To expect more from the teachers?

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Sorry this probably isn't a aibu but I am going to speak to my sons teachers in the morning and I wanted as many opinions as I could get.

My son is 5 and started reception in September since the start of term I have had to sign the accident book 6 times regarding another child hurting him. These have ranged from pushing him over to slapping him in the face and today punching him in the chest. When I went in to speak to the teachers about it I was told he has behavioural issues and doesn't understand playing, he loves my son and lashes out when he doesn't get his full attention. (apparently my son isn't the only one getting hurt but I am yet to find a parent who is in the same boat as me)
This childs parents and the school are working together to try and stop this, he isn't allowed out a playtime and can choose 1 friend to stay in with him.
Today when I signed the accident book my son had told the teacher it was an accident and that said child didn't mean it. After talking to DS he told me the child walked over and punched him in the chest during a game, I said this isn't an accident and he replied mummy he was just getting to excited, don't worry he's not very strong its doesn't hurt me.
I feel terrible that my DS is now making excuses for this child and I think it may be because the teachers have tried to explain that this child doesn't mean it.

I dont really know how to go about this as he is my PFB and I hate the thought of this kid being mean to him but what they are doing obviously isn't working and it need to stop?

Thanks, @ParanoidGynodroid.

DD said 'It's not his fault, but that doesn't mean I'm going to talk to him ever again'. I was more of a state in private, because my thought processes were something along the lines of

What? 'Get off. You're hurting her. Get off.' Fuck. Too strong. Fuck. Get off. How long have I got? Elbow in the face? Break his fingers? Fuck. We're right by the Nursery. 'Let go'. The babies are watching. Fuck. Fuck. Fingers.' (put in far more force quickly) 'GO AWAY.' Fuck. 'Are you OK, DD?' (check throat and just claw marks along her throat, take her to the TA and ask her to take DD inside). Where's his fucking mother? Oh. She's there, watching all the time. Fucking useless bitch. Fuck this, I'd better see the head before I do something she'll regret.

I suppose she was scared of him, too.

My son is that child. The one doing the hitting, although his is more random so he is not targeting one child. You are absolutely not wrong to be complaining and asking for the school to do more. No child should think it is ok to be hit and they have to put up with it. My child has constant 1:1 and recently has a staggered playtime as he just wasn’t coping with the transition at the end. Long term he clearly isn’t coping with mainstream so we are trying to move him out, but my god the process isn’t easy.

It is awful being the parent on the other side too. I have been sat crying in the Head’s office after an incident, at a loss of what to do. But that doesn’t take away from the fact that it is equally awful being the child or parent of the child being hurt. Thankfully I have been met with understanding, but if my child was constantly targeting one child I’d expect that to change. And I would also be shouting at the school myself to ask what they are doing to change things.

Speaking to the school could actually help this other family. If they are being a bit shit and wishy washy about putting in place proper support, then some pressure from another side might give them a kick.

Yep. As the teacher I always had to also inform the parents of the children who did the hurting, after any incident. And I hated doing so. Without exception the parents were doing all they could (SEN pupils), and they were mortified and upset every time their child hurt another.