To be so embarrassed

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DP and myself were having a small argument on Xmas eve day about how much we had spent on the kids. I accidentally rang the police from my pocket and they came round due to hearing us arguing. They said it was due to them having no response on the phone and believed it to be a DV call.
They came round and took us into seperate room and asked us questions. We all laughed about it in the end but they did say it would have to go to social care as kids involved but the most we would probably get was a phone call. So embarrassed that this has happened.
Worse still, we knew the police officers through work.

Molly I worked a lot over Christmas too. What’s your point?

OP the police walked into your bathroom and saw you naked?!

Errrr.....WHAT!?

I think what surprises me is that the police now apparantly report you to social services for nothing more than a pocket call, when it's clear no domestic and they laugh about it.

Things have changed from twenty years ago when my daughter called them as a toddler and no one reported anyone to social services.

All I can say is social services must be getting royally fucked off wirh dropped call referrals...

Op, sorry, now it's went from a small argument no one could hear to a heated one? A bit like how it went from a pocket call to one you made when messing with it?

I think you need to try to remember what actually happened before social services cqll

No he nearly did. DP told the police officer I was upstairs. I was just getting in the shower and hadn't heard what DP said properly so I went out the door. Thankfully I saw and put my dressing gown on.

I said heated discussion/argument.

@Bluntness100 the reason they have to inform social care as it was a suspected domestic.

Both DP and I said the same thing. So it wasn't made up. We were both consistent.

Don't believe me. I know it's he truth.

Call log is attached and where they tried to call me back too.

Oh my gosh, I know how you feel about ringing the police by mistake. Once, I had my phone in my bra (stupid idea) and I was chatting away in the car with my cousin and my aunt, and my aunt screamed so loud it was deafening. My cousin and I were winding her up (saying it was super melodramatic and a bit OTT haha). All the time, I had accidentally dialled 999 and the police were on the other end tracing my call. When we stopped talking about my aunties sneeze, I heard people talking and realised what had happened. Had to pass my phone to my aunt to clarify that she wasn’t screaming, but sneezed so loud and we were taking the mick!

It's definitely very easy to accidentally call emergency services on iPhones! I once had my phone (screen up) in my shopping trolley going round the supermarket and piled stuff on top of it without thinking. Next thing I know I hear my phone ringing and it's the police saying they'd received a call to 999 from me but there was no response. I profusely apologised and they assured me it was no problem as it happened all the time. They took my details to log anyway as it's protocol apparently.

Glad to hear your local service are so proactive OP!

@JBCG really is reassuring isn't it. So many women I come across in my line of work are DV victims. This is something I am definitely going to pass onto them.

Oops not screamed, she sneezed so loud it was like she screamed ^

I'm not doubting accidental 999/112 calls are made and lots of couples argue but the fact that you made one while arguing with your DH is.....coincidental? Sorry.

Could maybe a neighbour have called too?

I'm amazed at all the posters putting two and two together and making 20 here. Police are following best practice and a should always inform social services if they are called out to a domestic abuse incident. Expect a call from a social worker soon who will probably just want to visit and see all is well

Definitely not a neighbour as we asked them if they'd heard us so we could apologise. They both said they heard nothing. They were all round for pizza last night.

Some complete know it alls on this thread

I've accidentally called 999 before so it can be done. Also I've just asked my aunt who is team leader of a MASH team and she says that certainly in her area, if there was a police call for DV where children were involved, a routine notification would be put into her team. It's not likely however that a thing would be done about it unless there was reason to believe that there were 'issues'

Do social services really have time to be calling round to everyone who's made an accidental call to the emergency services? Police call handlers are confirming that it happens with some regularity, so a hell of a lot of social workers' time must be wasted on this.
Also, it's very reassuring that the police have the time nowadays to be tracing mobiles and coming out to all these accidental calls. They didn't seem to have nearly as much time on their hands fifteen years ago when I lived with my violent brute of an ex-h.

There's another active thread where the OP is being advised that the police only have the resources to prioritise life and death situations due to cuts

If the police were satisfied that it was a genuine miscall and not a domestic incident then it would be re-coded and SS wouldn’t be informed. However if the officers were still of the opinion that it was a domestic incident then a referral will be sent.

Nicknacky so the OP's got nothing to worry about then? Given they were all laughing about this common mistake.

Sounds like they are still treating it a a domestic due to the argument but realistically not much will likely come of it.

But you don't "accidently" call the police. You got through to the emergency services operator who after listening to your call decided to inform the police who came round and separated you based on what the operator heard.

That sounds way more serious OP.

I hope it was a silly mistake I really do. I hope you're ok.

Social will get something called a Merlin report....you should definitely expect a call at least.