To think he shouldnt have said this to DH....eww

[Bingcankissmyass]

So DH texts me last night whilst he was at work saying "Ebeneezer has just been telling me stories about you when you worked here 🤨" I replied with what stories are they then (I used to have a backbone then, so would often stand up for myself when others tried to bully/manipulate me) DH replied that we'd talk about it when he got home. I was ready for him to tell me about times when I'd given someone a mouthful, or other such stories I'd previously told DH. He comes home and I asked him what Ebeneezer has told him and it went something like this...
(Talking about an ex colleague who utterly despised me)
DH: Oh yeah, Bob couldnt stand Bing, think it stemmed from her giving him a mouthful when he tried to (physically) back her into a corner and started going on about her MH issues
E: Really? Everyone liked Bing. Well, except for Mary.
DH: Mary? Oh, personnel Mary!
E: Yeah, I remember Bing coming in wearing a short, tight black skirt with slits either side, right up to her waist! Mary said it was inappropriate and that Bing should not come into work wearing it again.
DH:...🤨
E: So a load of the lads got a petition together to say that Bing should be able to wear that skirt all the time!
DH: ...Ebeneezer that's my wife you're talking about
E: Well obviously we didnt hand the petition in, but we all talked about in the break room! Bing, that skirt and those legs..
DH: Seriously Ebeneezer stop talking now, that's my wife and id appreciate you not talking about her like that. Especially to me, HER BLOODY HUSBAND!!
I'm not sure how the conversation finished (although I know DH didnt knock Ebeneezer out!) Who in their right mind would have this conversation with the persons DH?? I remember the skirt, it was knee length (as stated in uniform guide) and had a small slit at the back. I regularly see Ebeneezer and chat with him, AIBU in thinking "eeewwwwww?" everytime I see him?! And just so you know, I was not a stripper 🤣😂

What a weird thread is this some sort of humble brag?

@Cryingoverspilttea yes, I'm bragging about my gorgeous, fat little stumpy, cellulite covered legs as they are a thing to be desired 🤦‍♀️

Well someone who would start a sleazy petition about a female colleague being allowed to wear an inappropriate skirt probably isn't going to have the self-awareness to stop talking in front of her dh.

That is eeewww. E has changed the skirt to something way sexier in his own mind. He is weird and inappropirate.

I dont know if I'm missing something, but it seems strange to me to virtually skim over the incident regarding you being backed into a corner by someone who was taughting you about your mental health, which to me sounds horrendous. Then focus on the men of the organisation liking seeing you in a short skirt?

This is a bloody weird thread.

Anyway, whilst these men were pigs (and I don't think I could say anything polite to... 'Ebenezer' next time I saw him), obviously the work skirt wasn't deemed to be of professional standard, and not just from your misogynistic colleagues.

This is a stealth boast isn't it? The fact that he physically backed you into a corner is lesser than your legs in a skirt?

Um, what OP?

I think this whole thread would make more sense if we knew what you are on about. This is one for the people who actually know you. HTH.

Have you had too many Christmas sherries OP?

No he shouldn't have.

In some relationships this might cause issues.

But as said, someone who would behave like that in work, has no filter anyway.

I can’t believe you’ve put the thought into this to start a thread.

This is weird. Your dh should have shut it down fast.

Where was Tiny Tim in all this? Or is that your DH?

You don’t even seem to see any of this as an issue. You just seem to think it’s funny.

Ghost of Christmas past

What the fuck is it with posters who can read the OP and think it's a boast that some hideous people enjoyed seeing you in a skirt? I mean, @Witchofzog, @Cryingoverspilttea you should be ashamed of yourselves.

Yanbu OP, but that you do skim over the being backed into the corner suggests that it was a deeply toxic workplace, and you maybe haven't processed how hostile they were to you.

I'm sorry you had to go through all that.

My brain hurts

What @LadyTabasco said. You’re completely sidelining the genuinely appalling thing this conversation mentioned. Oh, and Ebeneezer sounds like he has the social nuance of a pound of mince.

It’s very Bridget Jones and Daniel Cleaver situation, isn’t it? Except you obviously didn’t shag that sleaze, so good on you.
On another note - I’d stop talking to him. shudders 🤮

*puds11

My brain hurts*

Try reading again slowly. Read some of the responses to see context from other people's point of view. HTH.

I don't get it.

Yes of course, blame the woman - not the man making inappropriate remarks 🙄 Fucks sake.

How is it Bridget Jones @hoomanmoomin ? She's talking about unwanted sexualisation from someone she worked with. You're conflating Bridget fancying Daniel with sexual harassment.

@derbyshiregirly try harder or don't post