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BF infected me and won’t do anything about it

118 replies

jackwhitehallsdad · 31/12/2019 13:23

Found out I have threadworms, for the first time ever. I have OCD about hand washing and hygiene so I was shocked I’d picked them up as I’m scrupulous about personal and home hygiene. My BF has a six year old brother and naturally came to the conclusion he is the source of the infection as primary schools are obviously germ central Confused

Asked BF about it and he said he’s had them a few times. The crux of the issue is he can’t swallow tablets as he hates the texture/sensation. So he’s never took Ovex etc, and as adults usually don’t feel the itching etc, it’s likely he has them. I’m distraught as this has made my anxiety and OCD flare up, I’m washing my hands 100+ times a day and they’re bleeding and sore and I’m furious BF won’t do anything.

AIBU to tell him he has to take the medicine (liquid version) as he will constantly reinfect me?

OP posts:
ilovethickboys2 · 31/12/2019 16:30

force feed him that bloody medicine if you have to!!!!Shock

Pop2017 · 31/12/2019 16:41

I am ocd, a clean freak and very clean and still caught them from Dc. It is very common. Although it spreads through poor hygiene having them is no reflection on how clean you are.

You can buy ovex in liquid form that adults can take. So get him to take that. If he doesn’t treat he will Keep getting them even if he has no symptoms they won’t go.

ElizabethMountbatten · 31/12/2019 16:44

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LemonPrism · 31/12/2019 16:57

He sucks his thumb? He forgets clean pants? Is he 7?

Josette77 · 31/12/2019 17:00

Dump him. He's gross.

LuckyAmy1986 · 31/12/2019 17:01

This whole thing is disgusting and I don’t know how you find him attractive enough to sleep with him tbh

melissasummerfield · 31/12/2019 17:01

I couldn't be in a relationship with a man that cant take tablets, he needs to grow up Hmm

WhenOneDoorClosesAnotherOpens · 31/12/2019 17:24

Yes, he does know there’s a liquid. He’s a bit rubbish on hand washing and is also a thumb sucker at night, and when he stays over doesn’t always remember clean underwear/clothes for the next day. I was fed up with these issues before, and did bring them up - but now it’s a deal breaker.

This can't be real. Your 23 year old BF has WORMS and won't take meds to get rid of them? Regularly forgets clean underwear and clothes, doesn't wash his hands and sucks his thumb?? He's given you WORMS?? I can't believe you're having sex with this person.
I'm actually feeling a bit sick just reading this. This can't be real.

Crown Biscuit
Aprilsinparis · 31/12/2019 17:31

If he can't take tablets, a red hot poker up his arse should do the trick!

Tighnabruaich · 31/12/2019 17:31

The manky sod! How can you find him attractive? It’s gross! Not just the worms, but the whole immaturity of him. How can you let him near you?

thickwoollytights · 31/12/2019 17:37

but now it’s a deal breaker.

No more problems for you , then Grin

WildfirePonie · 31/12/2019 17:39

This thread is hilarious and also disgusting! Yuk, get rid!

ChilliMayo · 31/12/2019 17:42

Yuck
Have a bit of self respect and send him and his worms and his dirty habits wiggling off into the sunset.

Obligatorync · 31/12/2019 17:52

No one is saying catching worms is a deal breaker. But refusing to treat them genuinely is. I could never look at him the same way again...or let him near me.

JinglingHellsBells · 31/12/2019 19:13

Although it spreads through poor hygiene having them is no reflection on how clean you are [Bit contradictory!].

Sorry but having worms s NOT a poor hygiene issue.

The eggs are microscopic. They live in dust, bedding, on clothes and of course on desks and tables in classrooms.

@jackwhitehallsdad

You need to read up on threadworms and understand how they are caught.

Brief summary:

The eggs are laid at night around the bum hole.
These get onto bedding if the person doesn't wear pants or PJs in bed.
If they touch the bedding or the eggs are on towels after they shower, anyone can pick them up on their hands if they live in the same house.

To be really blunt, you may not have 'caught' worms from your BF unless you were , literally, licking his bum!

Somehow the tiny eggs got into your mouth, either from his bed, his clothing, his brother's clothing, or their furniture at home.

In other words, his 6 yr old bruv might have infected you and your BF.

Unless his family are doing all the hygiene measure- and not just taking the meds- it's quite likely they will be caught again sooner or later.

They are a very common thing amongst all young kids at school.

But as everyone has said, why would YOU with OCD want to be with a bloke who rarely washes? Surely you are not a good fit as a couple?
And are you addressing your own issues?
You are overreacting a bit.

That's my lot on this- can't believe I'm writing about bloody works on NYE!

Okbutno · 31/12/2019 19:35

This is the most foul thing I have ever read on here. So basically he is happy to just go around with untreated thread worms because they don't itch. That's almost unbelievable. Even if he was prepared to be treated I'd be done.

TrueCrimeFan · 31/12/2019 19:51

I feel sick reading this!

OP I am so angry on your behalf. I would never forgive him for this and end the relationship. Hygiene is too important and he clearly does not respect himself, you or others

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 31/12/2019 19:57

Uuurgh, he won’t take the treatment, he doesn’t wash properly or bring clean pants, and you let his wormy bum in your bed? That’s vile, sorry, no way could I remain around such an irresponsible man child.

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