearly between the lines on that one. He's getting his jollies. And not with you.

Sorry OP. I know how these posts often escalate with LTB and flights of fancy, but REALLY? Why is he having sexually explicit conversations with her? Because he gets something out of it. Totally overstepping the mark and fishing.

If my DH was doing that I'd never trust him again.

This is sexting, basically. The “celebrity” is a Trojan horse for your DP’s sex talk with his friend.

Have you met said friend? I'd be very concerned if he was keeping her secret from you although the whole sexting is concerning in itself. Get rid!

It might be that you're completely right op, they may have no attraction. It might be simply a case of 2 people who have a similar immature humour.
I think as someone pointed out it's a way of talking dirty while maintaining to you that they are just friends. He doesn't even have to be attracted to her to be getting off on those kind of texts.

The point is that you're not ok or comfortable with the explicit nature of the chat between them and that's perfectly fine. It's making you feel disrespected.

It's how he handles your feelings of discomfort now that matters.
If he had any respect for you he'd pack it in.

He has avoided introducing her to me three different times so for example I could have met her but he chose to meet her separately when I was away or working which I found odd as he arranged for them to meet after I told him my hours on those weeks .
Something tells me that he doesn't want me to meet her.