To be concerned about phone number in husbands wallet.

[Justbeingnosey]

My husband works away a lot. He is a very hard worker and have never had any reason not to trust him.
He is not a drinker.. rarely goes out, and video calls our 7 Yr old and me every evening.

Before he was due to leave to go away again for work I found a card in his wallet.. A printed card.. Like a business card but just with a lady's name and phone number, from one of the countries he's been working in.
I have not confronted him. I have tried calling the number...and have left messages, I have also checked all his phone records and cannot find any calls to the number.
Any ideas of what else I should do before I ask him about it.?

Would you have done the same thing if it’s a mans number?
I get given business cards all the time that I generally ignore but to look polite I put them in my purse and clear them out every few months!

You sound REALLY paranoid

What is the ladys name? Do you recognise it at all? What were on the messages you left on her phone, maybe after the first one she's avoiding you?

@lastqueenofscotland do you not think it is a bit odd that there is no company information on the card?

OP - just speak to him. I’m sure he will have a decent explanation.

Also I was once accused by some bloody bonkers woman for shagging her husband as I had gone back and forth to him on my work landline to his work mobile negotiating a deal. Apparently no one would need him to call that much over work .
I offered her the phone recordings if it shut her up and then she went apeshit. I stopped answering the phone to her after that and she cost her husbands small business a £350k deal.
She may not be answering to you as she’s thinking what the actual fuck

Why are you ringing this number and leaving messages?
Ask him what the number is! Though you’ll have to explain why you’re going through his wallet.

The business card had just a first name. Pretty flowers no other information.. Not your typical business card. And only 2 other cards in wallet Hope I am just being paranoid.

Erm ask him? I would have skipped the ringing and messaging and just asked “oh DH what’s this?”

Ah come on @lastqueenofscotland that’s so not a business card that the OP is describing!

It doesn’t sound great OP sorry

You left messages... Has your DH done anything to make you suspect anything? Because a printed card with a woman’s name and number on it could be very innocent, and work related. If it is innocent leaving messages might turn out to be highly embarrassing for you all.

When I called the number I was just trying to find out who / what it was think I was imagining massage something like that. Answerphone message in different language.
I left one message saying I had been passed her number by a friend and was interested if she could help with some visitors/clients coming to her country.

So reading your update makes it a little bit more peculiar but could still be innocent. I’d confront your DH before you start leaving messages on a women’s phone. 1. If it’s innocent, you’ll all be very embarrassed and 2. If it’s not innocent, you’ve potentially given her the heads up, which may in turn give your DH time to fabricate a story.

Did you google the phone number?

Google the number

Yes it's a mobile phone number in a European country.

You've done what you could now just ask him.

Yes, I’d ask him. Face to face though, if he’s already left don’t ask him on the phone. You need to be able to see his reaction.

Wow - can't a married man have female contacts anymore? Doesn't sound like there is much trust in your relationship.

As Guacamole has already said by ringing the number and leaving messages you have given your OH the heads up that you are on to him (if he's been up to something). He will have his story ready now and she will NEVER answer the phone to you now.

So if you trust him why were you going through his wallet? It's not the sort of thing I do unless my DH has asked me to get card / cash out of it.

Would you not think that a card with just a woman's first name and no business details is a bit odd StoneofDestiny?

I certainly would.

Have you googled the name along with the number to see if anything comes up?

How suspicious is the name?

If it's Jane Smith, I'd not be too worried

If it's Lola Von BlowJob, I'd probably bring it up with him over dinner ...

Snowmonster the messages I left were just me making an enquiry..I was coming from the angle thinking the card came from someone in a strip club / massage parlour? / given to my husband.
I wouldn't have thought many women would create a card just with their first name and mobile number on? I left no identifying details on the message.
He is not going to be working in that area for the next few months.....I know I will have to have a chat with him. Just trying to get my head straight first.

Wow... she could just be trying to be 'edgy', I have seen similar.

I would just ask your husband. But I wouldn't be worried at this point.

If it’s a mobile number try entering it into the Facebook search bar, it may be linked to a profile.

If it were my DH I’d just ask him who it was. His reaction will tell you a lot unless he’s an excellent liar.