Mil says no tea in living room

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NC incase mil on here. No one is allowed to drink anything but water in mil's living room incase it gets spilled on the rug. To have a cup of tea I need to go downstairs to the kitchen to drink it. The rug isn't mega expensive or anything. I'm not overly clumsy. AIBU to think that's a bit silly? Do you allow your guests to drink tea infront of the telly or might it risk them ruining your rug?

@Fatted I'm the same. No one is allowed to eat on my sofa.

Ridiculous, my granny was like this and for what purpose really, yes she had beautiful carpets when she died!!

Maybe buy her a nest of tables for her birthday and some coasters.

Your are not UR OP

My mum has this rule. I just ignore it!

How fucking rude and disrespectful.

It's really grim and unwelcoming having a non liveable room. Come have a cup of tea at mine @LetUsHaveACupOfTea and you can chuck it over the floor if you really want to

We have dc, therefore we own a carper cleaner. It's not difficult, it is their home too, and frankly I knock my wine over more than they do.

It takes the edge off a nice family visit.if there are rules of the house.to be obeyed.

I went in some very fussy persons living room once, and the woman had about 40 coaster things all over the place..not just for drinks, but to put any objects on, as in phones or keys etc. She did not want any object on any of the basic furniture item surfaces.

Yes, it’s silly. But not respecting her wishes is sillier.

Her house her rules.

Just moved house and got my perfect sitting room with a beautiful buttercream carpet. Rules are clear drinks only, no food and only white or cream socks allowed. Over Christmas we've enjoyed TV with g&ts and champagne in there but nothing else. Hubby loves red wine and beer, I'll also have a red wine but that has to be drunk that in the media room. I waited years for my perfect room and no one is messing it.

Some people are just over the top about looking after furnishings, I on the other hand have a ridiculously thick white FLUFFY large rug and have spilt coffee on it, only to be washing it out, which took at least an hour !! But I love it, although it’s super high maintenance to keep it looking luxurious. It we eat and drink near it all the time.

Life’s too short to be so precious about materialist things.

Yes her house her rules but I bet she doesn't get many visitors just a lot of people laughing behind her back

That's a mean thing to say. I like her better than I like you.

You mention the kitchen is downstairs, there’s the possible spillage of tea on the way up to the living room too.

I think it's an odd rule, but it's her sofa, her carpet, and her house.
Tbh I'd be pleased to use it to my advantage. If I want to escape the general melee and boring telly and noisy kids for a cup of tea in peace, I can just retire to the kitchen without needing to make up my own excuse. Sounds bloody perfect to me.

Makes me think of 'Keeping Up Appearances'

@BackforGood I do feel comfortable in my home because I'm not worried about some idiot spilling tea on my sofa that I have just spent a small fortune on. They can eat and drink in my comfortable kitchen where I will join them. In 15 years time when it's old and knackered, I might change my mind.

I grew up in a house with a hoarder and let me tell you, that is not fun or relaxing at all. Unless you have experienced that, I don't think anyone can appreciate how much of a big deal it is to have a nice, clean home with nice clean things in it.

Her house, her rules. She's probably the only person in Britain who doesn't drink tea in their living room but that's by the by.

Silly rule but I would respect that but less visit since it would make me feel unwelcome.

Silly rule. Inhospitable. But it’s her house....

They can eat and drink in my comfortable kitchen where I will join them

See, I agree with this. I spent a lot of money to get really comfy dining chairs as I hate chairs that dig into the back of my legs (which are quite short). Tall people will have no empathy as their legs are long enough to more than touch the floor when they sit in an upright chair and will never experience the metal bar across the frontage which digs into the back of our shortie legs while our feets dangle.

I finally found some really comfy dining chairs, and while they cost a huge amount of money, they have a 25 year guarantee (which I probably don't!) and I take the greatest pleasure in sitting at my dining table in the most gratifying comfort, drinking tea.

If you drink tea in my house you must drink it in the kitchen. With me.
That's my rules.

she would hate us.chippy tea in there.very rarely tea on knees.big box of roses is sat on the coffee table.eaten in lounge.cups of tea.we are careful though and respectful.and dont spill.
reminds me a bit of my dad who would stand and watch you incase you dribble. "if you stand and watch me dad it makes me spill!" was a constant shriek from us all.and oh the satisfaction when it was him that upended his coffee.children 1 dad 0

has anyone mentioned the joe and rachel scene from friends yet though

It's a stupid rule (in my opinion) but nonetheless.... here house her rules.

Would you be unreasonable to visit less because of it? Yes. Just drink your tea in the kitchen.

It is quite normal in France to NOT eat/drink anywhere but the kitchen or dinning table. We also don't drink or eat all day long so such a rule would be the norm in France .

Reminds me of a past MIL, proud of her new furniture and carpets, all of it covered in see through plastic. Utterly bizarre. However, when in Rome.

White carpet?

Pathetic

It's terribly common to be so precious about the furniture.

Can you not go a few hours with out tea? That’s weird, like some sort of addict.

No food or drink allowed in any room of my house apart from kitchen, unless it’s me. If I ruin my own carpet or whatever that’s my own problem.