Inappropriate conversation?

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Would this upset you??
Boyfriend texting friend discussing a certain celebs breasts.
Whether she had implants or not, how magnificent they are and what he would like to do with them.
My aibu is that his friend is a girl and they were both admiring the celebrity.
They are platonic friends for years so it was not an attempt at being sleazy towards her I think,
Although I have wondered in past about their relationship
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So you've said that he knows you don't like it. If you've made this clear to him then the question isn't so much is he being disrespectful to you but how much more disrespect are you willing to put up with?

What is your issue, him being interested in/discussing breats or who he is discussing them with?

FFS what the OP described was not “discussing breasts”. He was writing about sexual behaviour he’d like to indulge in with another woman.
Totally inappropriate and upsetting for his girlfriend.

I wouldn't be comfortable with his general attitude. He's behaving like a schoolboy at puberty.

And I wouldn't put up with it.

Are you planning a future? Children? Think very hard about that one.

It's almost like he and his female friend have found a way to do dirty talk while still maintaining there's nothing between them... do men normally describe exactly what they'd do to a woman's body with ANY of their friends?

How did you see these texts, OP?

"what he would like to do with them"

Bleurgh!!!

Seeing a celeb on telly and momentarily commenting to the person you're watching with - "Looks like she's had some work done on those", "Wasn't he completely bald last year?" or "Face lift?!" - they might not be the kindest comments to make, but most of us do that and it's not particularly out of order.

Being on the phone to any friend and thinking to mention it is weird. Then going on to sleaze over what you would like to do with said body parts (possibly not even the famous person themselves, just a particular part of their body) is massively creepy and hugely inappropriate.

Sorry - texting, not phoning - the same applies though.

Sounds like a loser.

Don't scrape the bottom of the barrel.

It's inappropriate! Yanbu

id say it was a bit of a weird dynamic tbh

Perfectly reasonable, assuming you are ok dating a man in his 30s who acts like a boy in his teens.

If you were hoping for a relationship with a grown up then move along, I think.

Vile. If my DH was discussing another woman's breasts like that with anyone (man, woman, inanimate object) I would be disgusted and would not want to continue the relationship. Is his friend straight? If so I would be very concerned that they often discuss sexual topics... get rid OP.

It’s all rather yuk

He's trying to turn his female friend on, isn't he? Boasting about his prowess in the bedroom, how brilliant a lover he would be, because when faced with a good pair of boobs, he would do X, Y and Z.

What did he actually say?

Also, how did you see the messages? If he showed you voluntarily, knowing you have smaller boobs and that you're self conscious about that, then I'd say he's trying to hurt you. Or make you think you're not a great catch.

I wonder how he would feel, if he had (let's say) a 5 inch penis, and he caught you discussing with a male friend, all the different ways you'd suck Billy-Bob's 9 inch whopper?

Believe me, he knows why you don't feel comfortable with it because he's not ten years old and he doesn't seem to care. I'd bin him.

Yuk, I wouldn't like DH to talk about his letching over a celeb's boobs like that to his male friends, female may be worse, maybe not. Thankfully he isn't like that.
Other people may be ok with that, but it's down to you.

Totally inappropriate and disrespectful. Like others have said, it would put me right off him.

Tbh, it sounds rather camp, discussing celebrities and breast augmentation with your girlfriends. Perhaps buy him a Barbie Doll to play with.

I'm relieved to read that I have not overreacted to what I read.
I read his texts, they appear on screen and then I viewed them when I felt iffy, without his knowledge.
I am embarrassed to admit that his messages were explicit in that he was specific about what his tongue and mouth would do.That is hard to write as it makes me cringe a little.
I don't think he was trying to turn her on. She loves talking sexual too but it is all good fun.
I feel insulted.

He knows I don't like it

And there's your answer, OP.

Despite knowing that you do not like this behaviour, he continues to engage in it.

That is what makes this disrespectful on every level. It would be a deal-breaker for me.

He is a grubby worm.

He may not have been trying to turn her on but it sounds like he definitely getting himself off on explicit chat with another woman.
It's all good fun but not for you! The both of them are a pair of shits if you ask me.

I am embarrassed to admit that his messages were explicit in that he was specific about what his tongue and mouth would do

This is so far off "normal" it's mind boggling.

In a round about way, they are sexting.

Even if he didn't text her, let's say you just found a diary with his inner most thoughts in it, and he'd written this down about that celebrity....even that would be inappropriate! He's having detailed sexual fantasies about someone else. You deserve to be someone's number 1.

It would be the end for me. Can't be doing with nonsense like this. I've not met this bell end, and I don't like him. I hate men who think women are just sex objects.

Why can't he just have a wank and be done with it? No need for the sharing of his perv offerings.

He may not have been trying to turn her on but it sounds like he definitely getting himself off on explicit chat with another woman

Indeed. I agree with this entirely.