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BF infected me and won’t do anything about it

118 replies

jackwhitehallsdad · 31/12/2019 13:23

Found out I have threadworms, for the first time ever. I have OCD about hand washing and hygiene so I was shocked I’d picked them up as I’m scrupulous about personal and home hygiene. My BF has a six year old brother and naturally came to the conclusion he is the source of the infection as primary schools are obviously germ central Confused

Asked BF about it and he said he’s had them a few times. The crux of the issue is he can’t swallow tablets as he hates the texture/sensation. So he’s never took Ovex etc, and as adults usually don’t feel the itching etc, it’s likely he has them. I’m distraught as this has made my anxiety and OCD flare up, I’m washing my hands 100+ times a day and they’re bleeding and sore and I’m furious BF won’t do anything.

AIBU to tell him he has to take the medicine (liquid version) as he will constantly reinfect me?

OP posts:
Minky35 · 31/12/2019 13:52

Gross, what a baby! He needs to shape up and take the pill / liquid FFS!
I couldn’t be around someone like this.

Jux · 31/12/2019 13:54

He's a tosser. Toss him out the window.

Drabarni · 31/12/2019 13:56

He hates the texture, diddums.
Ew he sounds skanky, not treating them, and to infect you, too.
Is there some reason he isn't an ex skank?

JinglingHellsBells · 31/12/2019 13:58

How old is your boyfriend?

Does he live at home with his parents and brother?

The point is, even if he takes the tablet, it won't necessarily cure the issue. The whole house will need cleaning and the whole family- parents - treating. These are the instructions with Ovex.

The eggs live on bedding and in clothing and on dusty surfaces. Unless he deep cleans his entire house and his children are de-wormed regularly, anyone in contact with them is at risk of picking up worms.

You are being naive to think all he has to do is take one Ovex tab.

The tablets or liquid kill the worms he has but they will not kill the eggs that are in his home or on his kids' clothes and bedding. So he could easily be reinfected.

You need to calm down! Washing your hands all day long is not doing anything.

Are you being treated for your OCD because that is really more of an issue than some threadworms!

MalarkeyMouse · 31/12/2019 13:58

🤮

namechange1041 · 31/12/2019 13:59

Ew that's disgusting!
He doesn't wash his hands, continually gets threadworms, and he doesn't wear clean underwear?! Wtf?
I am the same as you about cleanliness etc but I know I'm not overreacting on this one.
How do you even let him near you? He sounds gross.

JinglingHellsBells · 31/12/2019 13:59

Sorry- at first I thought it was his child- not his brother.

So - as I said- this is an issue for his whole family, not just him.

PennyGold · 31/12/2019 14:00

That'd be it for me. I couldn't be with someone with bad hygiene, can you imagine what it'd be like living with him?!

JinglingHellsBells · 31/12/2019 14:00

I think a lot of posters are missing the fact the BF clearly lives at home with his parents and younger brother.

This is a family hygiene issue and unless the parents treat the 6 yr old properly and the whole family, no amount of hand washing or changing pants will work.

CoraPirbright · 31/12/2019 14:00

So lets see...

  • he cant swallow a teeny tiny tablet
  • knows there is liquid but cant be arsed to take it even though it is affecting his gf quite badly
  • has poor hygiene
  • sucks his thumb

What a prince among men! Seriously OP, do yourself a favour and ring in the new year with higher set of standards for your partner!

MyKingdomForBrie · 31/12/2019 14:01

Is this some kind of joke thread?! He's a grown adult who sucks his thumb, doesn't change his pants and won't swallow a tablet?!

BaronessBomburst · 31/12/2019 14:01

Dump him. There is no future with a man with such disgusting personal hygiene.

BloggersNetwork · 31/12/2019 14:02

OP seriously, what are his good points, I mean, why are you with this manchild?

JinglingHellsBells · 31/12/2019 14:02

@jackwhitehallsdad How old is he? His brother is 6 so your BF is still possibly quite young.

Tattooedmama · 31/12/2019 14:04

He sucks his thumb and dont change his underwear or clothes daily, refuses to take a tablet or any other form of medication to cure it Confused
Is this even an adult were talking about?

Original poster
jackwhitehallsdad · 31/12/2019 14:05

@MyKingdomForBrie - really wish it was a joke. If I was reading this I’d be perplexed too!

@JinglingHellsBells he’s 23, and still lives at home. So I know he’d have to get his parents and 3 siblings treated too. I imagine his lax hygiene and thumb sucking has been encouraged/ignored by their mum, so I’m guessing this is a battle I’m not going to win!

OP posts:
Bluerussian · 31/12/2019 14:05

Of course he has to take the liquid or else crushed tablets in a drink! He can't go around knowing he has threadworms, it's horrible.

" He’s a bit rubbish on hand washing and is also a thumb sucker at night, and when he stays over doesn’t always remember clean underwear/clothes for the next day. "

What on earth are you doing with this manchild? Or is it a wind up?

Jaxhog · 31/12/2019 14:06

Yanbum. He gets treated or dumped

This.

SophieSong · 31/12/2019 14:06

I can totally understand why this is making your OCD worse - I have nothing like that and just reading your post makes me want to go and shower.

Imfoaming · 31/12/2019 14:07

I thought this "Thread" was going to be about chlamydia or HIV...thread worms are very common once you've treated yourself try keeping your nails as short as short can be (so you cant see any white at the end of the nail) forever and I bet you dont get them again.

HowDoIhelp321 · 31/12/2019 14:09

He sucks his thumb, doesn't wash his hands, lives with his parents and has worms.

What a catch!!

T0tallyFuckedUpFamily · 31/12/2019 14:10

Can you imagine having a child with this filthy beast. If his family have the same attitude your child could end up being reinfected with nits, worms, etc. 🤢

Ellisandra · 31/12/2019 14:10

You are a fool for not dumping him.

If he said, “Look - I’ve taken the liquid as I hate tablets, but I need to warn you that I can’t make my family eradicate this.” then I might stay with him.

But this arsehole thinks it’s OK to leave you washing your hands 100x a day until they bleed without even making a show of taking a spoonful of liquid?

He doesn’t give a shit about you. Why would you stay with him?

TryingToBeBold · 31/12/2019 14:11

I'd dump him just based on him being a thumb sucker and being unable to change his underwear.

He lives with his parents for now... but when he lives with you.. could you live with that!?

Adelais · 31/12/2019 14:11

Ew do the threadworms not bother him at all?!

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