To hate all the ‘reflective’ 10 years ago Facebook posts

[QueenViki]

My newsfeed is dripping with so much self congratulating bs, it’s unbearable to look at! Photo of me 10 years ago.. blah blah... Been through highs and lows..blah blah...had children, discovered myself.... Ugh it’s relentless meaningless drivel! Whatever happened to wishing a happy new year and getting on with your day?! I wouldn’t dream of boring everybody with a heavily rose tinted synopsis of the last decade - who cares?!!

I’ve seen loads of them and am probably a similar age. I think it’s because of the massive changes from 20s to 30s. I haven’t posted one but they made me realise I met my husband nearly a decade ago and our lives are so different. Ive Seen a lot of bitter sweet ones as well as the rose tinted ones.

LolaSmiles - you’ve summed it up completely thank you. It’s today’s long self congratulatory essays that are nauseating!! I’m happy reading their news etc usually!

IamLEA you’re welcome to disagree with me and say why I’m being unreasonable. But if you don’t have a counter argument or can’t read the tone of the original post then please just ignore it. Don’t deliberately twist my words and use sarcasm please - we’re all supposed to be adults and this is not intended as a deadly serious thread!!

I haven't seen any. I'm wishing I had now

I agree OP - this NY in particular seems to have reached new heights of narcissism on FB.

This is the best one I saw

A few weeks ago we went on a family day out to a local attraction we hadn’t been to in years. I recreated a photo of me and my daughter that we first took in 2009 when we visited 10 years ago. I posted both photos on fb.

Fast forward a few weeks and my newsfeed is full of it. Ironically, it’s not the sort of thing I’d usually join in with.

Maybe I started the trend... ?

Oh Queen Jane that’s hilarious!

I did put photographs on of then and now, but no long message. It literally just said "2009 to 2019."

If FB friends don't like it they are free to scroll past or even unfollow/defriend me. Their choice. I don't force anyone to follow me on FB after all and, as far as I know, it isn't compulsory to be on FB at all.

MazDazzle that sounds like a lovely post - I’m talking about people who have speechifying far more than that!!

The best one I saw was roadworks on the M6 in 2010 and same roadworks on the M6 in 2020.

Do you have a link?!

I loathe this. I have one friend sharing her reflections on the past year, none of which is news because she told me about everything in great detail at the time.

That's just it sabine - I've read several that have just rehashed everything the poster has already over shared throughout the year. Narcissism at its finest!

I have a bit of a love/hate relationship with FB anyway (love some of my groups, and being able to see local events easily, hate the narcissism that's rife - the endless attention seeking, selfies, filters....) but the last few days have definitely tipped the balance more into hate - definitely reducing my time on it!

I like the people sharing and I'm happy for them. But it makes me sad because I'm not happier, I haven't achieved much/anything. And I can't post in public because most of it is that having children has been far harder and more miserable than I could have thought. My dd has SEN and life has been unbearable at times. I've spent time in a psychiatric unit, we've lived at crisis point for months on end. Yes, there is the odd good time, but mostly my life is one of stress, violence (from dd), shouting, tears.

Honestly I wish I could go back 10 years and tell myself not to have kids.

So yeah, reading people smugly say how becoming parents has enriched their lives, or how they travelled widely and forged amazing careers makes me sad.

I don't mind people reflecting on what they have achieved over the last ten years and I think it's really nice to see so much positivity, my feed seems to be full of people excited for the year ahead and proud of all of the challenges they have overcome.

What is annoying me though is when people are posting their 'ten year challenge' photos side by side, with the recent one completely filtered! Didn't realise people had grown antlers over the last ten years... what is the point if you can't actually compare the then and now!

clownsandcowboys

I posted a side by side photo (with no waffle). I genuinely look better now. No filters used (I wouldn't know how), it's just that in 2009 I was overweight and depressed. Ten years on and I'm fit and happy. It was nice to see the change.

Really don't care if that upsets people. They can unfollow me if they want!

So late in the day for this thread OP probs won't even see this post BUT for what it's worth I think it's lovely seeing people acknowledge the ups and downs of life and outwardly patting themselves on the back for hanging on in there and accomplishing what they have. A bit of self worth and self congratulations goes a long way to building self esteem in a world where fuckers like you just want to tear people down.

Anyways, happy new year, happy new decade.

I put a side by side picture up. Attended a wedding on the 10 year anniversary of our weddingso it seemed apt. I just put up a pic of us at our wedding and a pic of us plus kids at sils wedding. I didn't write a speech. Its nice to quickly reflect, but I wasn't about to air all my dirty laundry in a new years fb post.

‘I posted a side by side photo (with no waffle). I genuinely look better now. No filters used (I wouldn't know how), it's just that in 2009 I was overweight and depressed. Ten years on and I'm fit and happy. It was nice to see the change.

Really don't care if that upsets people. They can unfollow me if they want!’

You really don’t care if that upsets people... not even your overweight and depressed friend???

You're assuming she has an overweight and depressed friend.

You're assuming that she means upset as in "made to feel shit/bad" rather than the patronising and righteous "upset" that OP and others display.

You're assuming her friends would be upset about it rather than happy for her, or that they'll only just suddenly realise now that she is fit and not fat and depressed anymore.

Even if you were right in all those assumptions bar never leaving t

..bar never leaving the house or deleting all social media, as she could make lots of people upset simply by existing.

I did it btw,but I assume it's ok since I'm fat in both of them.