To not get why couples with kids don’t lock their bedroom door

[Lycidas]

No child wants to walk in on their parents having sex, but so many posters on MN seems to think this is an inevitable and somewhat amusing occurrence. Why? Why not install a lock on the door to prevent any such wanderings in? It’s so rarely even suggested here whenever a child walks in on their parents DTD.

And no, this is not the same as being comfortable with nudity around your kids and anyone suggesting as such is batshit.

We share the bedroom with DD, no locks OR knocking!!

The horror of it all .

@mammy - how do they get to the ensuite if they have gates on their rooms?

Yeah the locks only on for about 30 minutes, it's not an all night thing

Christ both my kids just walk in and get in bed with us a various points of the night!

I have really good hearing and fast sex?? Doesn’t every one ?

@CFlemingSmith People keep doors shut to keep heat in, toilet door kept shut for smell reasons!
How much time did you waste stood outside empty rooms knocking?

One Valentine’s Day, I gifted my OH a door wedge

If they walk in and catch you once I'm pretty sure they won't want to again.

@Ruraldream please tell me you spend 25 mins snoozing after???

24 on a good night

Just because you have locks on your door doesn’t mean you don’t teach your children to knock and wait for an answer before entering a room. That’s just basic manners. The two facets are not mutually exclusive.

You also don’t have to lock your bedroom door the entire night. Just whenever you need to do so. And so what if your child comes and finds the door locked? Depending on their age it may be a good thing to teach them resiliency to figure out an issue themselves.

I swear, people on MN love being literal with no imagination and deliberately obtuse while wringing their hands.

My bedroom doorknob isn't a locking one and we are not allowed to put pictures up or make holes in anything as it's a rental, so couldn't put a lock on even if it were necessary (it isn't for me)

If you taught your kids to knock, good for you, this post isn't for you. OP is talking about those who've complained about being 'interrupted'. Also, it's not a lock for the whole night, just while DTD. is it that hard to comprehend?

There is actually a lock on our bedroom door and we have never used it. It’s never occurred to me tbh, but I guess that’s why it was there when we bought the house. We have never been caught having sex though.
My kids don’t knock before they come in to our room, but we leave the door open during the day and I think it would be weird that they were knocking when we are asleep - I probably wouldn’t hear the knock anyway. My kids also have really good manners and I’m forever being told how polite they are, so it’s not down to a lack of manners, just that we don’t expect it.

We have a nearly 4 year old and 2 year old, we don't do anything whilst they are awake at the moment anyway but also don't have a lock on our door. We will teach them to knock on a closed bedroom door when we get to that point. I don't want a lock on my bedroom door in case we fell asleep with it locked and something happened and there was a fire. It's unlikely of course but I'd rather risk a kid wondering in when they shouldn't, than something terrible happening during a fire.

how about getting a bell over the door that operates when it's opened, like you used to see in small shops, so that the owner would come out of their back room to serve.

I just teach my kids that they have to knock before entering. But I don't think it would be terrible to have a lock on your bedroom door, not sure why people would be against it?

Mine are only little but once they hit the teen years I might get a lock. Makes it easier to confiscate/hide things from rebellious teenagers.

DH and I have been talking about putting a latch on ours. We've told them and told them to knock but they knock and walk in.

I've said "Wait till I say come in!" but they just forget.

No locks here
We have a wedge for under the door.

There is no way I'd have ever locked my children out of a room in their own home. Children wake up at night and need their parents to be available and not behind a locked door.

OP is talking about those who've complained about being 'interrupted
Where are they? Give me a search term.

batshit for not having locks on their doors. Then again, I grew up with locks on doors. That’s just a basic minimum to me. I find it weird how many people don’t have them.

By the sounds of it you were locked in! Don't see how someone can be 'batshit' for not having locks on their bedroom doors.
I would never have a lock on my door. DS will learn to knock if the door is closed.

Not as odd as raising children to think they can just go wherever they please with zero manners whatsoever.

Err it's their home. My dc have always been able to go wherever they want in their own home.
They didn't need to knock before coming into my room.

They are now grown and they are more than able to knock on a door as appropriate in school or at work etc.

As they got older they knew if the door was shut then they knocked but it was locked anyway, why would we take the chance that someone walks in.
Even children that have been taught to knock will forget.

Betty only a fool would actually SLEEP with the door locked though. So if your child woke in the night, they'd have access. If you're awake and having sex, you'd hear your child at the door and so be able to stop and look after them.

Any particular reason why this springs to mind, OP?