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BF infected me and won’t do anything about it

118 replies

jackwhitehallsdad · 31/12/2019 13:23

Found out I have threadworms, for the first time ever. I have OCD about hand washing and hygiene so I was shocked I’d picked them up as I’m scrupulous about personal and home hygiene. My BF has a six year old brother and naturally came to the conclusion he is the source of the infection as primary schools are obviously germ central Confused

Asked BF about it and he said he’s had them a few times. The crux of the issue is he can’t swallow tablets as he hates the texture/sensation. So he’s never took Ovex etc, and as adults usually don’t feel the itching etc, it’s likely he has them. I’m distraught as this has made my anxiety and OCD flare up, I’m washing my hands 100+ times a day and they’re bleeding and sore and I’m furious BF won’t do anything.

AIBU to tell him he has to take the medicine (liquid version) as he will constantly reinfect me?

OP posts:
AryaStarkWolf · 31/12/2019 14:57

Ew gross, dump him

CooCooCoo · 31/12/2019 14:58

Lol I would even ask him to take anything, liquid or tablet, I’d dump him before he could

This is GRIM , I’m not sure why you’re giving him essentially an ultimatum

Excited101 · 31/12/2019 14:59

Bf aside (fairly sure everyone has covered the issues there...) are you getting help for your OCD op?

MsTSwift · 31/12/2019 15:03

We sourced the medicine in Sardinia that was fun. No excuse!

Original poster
jackwhitehallsdad · 31/12/2019 15:06

@Excited101 yes 😊 it was calming down but this has brought it back up to the surface! onwards and upwards though

OP posts:
Excited101 · 31/12/2019 15:09

Good! Make that a real focus, and you’ll have more energy to put to other areas of your life!

JaneyJimplin · 31/12/2019 15:09

Ewww. Your ocd is obviously not his responsibility, but I'm not an OCD sufferer and still find his poor hygiene gross!

The worms is grim, the thumb sucking is grim, the underwear thing is grim.

I dont think you are compatible.

Bananalanacake · 31/12/2019 15:16

It's good you don't live together.

JustASmallTownCurl · 31/12/2019 15:19

Jesus. What an absolute ROTTER.

Has he agreed to take the liquid medicine?

I mean if he doesnt then he's literally saying he'd rather you were ill, uncomfortable and unhappy than just have a fucking drink.

God I really hope he isn't on the scene too long and one day you look back and shudder and putting up with this kind of thing!

Really hope it clears up soon for you at least Flowers

RebelWithVerySharpClaws · 31/12/2019 15:22

He sounds like a worm farm, get rid.
See your GP about OCD, it is treatable.

thickwoollytights · 31/12/2019 15:24

He’s a bit rubbish on hand washing and is also a thumb sucker at night, and when he stays over doesn’t always remember clean underwear/clothes for the next day. " What a prize! Just think, you could be rid of him by tomorrow.

This

And some

Get rid of him. He sounds utterly revolting

ILearnedItFromABook · 31/12/2019 15:28

I'm sorry, but that's disgusting. I'd honestly be concerned that he doesn't have the same standards as you. Even if you get this sorted out, the kind of person who'd let this go (and suck his thumb, etc.) is probably destined to bring a lifetime of frustration...

I'd seriously consider whether or not I loved him enough to put up with... all that.

Bookiewook · 31/12/2019 15:36

Gross. Not sure his hygiene standards are up to yours long term OP!

CodenameVillanelle · 31/12/2019 15:37

Do you really want to be with a dirty bugger who wears dirty pants and doesn’t wash his hands anyway?

Ellisandra · 31/12/2019 15:59

@Haffiana that’s a RTFT moment for you!

22Giraffes · 31/12/2019 16:01

You poor thing op, I have huge health anxiety specifically relating to threadworms and my mental health took a bad turn a couple of years ago when the kids got them. OCD combined with the anxiety meant I was scrubbing my hands raw like you are and exhausting myself cleaning beyond what was reasonable.

The fact your bf is doing nothing to support you and to help clear the infection is awful and you derseve a lot better. Wishing you all the best Flowers

xJodiex · 31/12/2019 16:03

Gross.

Mummyshark2019 · 31/12/2019 16:10

What a revolting man. He either gets medicated or find a new boyfriend for 2020

Muckycat · 31/12/2019 16:13

OP he sounds like an utter filthbag. I don't care whether threadworms are harmless, he should not be merrily spreading them around all over the place. Please do yourself a favour and find someone a bit less grim. Even if he takes the liquid now, his attitude hitherto would give me the ick irreversibly.

SleepWarrior · 31/12/2019 16:14

You are not compatible at all.

Being a bit iffy with hygiene and deciding to pass on a non-essential medication is hardly the worst crime in the world, but it is very much a personal choice in your own home, not an OK thing to take to someone else's house and inflict on them.

pallisers · 31/12/2019 16:14

I'd be gone personally. I couldn't feel the same about him no matter if he reluctantly agreed to take liquid medicine. grim.

GladAllOver · 31/12/2019 16:17

He sounds an all round dirty fucker. I wouldn't let him into my house let alone my bed.

Designerenvy · 31/12/2019 16:19

Get the liquid form. He treats himself or you dump him....simple as . He is being vile .

LemonPrism · 31/12/2019 16:26

I mean I don't think you can blame your boyfriend for you having threadworms even if his young brother may be the source (I had them at uni once where there were no kids involved at all). I always felt the itching though...

If he has never sought treatment though he needs to have the liquid even if he mixes the dose with water to thin it down.

Groovinpeanut · 31/12/2019 16:29

Ewwww no... Just no.Crown Shock