Inappropriate conversation?

[returnspolicystinks]

Would this upset you??
Boyfriend texting friend discussing a certain celebs breasts.
Whether she had implants or not, how magnificent they are and what he would like to do with them.
My aibu is that his friend is a girl and they were both admiring the celebrity.
They are platonic friends for years so it was not an attempt at being sleazy towards her I think,
Although I have wondered in past about their relationship
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@returnspolicystinks this is worrying OP. I think he does find her attractive and is basically “warming her up”. I’d move on

Well apart from the fact he is indeed a sleazy fucker, as she rightly points out, I think you're being very naive about his thoughts towards her, the fact he doesn't want you to or has prevented you meeting her speaks volumes.

OP he could be having an affair right under your nose and this friendship texting could be part of their flirting.

My exH was constantly texting OW at the end of our marriage, but he changed her name to his male BF name so on lists it looked ok. This could be blatant flirting with his OW, dressed up as joking with a friend.

My friend and I have inappropriate conversations about Tom Hardy and Jason Momoa all the time. Infront of our dhs. Its just banter. You should have enough confidence in your relationship to weather such comments...

If it was a spoken conversation, I would think it inmature, but the fact hes actually written it down gives him time to think whether he's being a knob or not, whether its appropriate or not etc

Kramum completely different scenario. This is a private conversation between the ops partner and a woman she's never met via text. It's not fun banter for the op if she's not even involved.

Youe bf sounds awful

He sounds gross and disrespectful. I wouldnt be ok with my partner describing what he'd do to another woman's tits to another man friend! Let alone a female friend! I'd be considering ending the relationship if I'm honest.

My friend and I have inappropriate conversations about Tom Hardy and Jason Momoa all the time. Infront of our dhs. Its just banter. You should have enough confidence in your relationship to weather such comments...

If all four of you in that scenario are happy with that, that's your business. The OP isn't happy with this situation and many on here agree that they wouldn't be either. So at best the OP and her bf aren't really suited to each other as he thinks these conversations are acceptable and she really doesn't like them. At worst he's sexting another woman and possibly having an affair.

The OP doesn't like this but is unsure of herself. A relationship shouldn't make you doubt your judgement and feel insecure and for that reason alone, I'd end this.

He definitely is not having an affair.we spend all our weekends together and a
Couple of times a week.

He doesn't know I've seen messages but he does know I don't like that type of banter in general and I don't get involved with it.

His sleazy behavior is beyond the pale, OP. He is telling her what he wants to do to her. He is having a sexual experience with the explicit chat and is making a fool of you.

If this were an appropriate friendship you would have met her by now. It suits him to keep you in separate compartments.

Empower yourself by ending things with this sordid disrespectful loser.

He has avoided introducing her to me three different times so for example I could have met her but he chose to meet her separately when I was away or working which I found odd as he arranged for them to meet after I told him my hours on those weeks .
Something tells me that he doesn't want me to meet her

Does she know you exist? Is your partner trying to play the single man either consciously or unconsciously by meeting up with her without you?

Have you asked why you couldn’t meet her? Has she got a partner herself?

Don’t put up with being disrespected. He sounds sleazy.

Surely you can see the difference?

Not really, as I have platonic male friends too, which the OP describes this woman as, and I've experienced loads of such banter between women and men without any actual sexual intent. Somehow it's been invented that he's 'getting off on it' as well, just to embellish the drama...

Cheeserton I have had conversations like that with my female friends in front of our partners. It's all in good fun.
What I've not done is specify an individual Male body part and then in explicit detail describe what I'd like to do with said body part in a way that would make my partner cringe just to type it.

I certainly wouldn't do it with a male friend via text that my husband has never met. Because it's not banter. It's inappropriate.

Something tells me that he doesn't want me to meet her.

Because he likes to sext with her, even if not directly.

I'm sorry OP, but this is a much bigger issue than breasts...

Was it Salma Hayek?

Seriously though, his relationship with his friend sounds fucking grim and I wouldn't want any part of it if I were you.

No matter how often you spend time together, he is communicating with her on a sexual level and is gaining gratification from it.

Thank you for your opinions and sorry for not replying sooner.
I should add that when we are together which is very regularly,he does not even look at his phone or have any contact with anyone else.his attention is on me and he is very attentive.
It happens when we are apart but at times she replies when I am with him.
I have noticed too that it is him who begins these conversations and they are not always sexual or inappropriate. Day to day banter.
She knows I exist as he has told me that he asks her advice about us or recommendations for various leisure activities.
They are friends since uni and they have never been sexual he says.

To answer another question, he arranges meeting her when I am working or am busy.
She is single also.

Until now I thought meeting up with her when I was working was a way of showing me that he prioritised me and worked around me.

Any other thoughts please?

@returnspolicystinks you don’t like this, you have clearly been reading his phone - possibly without his knowledge. We can’t tell you anything more.

I’m sure he does prioritise you, doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to fuck her though. In my experience men that behave like that around me will be after something more. Sexual talk and texting is putting it ‘out there’. If you’re happy with that, fine. Personally I’d take the message and pack my bags. When you’re at home with your first baby, is this the man you want supporting you?

She knows I exist as he has told me that he asks her advice about us or recommendations for various leisure activities.

Oh dear God. He could always just ask you