To not let me DPs family look after our kids

[An0nym0us2011]

Me and DP getting married in a few weeks, only us & witnesses. Because of his family.

They smoke weed around the kids, have ago & are ridicule me for not giving them pop ( coke, Dr pepper etc) and chocolate because they're 2 and the other 9 months.
Like always drop comments like, "well when I get to look after you and your mums not about I'm gonna give you all that kinda stuff"...

They taught another family child to say things like "daddy is a dickhead" and to roll cigs.

I'm talking every single family member is like this.

My mum is my only family and she's away in Florida.
Iv suggested we get hire a baby sitter (obviously meetings prior) and DP is refusing and said we can just give the kids to his family.
This means over night at our house. However they're incapable of giving proper meals, so both children wouldn't be fed properly. E.g. just a packet of crisps and some toast.

I might sound like I'm over reacting but they're literally the family from hell.

aibu? Do I just give in? They've never had in supervised contact

Such a drama. Your sister can have them during the ceremony.
Then when your mum is home you can go away for a couple of nights then.

The witness BiL - is that the one you were going to report to the police for fraud?

Such snobby opinions on here. Calling people “scum” because they drink fizzy drinks and swear. How middle class is this thread.

So you think the majority of working class parents would be perfectly happy to leave their kids with people who would use drugs in front of the DC, teach them to call people "dickheads" and feed their 9 month old baby Dr Pepper? How insulting. I come from a working class background and no one in my family would think these things were acceptable.

You'll just have to go home and have a normal evening with the kids we spent our wedding night with all three of our kids in our bed watching Harry Potter. Not the traditional wedding night but we chose to have kids before we got married so things weren't exactly going to follow tradition anyway..

with people who would use drugs in front of the DC

OP said weed, not crack cocaine! Plenty of well to do people do a bit of weed from time to time, it’s probably less distasteful even than smoking now. Very OTT to brand people scum and go NC for doing a bit of weed and drinking fizzy pop.

They're scum @busybarbara smoking weed around small children, teaching them horrible things to say, roll cigarettes is scummy and that's being nice.

You've very low standards if you think those things are socially acceptable and in any way normal.