To be annoyed with daughters preschool?

[Pisces90]

First day back and my daughters new jacket has been stained with paint! She wears uniform and i have no issue with that clothes being stained or wrecked. It is preschool afterall. But i didn't think that included her jacket! I tried talking to one of the assistants about it and was fobbed off and asked if i wanted them to take a damp sponge to it. The paint had dried in and it's non washable paint so a damp sponge was pointless imo. I am so pissed off about this. Not sure if to go to the heads office tomorrow or no. Opinions?

I never understand why parents get precious about dirty clothes. Kids want to paint, jump in muddy puddles, eat their dinner independently, craft etc... things get marked and stained. It is life. It is the sign of a happy child. If you don't want something to get dirty then maybe keep it hung up in a wardrobe never to be worn.

Try and put the coat through the washing machine, it might come out.

I do agree with others, don't send children to nursery in clothes you don't want to be stained.

EmmiJay she might be coming home clean but she's not getting the full nursery experience any more as they're probably keeping her away from the paint altogether. You will be known as the pita parent. What a shame.

@walker1891 the child is in pre school she wont give two shits whether her coat has paint on. You sound like a right barrel of laughs.

The paint at my ds preschool doesn't come out either, even if you machine wash as soon as you're home. But.... If you pretreat/scrub with a bar of Vanish soap and cold water before you put in the machine it generally shifts it. Don't know if Vanish powder or spray works as well, I've always used the soap bar.

DD once came home with the back of her dress covered in paint. The worker told me how she carefully selected an apron, put it on, asked her to fasten it... And promptly sat down on the paint that had been left on the chair by another child. All the staff were mortified as they were worried it was an expensive school dress. I found it funny... And let them know school pinafores cost £3 at the supermarket and are very washable.

Yep, it pisses me off to no end. DD hasn't stained her coat but her shirt sleeves were stained by this paint that refused to come out. After the third time, I handed the teacher a note with costs of replacements and told her I'd emailed a copy to the office as well. I never got a response BUT DD hasn't come home covered in paint since (her hands maybe but not the clothes.)

I cannot believe what I am reading. What an entitled attitude. Sending in a bill??? The poor staff. And poor DD now who can’t enjoy messy play as before. Talking about shooting yourself in the foot. It’s nursery!!!!

And OP, you are unreasonable too. You both have a hard 15 years ahead of you.

@EmmiJay

You really did that? How rude!

It’s a coat. Children at pre-school get messy. Don’t be that parent.

@EmmiJay how utterly pathetic. Chances are your child isn’t having much fun as she is constantly being interrupted by the practitioners to make sure she isn’t dirty

When DD was in pre-school, she and 3 friends all decided to paint their jumpers. Literally paint all over.
The staff didn't know whether to tell them off or praise them for creative endeavour :)

(The paint mostly came out after a wash).

I do not care if people think its rude or entitled...?! Like I said they want the children in a specific uniform and it costs money. To the person who said my "poor" DD 🙄 please read where I said that her hands are still stained from the paints but her clothes are not so its win win for everybody🤗

EmmiJay is the parent that all the teachers laugh about in the staffroom. Ffs, bloody eejit

It must be exhausting being that kind of parent @EmmiJay

YABU to send your daughter to pre-school in a new coat that you care about getting paint on.

IT'S A UNIFORM!

People, read the OP. She can't just not send her kid in the uniform. That's why she's annoyed. Because uniforms are expensive to replace and she doesn't have the option of putting the child in tatty supermarket clothes.

Sheesh.

I would just send the kid in paint-stained uniform myself, to be honest.

When my dc started preschool, the manager said they were big on outdoor and messy play so please don't send them in their best clothes. She was right! But the dc loved it!

Annoying but I wouldn't mention it. Just get a cheap coat from primark for preschool. And save her best one for home.

Why are they using non-washable paint at a pre-school? It seems like a recipe for disaster to me!

What exactly are you planning to say to the HT, and what do you expect her to do about it?

Be realistic about your expectations,

Because:
The HT is not going to apologise for something that was not her fault.

THe HT is not going to offer to wash the coat.

The HT is not going to offer to replace the coat.

THe HT is not going to stop painting activities.

The HT is not going to tell your child off.

THe HT might roll her eyes when you have left.

The HT might feel the need to vent in the privacy of the staff room. You might be the object of her venting.

If you don't want your child to get dirty don't send them to preschool or nursery or toddler group or school. Most parents are sensible and send their children in old clothes but you always get the odd one going "my child has a speck of dirt on them. It's unacceptable."
Also I don't believe the PP who said preschool want the children looking presentable. Presentable doesn't mean best clothes and perfect hair. Ffs!

How do you know it's non washable? Stick it in the machine.

op by jacket do you mean jacket which is part of the uniform or a coat? I don’t think YABU in being a bit annoyed but would be if you made an issue of it. Maybe mention to them you’d prefer her not to do messy activities with it on or use an old coat for pre school

After the third time, I handed the teacher a note with costs of replacements and told her I'd emailed a copy to the office as well. I never got a response BUT DD hasn't come home covered in paint since (her hands maybe but not the clothes.)

Perhaps your DD learned to be more careful since you made yourself the laughing stock of the staff room?

Have you tried white spirit on it, OP?

*IT'S A UNIFORM!

People, read the OP. She can't just not send her kid in the uniform.*
The jacket is not part of the uniform. Read the OP.