To not get why couples with kids don’t lock their bedroom door

[Lycidas]

No child wants to walk in on their parents having sex, but so many posters on MN seems to think this is an inevitable and somewhat amusing occurrence. Why? Why not install a lock on the door to prevent any such wanderings in? It’s so rarely even suggested here whenever a child walks in on their parents DTD.

And no, this is not the same as being comfortable with nudity around your kids and anyone suggesting as such is batshit.

No lock needed if you teach children to knock on a closed door.

Basic manners anyway

I was taught not to go into my parents' room without knocking and waiting for permission. That's what I'll teach my kids, no lock needed.

Plus, heaven forbid there was a fire and the lock prevented access/escape from the room... I know it's an unlikely occurance, but I'd rather just teach my children manners instead. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I think (but have no evidence backing it up) that locks on doors are dangerous but I was brought up to know that bedroom were private areas and you always knock and wait rather than walk in if the door is closed so I wouldn't have walked in to my parents bedroom.

Just to clarify, I mean I think locks on bedroom doors are dangerous, please don't all remove your front door locks after reading my last post!

Why would I lock a child out of a bedroom rather than teach them basic life skills/ manners.

A child doesn’t just walk into head teachers office... so why should they do so with a parents bedroom ?

Always taught to knock if ever a door was closed. Really simple.

Because they might urgently need to get in your room at night? Fire escape plan, smoke alarm goes off in the night all come to parents room if safe?

My children walk freely into all rooms apart from bathrooms. I would never expect my children (not teenagers/young adults) to knock on my bedroom door. That’s very odd.

We all know to knock on a bedroom door before entering in our house, but I still have a lock, and I use it. I value my privacy and I just feel much more comfortable getting changed or whatever if the door is locked. Ditto when having sex.

I would never expect my children (not teenagers/young adults) to knock on my bedroom door. That’s very odd

Not as odd as raising children to think they can just go wherever they please with zero manners whatsoever.

YANBU. I think a lot of posters who complain about people walking in on them for whatever reason (changing clothes, sex, reading a book, etc) are batshit for not having locks on their doors. Then again, I grew up with locks on doors. That’s just a basic minimum to me. I find it weird how many people don’t have them.

Because a small child who is scared and looking for you in the night doesn't need manners. It's amazing you all have 2 and 3 year olds who knock in the middle of the night..

We don't have an upstairs bathroom and I don't want my children wetting the bed... we have an en-suite they are allowed to use.

It would be very rare they came into our room though as have stair gates on their bedroom doorways.

For goodness sake, having your own rules for bedrooms is hardly bringing up children with zero manners.
I have a very well mannered little boy, but he knows he can come into Mammy's bedroom whenever he wants - we cosleep mostly so he doesn't differentiate it from his room anyway. Other people are more private which is absolutely fine. Neither is linked to manners. As long as they know to ask if not at home.

Never lived in a house with lock on bedroom doors or noticed any friends or family's houses have them. Do you fit a bolt or an actual lock with a key?

Because there may be an emergency in the middle of the night and if the parents are snorers/deep sleepers, a small child knocking may not be heard.

My children always knock on my door if it is closed, I do the same also, I wont just walk into thier room, especially now they are teenagers.

I've never had the DC walk in on us DTD. They've been taught to not go wandering around the house at night though, which helps. And DS1 is lazy and will just shout from his bed if he wants us.

Isn’t the happy medium locking the door only during key interludes and keeping it unlocked the rest of the time.

Depends on the age of the child. After about the age of 9, they knew to knock.

Before that they might be panicked or forget . So if we were having sex we put the lock on the door and then took it off again afterwards.

Having a lock on the door doesn't mean you have to lock yourself in every night - it just means if you are doing something you don't want your children to see you put the lock on.

My parents always taught me and my brother if their bedroom door was shut, you knock and wait, they also gave us the same courtesy. I will be instilling this in my son when he's old enough.
I'd rather not have a lock on my bedroom door thank you.

I'm assuming the lock would only be used during sex and not all night. So no real fire hazard.

I hate hearing of children who are forbidden from entering selected rooms in the house, that's just wierd.

I havent any need yet as he still has baby gate on, but I will maybe teach him to knock of a night, although I feel that's a but wierd in his own home, but we will have to watch and see what others do on here for ideas

We taught our kids not to knock a closed door before entering.

Where are all these posters with kids who only come in when they're at it?
Why are you thinking about this tonight?
How is this not the same as thinking kids shatter like glass if they see a vagina?
Do children without a history of sexual abuse KNOW they've walked into a sex situation without being told what sex is?
When a child(teen) KNOWS what sex is they have to also know it goes on in parents room and if they walk in when theres sex happening they will see it.

This is a ridiculous thing to be pissed off about, who hurt you by letting you catch them at it?