to be fed up with the local teenagers and the people who sold us this house

[beautifulgirls]

We moved here 3 months ago. One of the appeals of the place was a young childrens park literally the other side of the fence from our drive. We asked if there were any problems from the park at all and were told that no there were not, kids obviously use it though. Since we moved in we have had nothing but bother from teenagers in there. It is a residents only area that should be controlled with a coded gate that is broken. The fence was burned down last year and the management company have still not fixed it. It clearly stated no ball games on the entrance (as it is so close to houses - literally 2 car widths away is the fence to it from our house) We have kids playing football all the time in there, right up by our property, and the ball is kicked onto our drive all the time - the kids climb over the plants and the fence, they will not listen to reason when we have tried to politely ask them to go away and play elsewhere as they are causing a disturbance. The management company rarely return our calls or emails and when they do they never give us any answers. Apart from that we get the same groups of kids hanging about in there in the evenings on the swings, often drinking (underage) and littering the place so badly. We have called the police out so many times now it is getting embarrasing to ring them. Often they can not be bothered to come here anyway so the kids just stay put where they are and keep us away until all hours. The language is horrendous, the attitude is shocking - there is no way my kids will be allowed to behave like that when they grow up.
I am cross with the kids for making our lives hell
I am cross with the police for failing to act most of the time we ask for help
I am cross with the management company for being as useful as a chocolate teapot
I am cross with the people who sold us this house and told us there was no problem here.

Any advice gratefully received. I am seriously thinking of contacting a solicitor at the moment and I just want to cry right now. Oh and I contacted the council who were also useless. Took a lot of details and did nothing as far as I can tell.

[OrmIrian]

Poor things We decided against an otherwise perfect 4 bed house that would have given us so much space. And at first the fact that the garden backed onto a lovely park with a play area and a small wood seemed wonderful. Until we drove past at about 7.30pm and saw the place swarming with scary teenagers and a police car

Frustrating when a few kids spoil things.

[liz5573]

I am a mum of 4 and have fallen out with my next door neighbour. The Mr is a pervert and the Mrs said to me tonight I have a bucket as a fanny she also said this in front of my 6 years old son. (She can't have kids) I live in a really nice detached house that wasn't cheap. I have been married for 4 years and have been with my husband for 8 years. Does her behaviour class as anti social behaviour? Some one please help as I am ready to go and cave her head in!!!

[GodzillasBumcheek]

Thinking about the contracts with a bit stating the neighbours are ok, does anyone know if you can do this with rented property? We are trying to get away from noisy neighbours but scared we will be jumping from the frying pan into the fire

Oh, and everyone with noise problems gets my sympathy vote.

[liz5573]

I am a married mother of 4 and have been married for 4 years and together for 8 years. I came home from work tonight and had another row with my neighbour. She told me I have a bucket for a fanny. I live in a nice area my house is detached and wasn't cheap. Does her behaviour class as anti social? I have reported her to the police more than once what can I do? I want to go round and cave her head in!! Can anyone tell me what to do?!

[GodzillasBumcheek]

Yes, i would think that does class as anti-social. The police should do something, but you have to be persistent. This from someone who can't sort out her own problems though

[liz5573]

I am so pissed off at the mo. This all started when we moved in really. The neighbours have always moaned about the parking they have to cross our property to get to their house. We had the drive made bigger which cost us £1000, Then they started parking transit vans opposite our house blocking my car on the drive, on more than 5 occasion's I had to get them to move them. So in the end I posted a note through just to say not to park there (I wasn't rude)
The following week after that we had friends round for a drink and she phoned the police saying we had been up til 2am drinking and I was taking my children to school the next day. There was a police man waiting for me when I left the house and I got breathilised. I feel harrassed in my own home! Can they get done for what they are doing?

[CHOCOLATEPEANUT]

liz

I think your neighbours are treading a fine line.

Anti Social Behaviour is behaviour that is or is likley to cause harrassment, alarm and distress to someone not living in the same household.Thats how the law defines it.The local council and the police are well equipped to deal with this but I am afraid some areas are better than others. The polices usual response is to ring the council!
From what you say the situation started with the parking which is a common problem. You have attemoted to sort this out with a note and they have got arsey.Certainly making lewd comments in front of your child is not acceptable behaviour.

Does this happen often?

[liz5573]

yes all the time. On tues last week they came back off hols and I had finished planting a conifer hedge that grow 10mtr high and the Mr came round within 10 mins of being back f in and jefin in front of my 6 year old, when I shut the door he continued to shout through the letter box. He was telling me I couldn't plant the hedge or let it grow more than 4ft. I then explained I had spoken to the council and I could grow it to whatever height I wanted unless someone made a complaint then it would have to be cut back to 6ft 6in. Which is what I intended to grow it to anyway.

[CHOCOLATEPEANUT]

what did he actually say?

Are you writing things down (keeping a diary?)

[liz5573]

Every time he has been and said something I have phoned then police straight away i have told them every thing. He is also a peeping tom I can't sit in my garden without him looking to see what we are doing. I think he is a pervert. When my children play outside he waches them from the window my son comes and tells me then won't go back outside to play. I have told the police about this to. I am still waiting for them to come from last week and have phoned again tonight to complain.

[CHOCOLATEPEANUT]

The police wont do anything,you need to speak to your council

[liz5573]

I have spoken to the council and they said phone the police

[CHOCOLATEPEANUT]

whos your council? The police will nearly always avoid neighbour disputes

[beautifulgirls]

Well, progress perhaps is being made already - The antisocial behaviour lady called me back again and she has spoken with our local PCSO for us. She had already had one complaint about that park from another neighbour this week too so she is taking it very seriously. The PCSO has given her names of some of the kids he knows to be involved and she is contacting the familys of them by post initially and following up with a home visit etc etc as required. The PCSO is getting various members of the local council together on site within the next couple of weeks and is going to insist the management company get a representative out to discuss it all too. Meanwhile she also emailed another local police officer who has recently started in this area and he rang me this morning to discuss the situation and he is coming along to patrol as often as he can in the late afternoons and evenings to see what is going on for himself.
I know the problem is far from over, but the people who need to listen are finally making much more positive noises for us at last and all being well this will help the situation tremendously. As they said to us, if the ringleaders are removed from the group then the rest will most likely give up anyway.

Liz5573 - Speak with your local police community support officer. He may be able to help. Hard though it is when these people wind you up, you need to be squeaky clean about everything you say and do, and let them be the ones making all the mistakes, so there can be no doubt where from the authorities where this is all coming from.

[salsmum]

beautifulgirls
glad the end result looks good
well done not enough peeps in this world do enough to get rid of these yobs.
Be careful that you don't say too much to the neighbours thou in case these yobs get to hear.
glad you're sorted in the end.