To not get why couples with kids don’t lock their bedroom door

[Lycidas]

No child wants to walk in on their parents having sex, but so many posters on MN seems to think this is an inevitable and somewhat amusing occurrence. Why? Why not install a lock on the door to prevent any such wanderings in? It’s so rarely even suggested here whenever a child walks in on their parents DTD.

And no, this is not the same as being comfortable with nudity around your kids and anyone suggesting as such is batshit.

Never ever seen a lock on a bedroom door. Really? Do I live in an alternate universe? This is a standard door handle where I live. They come with keys, and everyone I know uses them, to the best of my knowledge anyway. Cannot understand why anyone would have an issue with that.

Nope, our doors don't have keyholes for internal doors! Although now you mention it my grandparents v old house did have some lockable internal doors but the keys had been lost years ago. Not bedrooms though. But I've never seen lockable bedroom doors in any house I've lived in or looked round with the intent to buy. I don't go inspecting friends' bedroom doors though so perhaps I've led a sheltered life!

The door knob our door is high up - art deco doors- and round. As yet they can not open it. We only shut the door if we don't want them walking in on us. We'll teach them to knock when they are older.

Mine have been taught to knock. I extend the same courtesy to them as well.

maybe we teach our children manners to knock before coming in? My 5 year old knows that if any door is closed, to knock first - always.

Why would I want to lock my child out of my room? What happens if they need me during the night?
Also, I don’t have sex every night and it’s not timed for every Monday, Wednesday and Friday so there would be a lot of days where it was needlessly locked

My kids can come and go in my room. I always hear them coming though.

We have a lock because- no delicate way to put this- I couldn’t reach a climax if I was on edge about one of them walking in. Would never sleep with it locked though.

Re: it being basic manners to knock and wait for permission..... My 3yo hasn’t grasped that yet!

My son has been taught to knock before he comes in, but when you’re not quite 4 and you’ve just poo’d yourself in the middle of night, knocking is forgotten!

I actually think it's a good suggestion OP!

Also, I don’t have sex every night and it’s not timed for every Monday, Wednesday and Friday so there would be a lot of days where it was needlessly locked

Just because the door has a lock you don't actually have to lock it. You lock it during sex and open it again afterwards. If you're happy to take the risk of a kid walking in on you, fair enough. It only had to happen once for us to put a bolt on the door - nobody was scarred for life but I don't want to be worrying about every noise outside my door when having sex. We didn't bolt ourselves in every night though.

@jaqueshammer that has just made me run cold, that's so sad. Poor kids.
Sorry had to comment on it.

@Purpleartichoke total with you. Dont understand why a lock can't be used only during activities which a child does not need to witness occurs and keep the door unlocked the rest of the time. Likewise teaching knocking is good manners but as a child who was taught to knock, that didn't cause problems for me if I needed mum in the middle of the night,I would toddle straight in. Its using common sense and recognising appropriate behaviour for appropriate situations. My children will knock during the day as its polite and stops them barging into each others rooms as they get older and also allows us as parents to claim 5 minutes to sit down and breath when needed in the day, but at night I've never had issue with them walking in if they need something. Have only ever locked the door during the odd moments when children should not be present and it's usually at times the children wouldn't need us so dont think there even aware of the fact the door locks

No lock on the door. And I don't expect them to knock either, but I now feel like this is unusual and I'm probably in a minority here.

Bedroom door locks aren't safe. What would happen if there was a fire?

My children are taught to knock before entering a bedroom whether that's ours or each other's.

We haven't had a "caught out" incident in 15 years.

Mine have been taught to knock, the same courtesy we give them in return too. We don't ban them from any area in the house either, they know if we're in our room and the door is shut, to knock - where else would we be if we weren't in any other place in the house?

Personally, I wouldn't have a lock on our bedroom door, DH and I usually tend to DTD then pass out asleep afterwards as we're usually knackered yes, I know I should really go for a wee afterwards to prevent water infections etc but hey ho and it is usually in the middle of the night by the time we get a chance to DTD. We've never been walked in on and never been caught out.

No locks on any doors in this house, not even the bathroom. No knocking either.

Every has the good manners if they see a closed door to call out and ask if it's ok to open the door.

We've managed 12 years without DS catching us DTD and neither has he walked in on me doing daily ablutions

Thanks OP. Your thread has cursed me.

Literally seconds away from being caught in the early hours of this morning as littlest had a nightmare!!