To hate all the ‘reflective’ 10 years ago Facebook posts

[QueenViki]

My newsfeed is dripping with so much self congratulating bs, it’s unbearable to look at! Photo of me 10 years ago.. blah blah... Been through highs and lows..blah blah...had children, discovered myself.... Ugh it’s relentless meaningless drivel! Whatever happened to wishing a happy new year and getting on with your day?! I wouldn’t dream of boring everybody with a heavily rose tinted synopsis of the last decade - who cares?!!

I never used to be a Facebook humbug type but I've been off it for a while. Logged in the morning and I totally agree! It's just a platform to talk about how marvellous you think you are!

Haha well said op!

"This is us 10 years ago, we were so young and fresh-faced. Now we have children, oh times have changed! Blah blah blah... making memories... blah blah blah bring on the next ten years with hubby... blah blah blah"

All very boring!

I quite like them as I only have actual friends as 'friends' on FB so I enjoy it when people put up photos and stuff about their lives, especially when they live far away so I rarely see them. I wish people did it more, like FB used to be before it became all adverts, sales and political stuff. If I wasn't interested in my FB friends lives they wouldn't be my 'friends'.

The best thing to do is only have people that you like as FB friends then you won't feel the need to moan about them.

I haven't done a post but I like reading about my friends, I didn't know all of them 10 years ago and it's interesting.

I've had a few 10 years ago and now photos, but no long blurb attached to them.

Most of my friends (around 40s-50s) have not aged well 🤣

I've actually been enjoying them. It's lovely to see people doing well, and I think for a lot of people, when they think over the past decade, they see things a bit differently. My life ten years ago was really bloody difficult, and in many ways shit, and for years it was a step forward and a step back. I had to just keep pushing on, and it was gruelling. I'm very hard on myself, and often feel that I'm not doing enough in various areas of my life, but actually, when I really thought of it, some of the shitty things about 2009 really were the seeds of good things that have happened in only the last few years.

Oh OP, I am kind of with you 🙈 I'd just feel like such a numpty writing and posting something like that about myself... And also, the musing style they're done in just rubs me up the wrong way.
One was actually quite interesting (haha, my shock at this), but still awesomely cringey at heart imo. Just...no

Mine have mainly been 10 years apart photos, which I've quite liked seeing. So far I must have avoided the self-indulgent ones!

Having children is meaningless drivel...?
Your a lovely one aren't you

Just been reading my old diaries.
Feels like a hundred years ago never mind ten.
Still haven’t lost any weight either 😂

OP - I have posted something very similar on MN. I'm with you all the way.

Muckyboots1 your post reads honest and true. Glad to hear that things are turning your way. The OP is talking about the flowery shitty unoriginal drivel that we all read on FB.

I think it's sadder to try and make out you have lots of friends on fb, they aren't friends and you clearly don't like them.
Why don't you cull them, have a fb declutter, maybe you couldn't stand feeling unpopular though.

My dd did a over the past 10 years theme, with lots of pics starting at 5 - 15 years old.
It looks really nice, along with other family members wgho did this.

Im really enjoying it...seeing how much people have changed and how lifes have changed...in my case most of my friends have got married, bought house and had children in the last ten years. Its been stunning to see the difference.

Yep, these are making me cringe today too. Esp lots of people saying they've got older/more wrinkly/beaten up by old age & kids and yet look miles better on their current photo than they did in the one from 10 years ago. Thank god for the invention of filters on phones in the last decade, eh!?

I actually like them and find the photos and captions nice/funny. Eg "10 years ago we were finishing university and said we'd catch up every month, now we have kids, live in different countries and see each other once a year"

I dont like are the long self-reflective rants about every little detail in their life, usually negative, then some psycho-babble (probably a mix up of things shared in motivational Facebook memes) etc

I'm also not a fan of the passive aggressive "in the last 10 years I've been hurt, bruised, found out who my real friends are... 2020s are going to be me putting myself first" ones either
There's always someone who takes a nice thing too far.

I deleted all my social media last night. Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. Cannot be arsed with it anymore and I spend far too much time scrolling through other people’s bullshit. Enough is enough. Time to focus on my DD and myself instead of constantly checking what other people are doing

I love them. I loved looking back how different me and friends were back then and the memories behind the photos.
I love how my children have grown and changed. I love what people have a achieved. I love happy things. You sound miserable

I hate it, but I hate all the reflective stuff around NYE anyway. I find it effects my mh negatively. And the last ten years have been pretty shit for me!

I've decided to stay off fb as much as possible. I can't delete it altogether unfortunately because some of the groups on there, and there is no other communication for those activities and groups. For example a local group for parents with SEND children.

But I've unfollowed everyone, so my newsfeed is just the few groups I need to keep updated with. Much better.

I've liked them. I know people who have had a shit year but reflecting on the decade they've seen more good than bad. Focusing on achievements can be good for the mental health as it makes us think about it. It's easier to remember the bad.

I didn't think we'd done much as a family except have kids and move country. Big things but 3 things in 10 years is relatively small. As I thought about each year, I realised there's more and I'm at a place in life I never thought I would be at the start of the decade.

So yes, I've posted one but I did it for me. Now it will pop up in my memories every year and I'll be able to remember the good each year without having to really think too much. It also included some of the struggles I got over to remind me of the effort I put in.

If people don't like what I post, they can scroll on or delete me like I scroll on when I don't like what people post. There's a lot more in life to get annoyed at than silly little FB posts.

I've done one, BB

Posted to soon. I've done one but only 2 pictures side by side, no waffle, funny seeing whats changed

Well I haven’t because basically my life has turned to shit over the last 10 years.

I totally get you OP. A friend's DH wrote a huuuuuge long essay style post today, extremely self-congratulatory in tone beginning with the words "wow, what a decade that was! Forged a career in..." and then going on for 6 paragraphs. Only briefly mentioned my friend towards the end. In reality she has made his entire lifestyle possible with her hard work and raising their 3 children and facilitated the whole thing whilst he has 'fulfilled his dreams'.

Yawn- who wants to read this stuff. I don't blame you!

I don't get why so many MNers hate so much about FB but continue to use it or follow people who annoy them

This ^

I've quite liked seeing the few I've seen, reflecting on how their lives have changed.
But then, oddly, I am FB friends with people I like and therefore I like hearing from them.